Children in every family, are carefully cared for by parents, when the child to kindergarten, is the first time he went out of the family into society, parents are of course very uneasy. Parents are worried that their children will be bullied, will be scolded by teachers, and worry about their children's personal safety.
Therefore, when the child goes to kindergarten, parents will take out their mobile phones from time to time to see the status of their children in the kindergarten. Although the current communication equipment is so developed, there are some "new types of violence" that parents can't see with cameras, and parents should pay more attention.
Linlin is a boy in the kindergarten class, particularly lively and active, and occasionally very mischievous, but the children are also particularly smart. The class teacher of Linlin's class often said to his mother: "This child alone can disrupt the whole class, and he alone is equivalent to bringing 10 children." "The mother can hear that the teacher is saying that the child is too naughty.
Linlin's mother also often tells her son not to fight with other children. However, the son came home twice with scars, obvious bites on his hands, and scratches on his face, which the child said was made by Pengpeng, a child in the class. However, the teacher did not tell the mother, and the mother did not have the good sense to ask, because she felt that her son was also naughty, so let it be done.
But, for the third time, Mom couldn't stand it anymore. The child came home at night with a bloodshot tooth mark on his arm. Linlin said that it was next to his little friend Pengpeng who was bitten. Mom asked, "Why didn't you tell the teacher?" Linlin said: "I told the teacher, the teacher did not criticize him, and said that I was too naughty, let me apologize to him." ”
The mother communicated with the teacher through WeChat, and also showed her the child's injury, and the teacher said that she had already dealt with this matter, and it was Linlin who hit Pengpeng first, so Linlin needed to apologize. Mom listened, felt even angrier, and asked the teacher to investigate the surveillance video.
As a result, Linlin was wronged, and her mother also heard that Pengpeng's parents seemed to be quite powerful people, and she decided to change her son to a kindergarten.
The child in the kindergarten stage is an important stage of healthy physical and mental growth, if the child suffers some unfair treatment in the kindergarten, it may cause serious psychological harm to the child.
Compared with teachers scolding children, some of the more secret "violence" is less likely to be discovered, and parents must be vigilant.
First, children are treated differently.
Everyone will have people they like and people they don't like, and the same is true for children, but teachers especially don't like a child, or especially like a child, which is not quite right. Children should be equal between each other and should not be affected by some adult factors.
If the teacher will treat the children in the class differently, the child who is wronged will be very hurt psychologically, feeling that he is not worthy of the love of the teacher, causing the child's psychological shadow.
Second, the child is labeled.
Every child is different, they all have their own characteristics, some are good, some are not good. If the child is mischievous, the teacher may not like him too much, but he cannot label the child as a more negative "label". For example, some teachers will push the responsibility to the more naughty children when they see a contradiction in the child, which is an invisible negative label.
Under the guidance of the teacher, the children will isolate such children more, resulting in more tense interpersonal relationships. Children themselves may also have the idea of self-abandonment, and it is more difficult for parents and teachers to manage.
Third, the child is ostracized by his peers.
Children's life and getting along in kindergarten or school are sometimes like the social relations of adults. Although children are relatively simple, some children will also have the behavior of gangs. Some children will target others and bully a person with their partners, such as: we are not allowed to play with him. Children are isolated and excluded, which will make school life difficult, and produce a psychology of boredom and even self-denial and closure.
The child has gone to kindergarten, leaving us, we can not accompany him at all times, how can parents help their children spend a pleasant kindergarten life?
First, parents communicate with their children and listen to their children's inner thoughts.
When the child comes home from the kindergarten, we parents should talk more with the child and understand whether the child's kindergarten life is smooth for a day. Parents can understand their children's inner thoughts in time in order to find problems, solve problems, and guide children to educate and protect children.
Second, parents communicate with teachers to understand their children's situation.
The teacher is the child's dependence in the kindergarten, and we must also communicate with the teacher more, and try to solve some of the child's problems together. A parent who actively cooperates with the teacher's work is a strong backing for the child.
Third, parents educate their children how to get along with others and protect themselves.
When children go out of the house, they must learn to get along with others and cannot be as willful as at home. We teach children to get along with others happily, which is the best protection for children, and we should also educate children about safety.
How to see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain. Children can not live under the wings of their parents all their lives, we protect children, but also willing to exercise children, I believe that he can step by step to independence.