The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
On the issue of the dowry, there has always been a lot of public opinion, some people believe that when a daughter gets married, in order to thank her parents, she should leave the dowry to improve the conditions of the original family, and some people believe that as a parent, loving the children should be the responsibility that should be fulfilled, and when the daughter is married, it is even more impossible to touch the dowry.
In fact, in real life, most parents are still relatively enlightened, and when their daughters get married, not only will they not leave the bride price at home, but they will also subsidize the dowry of the small family that will be established soon.
However, it is not excluded that some parents will keep their daughter's bride price for other purposes, such as as the bride price when their son gets married.
Based on this situation, as a married girl, the heart will naturally be very uncomfortable, especially after marrying into the in-laws, a small family without any start-up funds will be extremely difficult in the early stage, as a daughter, she will naturally feel very helpless about what her parents have done.
01 Fell in love for 3 years, and the 180,000 bride price became an insurmountable obstacle
Leaf is a husband hadron who met after graduation.
The two of them are employees of the same company, and later due to a chance, the two are responsible for the same project, and after the project is perfect, Ye Zi finds that he and hadron are quite close, and it just so happens that the hadron also has this feeling, and on the premise that neither of them has a partner, they are naturally together.
After being together, Ye Zi also has some understanding of the family situation of The Hadron, the old home of the Hadron is rural, and the parents do not have a fixed income, so as for the future of the two, they can only rely on themselves.
From the very beginning, Ye Zi clearly understood the meaning of her parents, who hoped that she could find a family with slightly better conditions and suffer less in the future.
Therefore, when her parents learned that Ye Zi had found a boyfriend with poor family conditions, the attitude of rejection was also expected by Ye Zi.
But fortunately, after the continuous persuasion of the leaf later, the parents finally agreed with the hadron.
However, when Qiangzi first came to Yezi's house, Yezi's parents directly stated that if you want to marry my daughter, the 180,000 dowry cannot be less than one point.
In the face of such strong parents, Ye Zi is obviously helpless on the side, and depending on the attitude of his parents, this 180,000 dowry must be taken out.
But for the hadron, he did not work for long, did not have much savings in his hands, and even if he turned to his parents, it was somewhat difficult.
In 2002, there was no dowry, and the bride price was used as a marriage for his younger brother
Fortunately, hadron and leaf did not give up on each other, and finally with the help of hadron's friends, they finally met the requirements of Leaf's parents, and also wanted to give the 180,000 dowry to Leaf's parents.
After the 180,000 dowry was in place, Yezi's parents decided to give their daughter Xu to Hadron.
In Ye Zi's impression, although he has a younger brother, but from childhood to adulthood, whether it is eaten or used, the two are basically the same, so even if it is the bride price that his parents have always insisted on, Ye Zi's initial fantasy is only a formality for his parents, and when he gets married, his parents will definitely let himself bring it back.
However, on the day of the marriage, Ye Zi's parents did not mention the bride price for a long time, and after the marriage was completed, Ye Zi returned to her in-laws with her hadron.
After returning home, the more Ye Zi thought about it, the more wrong she became, but at this time, there was only a trace of trust in her parents in her heart, fantasizing that maybe her parents had forgotten about it.
However, when Ye Zi took the initiative to ask about her parents, her parents wanted to stop talking many times before they said their true intentions.
It turned out that they were planning to use the dowry of the leaves as a son to marry.
03 There is no family affection to speak of
After learning of his parents' plan, Ye Zi was in a trance, he did not expect that this kind of thing would appear on his own, and his parents actually planned to take their own bride price to marry their brother and daughter-in-law.
But since his parents said so, Ye Zi could only hold all his grievances in his heart.
However, the current situation is that after Ye Zi got married, he faced a destitute family, and Ye Zi had no way to do anything.
So Ye Zi said to her parents: Mom, even if I borrow your line, right? Let's get through this period of time first, and we will definitely pay you back in the future.
Ye Zi had already spoken to this point, but his parents were still unmoved.
From this point on, Ye Zi understood that the feelings between himself and his parents for many years were completely broken with his marriage.
When Ye Zi returned home alone, it was very late, and Hadron was also very distressed to see his wife's appearance, and he said to his wife: Rest assured, everything has me.
Later, through the unremitting efforts of Hadron, the living conditions of this small family improved a lot, and the husband and wife also had a house of their own.
Since the last time she left her mother's house, Ye Zi has never returned to her mother's house for so many years, during this period, her parents also talked to Ye Zi on the phone, and at first her attitude was fine, and then she blamed Ye Zi for not going home.
To this Leaf replied: Why did my brother use my bride price when he got married? After Ye Zi's parents heard these words, they did not speak for a long time.
In fact, during this period, her husband also advised Ye Zi to go back to her mother's house to visit her, after all, her life is much better now. But Ye Zi said to her husband: I will not go back, my parents have almost no affection for me.
The hadron could not do anything about it.
Conclusion: In real life, there are many things because of the bride price, and there are very unpleasant things between daughters and parents, and even some daughters never return to their mother's home after marriage, so, based on this, parents should fulfill their share of responsibility when their children get married, and they cannot let many years of family affection be ruined because of greed for a temporary cheapness.