Once "All Is Good" just started to be popular, colleagues recommended this drama to me.
At that time, colleagues described Su Mingzhe and Su Mingcheng as follows:
Su Mingzhe is good to everyone, but not good to his wife.
Su Mingcheng is just the opposite, not good for everyone, is good for his wife.
I joked after listening: If I had to choose one of the two, I would choose Su Mingcheng.
Unexpectedly, the company's female colleagues have echoed, saying that if you have to choose one of these 2, you will definitely choose Su Mingcheng.
1
Objectively compared, Su Mingzhe is a highly educated and high-income golden-collar turtle.
Su Mingcheng, on the other hand, is almost useless except for the fact that he can chew on the old man.
Why did female colleagues choose Su Mingcheng one-sidedly?
Let's take a look at what Su Mingzhe has done.
Obviously, he was unemployed, and he also had to punch his swollen face and be fat to take his father to the United States.
His family's life is almost a problem, and he insists on helping Su Father buy millions of three-bedroom apartments.
When his wife Wu Fei objected.
He went so far as to say, "You are the most important person in my life, so I think you should suffer with me." ”
I was really angry and laughing when I saw this.
To be your daughter-in-law is to suffer? Does your daughter-in-law owe you?
Wu Fei was forced to be anxious, so he said, you buy a house for your father, do you buy a house for my mother? How capable are we to do more than big things?
Su Mingzhe offered his golden sentence again, you disappointed me too much, and said that even if he borrowed usurious loans, he would help his father buy a house.
In Su Mingzhe's concept, the lives of wives and daughters are not as important as their own "face".
With all due respect, I have great sympathy for Wu Fei. Married to such a man.
If a man filial piety to his parents at the cost of making his wife and children suffer, is he really filial piety? Or is it to fulfill the reputation and face of his "filial piety"?
2
My friend Liu Hong's husband is a man who is good to everyone.
It caused Liu Hong a headache.
When Liu Hong was with her husband, the picture was that he was very considerate and on call.
Unexpectedly, after being together for a long time, Liu Hong found that her husband Qiangzi was actually on call to everyone.
For this reason, the two did not quarrel less.
Soon after Hadron worked, the family helped him buy a car. And most of Hadron's friends don't have cars.
So the hadron became a free driver for his friends.
To what extent?
Obviously a taxi can solve the problem, the friend has to take a detour to pick up.
This kind of unreasonable demand could have been resolutely rejected, but the hadron was responsive.
I'd rather take time off to delay work than to "help a friend."
After a long time, he left the impression of "unreliable" to the boss, and important work was not entrusted to him.
This led to Hadron staying in a company for 5 years, and the colleagues he used to work with were all promoted. Only hadrons, or a small employee.
Every time Liu Hong talks to me about this matter, she is very annoyed.
The hadron may be a righteous friend, but he may not be a good husband.
A person's energy is limited, and it is necessary to distinguish the priorities of things and the distance and closeness of the relationship.
Instead of being like a hadron, for the sake of the righteousness between friends, it should not affect their careers and marriages.
3
There is a kind of man who is more excessive than Su Mingzhe and hadrons.
I have a neighbor for many years, Uncle Da.
Uncle Da is an "honest man" with a well-known reputation in all four miles and eight townships.
He is kind and kind, always smiling and squinting when he sees people, and speaking softly.
When neighbors mention him, they all say that he is honest and generous.
My mother used to walk around with Aunt Da, and accidentally learned the true face of the "good man" that the neighbor praised.
"You didn't see how loud your uncle yelled at your aunt at home!" My mom said so.
Uncle Da is polite to outsiders, but he yells at his wife at home.
Aunt Da paid for a new dress, and he had to shake his face.
Only when he saw Aunt Da busy working in dirty old clothes would his heart be comfortable.
Aunt Da was full of grievances, accumulated over time, and held out mental illness. Every three to five years, he will be hospitalized, and the hospitalization fee and treatment fee will cost Uncle Da's flesh pain.
But he never knew why his wife was mentally ill, only when his wife was pretentious and did a lot of things.
4
Su Mingzhe, Qiangzi, and Uncle Da may not know that their wives are their most important relatives.
But it's one thing to know, it's another thing to act.
Su Mingzhe chose to sacrifice the quality of life of his wife and children to win a false name of "filial piety".
Hadron sacrificed his career and time with his wife to win a praise for his "righteousness".
Uncle Da left the worst side to his wife to win an "honest" evaluation.
But are these things really important?
When you're too old to move, who can help you hand you a cup of hot tea?
On a cold winter night, who can help you tuck the quilt horns?
Who accompanies you through your youth and towards old age?
This person is not your parent, not your children, not your friends, not your neighbors.
This man is your wife!
People who are good to their wives will naturally be respected.
Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said a very classic sentence:
When you put down your face and be good to your wife, it means that you have become a real man.
When you give your wife face, it means that you have succeeded.
When your wife will give you face at any time, it means that you are already a character.
When you are still there selfish, playing tricks, playing uncles, asking your wife to serve, you can't give your wife anything, you only know how to be self-centered, it means that your life is like this.
Being good to the wife is definitely not afraid of the wife, on the contrary, the men who are good to the wife are all wise men.
Even the most self-centered Westerners have this proverb: "Happy life, happy life." (Wife happy, happy life)
With all due respect, men who are bad for their wives have brain diseases.
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