Turn your face when you should turn your face, and don't be afraid to offend people

There is a question on the knowing, from what moment did you decide not to be kind anymore?

I particularly like one answer:

"In fact, I never decided not to be kind anymore, but I just decided not to be kind to anyone anymore."

It is undeniable that in this world, kindness is the most basic criterion for being a human being.

But we must also understand that not all people in the world deserve to be treated with kindness.

Treating those who are not worthy, blindly showing kindness, will only make you suffer in the end, and even drag you to hell.

The Big Bang Theory says:

"You're so kind, the world will chew you to the bone."

Kindness can be, but kindness must be a little sharp, for the following three kinds of people, the one who should turn his face must turn his face.

People who deliberately bully you

The movie "The Blacklist" has a line:

"Why would others dare to do bad things to you?" It's because you make people feel like doing bad things on you can do it at no cost. ”

In life, there are always some such people, they are sheep, but also fierce beasts.

When they encounter those who are fiercer than them, they are sheep; when they encounter those who are weaker than them, they show the claws of the beast.

If you repeatedly tolerate such people, it will only make them more arrogant, and eventually it will bring you endless troubles.

In the TV series "I Am Yu Huanshui", at the beginning, Yu Huanshui was a typical timid and fearful person.

The leader put on his small shoes and he swallowed his anger; his colleagues bullied him, he silently endured the rest of the people; the brother-in-law taunted him, he did not dare to refute...

In this way, his tolerance is not to be treated well, but to be more bullied.

And later, when he thought he was terminally ill, he came back to life completely, and whoever bullied him turned his face to whomever he wanted.

Eventually, his turn of the other cheek gave him the respect he had never received before.

Yu Hua said:

"When I treated the world fiercely, the world suddenly became gentle."

In this world, there will always be some people who bully the soft and fear the hard.

They don't accept it at all, but the more you show weakness, the more they think you are a bully, and the more they want to find superiority in the process of bullying you.

The kinder you are to such people, the more unscrupulous they will be, and only when you turn your face viciously can they stop, and you can live comfortably.

The one who gets in the way

Saying goes:

"Sheng Mien, Dou Mi Vengeance."

In life, there will be many people who understand the Entu newspaper, and of course, there will be some people who will feel taken for granted after accepting the favor of others.

In their hearts, if you help me once, you should help me twice; if you give me the benefit of raising rice, then you should also give me rice if I want to fight with you.

Once you don't agree to their request, then they don't think it's your duty and tend to hold a grudge.

I have seen such a story on the Internet:

A young man who had a distant relative who came to work in his city felt like he was a relative, so he let the relative live in his other vacant house.

In this way, for half a year, his relatives never took the initiative to give him a penny of rent, and he did not take the initiative to mention it.

In his heart, the house is idle anyway, and it is also a human feeling to live for relatives.

But later, when he was tight on money and wanted to sell the vacant house, his relatives refused to leave.

And wanted to buy his house at a price well below the market price.

Of course, he would not agree to this, but because of the face of his relatives, he still rented another house for his relatives and paid the rent for half a year.

But this relative not only did not accept his affection, but turned around and said bad things about him everywhere! For a long time, he was subjected to cold words.

There is a sentence in the movie "The Godfather":

"Softness without boundaries will only allow the other party to gain inches; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants."

Treating people who are inching forward is simply not worth treating with kindness.

Only when you turn your face early and break off the relationship can you feel comfortable early.

People who always slander you

Living in this world, maybe we all want to exchange sincerity for sincerity, thinking about not thinking too badly of others.

But there is always a category of people who are bad enough to subvert our cognition, and they will get used to slandering others and doing things that harm others and harm themselves.

My friend Hadron told me about his experience.

When he first joined the workforce, there was a colleague who was always smiling and gentle in front of him.

At that time, he thought that this person had a good personality, and he also wanted to be able to make friends with him.

However, later he found out that he always said bad things about him behind his back, not that he relied on the company he had entered, or that he worked in front of the leaders.

At first, he thought about putting up with it, anyway, he was not afraid of the shadow oblique.

However, for the hadron's tolerance, this colleague not only did not converge, but the rumors about the more bizarre hadron spread from the mouth of this colleague one after another.

In the end, the hadron couldn't bear it, and in front of all the colleagues in the company, he broke out and completely turned his face with this colleague.

After that, the colleague stopped and converged.

Cai Kangyong said:

"I went along the road and got seven smiles and three white eyes, and I responded with seventy percent of my strength to smile, and thirty percent of my strength to respond to white eyes."

In getting along with people, you should not be too good to bad people, because every time you tolerate it, you are actually reducing the cost of him hurting you.

When you keep giving in, you will eventually find that your life will be disturbed by these people.

Only when you turn your face in time can the other party understand your bottom line and dare not cross the line.

Writer Lin Yihan said:

"Patience is not a virtue, treating patience as a virtue is the way this hypocritical world maintains its distorted order, and anger is the virtue."

Only by knowing how to lose their temper can we defend our rights and repel those who want to hurt and break our lives.

The rest of your life is long, let the kindness bring a little sharpness.

Thus, in order not to be unworthy people, ruin the beauty of their own lives.

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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.