Author: Lawyer Yu Chundi, lawyer of Guangzhou marriage lawyer Wang Youbai team
A few days ago, a case was successfully closed, helping the client win the only marital property and an additional compensation of more than 300,000 yuan. At the beginning of this case, we sued as the plaintiff, then withdrew the lawsuit in the middle, and then the man sued as the plaintiff, and we responded to the lawsuit back and forth for several rounds, which lasted for nearly two years. I have also witnessed clients slowly transform from former housewives to working women now.
In the past two years, because of the communication cases, clients have been interviewed at the law firm one after another, and every time they meet, they feel that her state is getting better and better, and the relationship between her and me has slowly changed from a principal-agent relationship to a friend relationship.
Once she was an ordinary housewife that we see in our daily lives: just came out of social work and met her current husband, both parties fell in love to register marriage to pregnancy and have children, after pregnancy, they resigned to raise a baby at home, and after giving birth to a child, they wholeheartedly took care of their husband and the whole family. With the second child born in succession, she is even more unlikely to leave the family and go out to work, and can only always focus on her children and husband. Slowly the eldest son will soon turn 10 years old, the younger son will also be 7 years old, in these years the man has never attended a parent-teacher meeting of the child, nor has he spent time with her and her two children to play outside, not to mention travel, which requires a lot of time and energy. I don't even know if my child has a fever or a cold, let alone what two children like. Every time I come home from work, I only care about playing with my mobile phone, which is completely ten fingers and no housework. Even so, the woman never suspected the man's infidelity, after all, he went home almost every day.
Until once the child accidentally saw that the man's mobile phone had an intimate photo with the opposite sex and a photo of a little sister, he secretly showed it to the woman. The woman has left a heart eye since then, and after a period of investigation, it was found that the man actually had a 3-year-old illegitimate daughter outside the house, and would sneak to "another home" every day at noon. Although the woman was a housewife, she was also smart, and although she was angry and sad when she found these things, she immediately took pictures and left all the evidence. Afterwards, there was a showdown with his husband, and the man was also the same as the usual TV series, saying that he was wrong at the beginning, but only made a mistake that men all over the world will make, so that the woman forgave him and completely admitted his extramarital affair. During the entire showdown, the woman also left an extra heart eye to record the sound. After the showdown, the woman discovers that the man does not actually admit his mistake, but wants to have two homes at the same time.
Thinking of this, the female convenience came directly to find a lawyer!
Back when the woman first came to the law firm to find me, the whole person was very haggard, looking more than ten years older than her real age. As soon as she opened her mouth, she said that I must help her, she wanted to fight for the custody of her two children, and she wanted the man to get the legal punishment he deserved. After some communication, she was given professional legal advice and guided her to go back to collect evidence, and also let her put her mind at ease and plan for herself.
When I first asked her to meet and communicate with her in court, I found that her whole person was much better than before, and a smile began to appear on her face. She said that she has now found a job, although the salary is not high, but the people in the company treat her well, and the two sons encourage and support her, so she no longer wants to just circle around the pots and pans like before.
Later, because in the process of litigation, the man was willing to sign a marital property agreement and agreed that the property would belong to the woman, so the woman temporarily withdrew the lawsuit. Until the man sued her again as the plaintiff, she came to me again.
When I saw her again, her whole mind about the divorce case was different, and she would not say again: Lawyer Yu, you must help me win something..... I don't want to let go of that scumbag's words like that. The whole mentality is particularly good, and I don't need too much pressure, try my best to fight. Later, during the conversation, I learned that she changed her job again, because her previous education was not bad and she had the help of her friends and girlfriends, and now her salary was higher than that of the man, and she did not worry about the pressure of life at all. The whole person also shines with a different style, and there is confidence between speech and demeanor, which is far from the way they looked when they first met!
Afterwards, because she trusted me more, worked well with each other, and was very satisfied with the final result of the case, I believe that she will get better and better after the divorce.
Through the above story, I want to express the meaning is not that being a housewife is not good, but that I hope that everyone will be a housewife with independent thoughts, rather than relying on her husband and children wholeheartedly. In fact, most women have a decent education and work before becoming housewives, and she bends down to take care of children and families in the family, just because she loves this family deeply and is willing to sacrifice for it.
And we ordinary people should not think that being a housewife is very relaxed and leisurely, and there is no need to crawl in society, but only need to be responsible for the pots and pans at home. In fact, the pressure that a housewife needs to bear is no smaller than in society and the workplace, she needs to be responsible for taking care of the whole family, responsible for taking care of the emotions of in-laws and husbands, responsible for taking care of the child's body, learning, life and other aspects, but also responsible for the orderly handling of everything in the family, these tangible pressures and invisible pressures are all pressed on this housewife. In addition, while taking care of everything in the family, she also needs to worry about whether her husband will get out of the house and whether he will abandon the family and so on.
I believe that every woman who can be a housewife is not born a housewife, since she can be willing to stay at home for love, teach her children, take care of the family wholeheartedly, and return to the workplace for herself, be a spirited and confident workplace woman!