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A full-time housewife is one of the least cost-effective jobs because she has both contributed and not been flattered.
You are busy jumping up and down, gray nose and dirty face, in the eyes of others is a blessed young grandmother.
Is this a new century's Dou E's grievance?
Next, the heroine in the case is in the life of a full-time housewife, tired and in tears.
On the eve of the New Year, Cai Xiaoran left his son who was still swaddled and quickly drove away from the community with tears in his eyes.
At this time, her husband, Zhou Limin, was gasping for breath and crossed his waist downstairs to watch his wife run.
I stood in the cold wind for several minutes before I dragged my shoes back home.
Before entering the door, the baby in the family was crying and crying, and the noise was disturbing.
As soon as he opened the door, he saw zhou Limin's mother's expectant eyes, and he looked at it and said weakly: "Run, didn't catch up." ”
Zhou Limin's mother slapped her face loudly and said, "Oh, how good is this..."
A family made such a fuss, in the end it was caused by a circle of friends, which had to start from these two mouths.
Cai Xiaoran and her husband Zhou Limin were married three years ago.
At that time, Cai Xiaoran was the head of the department of a small company, and his income was more than six thousand.
And her husband, Zhou Limin, is a manager of a large company, and his income is not bad, with an income of nearly 200,000 yuan a year.
The structure of strong men and weak women makes the days between husband and wife still very sweet.
Xiao Ran's work is still quite idle, unlike her husband's overtime business trips are commonplace.
So after Xiao Ran got married, he was responsible for the family's miscellaneous expenses and cleaning up the housework, and tried to let her husband come back from outside to eat hot food.
Such a virtuous wife made Zhou Limin very satisfied. Until his wife was pregnant, it made him even happier that he couldn't find the north.
His wife was pregnant, which was a great joy in the family, and he called his mother as soon as possible, and then told his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
The two old men saw that they were going to hold their grandchildren, and they were happy not to do it, and one after the other came to the home of the two small families.
Xiao Ran's parents bought a lot of things that their daughter loved to eat, and they kept asking about their daughter's physical condition.
Compared with this little baby, their daughter's physical condition is more concerned.
And the mother-in-law kept asking them whether the child was male or female.
The old lady originally lived separately from her daughter-in-law and came once a week to deliver some food. Now that the daughter-in-law is pregnant, she runs more diligently.
A few months passed quickly, and Xiao Ran successfully gave birth to a baby boy.
This next week Limin can be regarded as a wish, looking at the small version of himself, how can not love enough.
For the sake of his son, Zhou Limin and his wife suggested that she not go to work as soon as she was out of the month, and that she should be a full-time housewife at home to take care of the baby.
He also gave his wife a card, promising that he would redouble his efforts to make money in the future and give them mother and son flowers.
Xiao Ran was amused at once, accepted her husband's proposal, resigned and took the baby at home.
Although the baby is small, there are still many things in a day.
Feed the milk and change the diaper, hiccup and do the exhaust exercise. She can only take a break and do her own thing while the child is sleeping.
And the husband became more and more busy, often coming home at nearly twelve o'clock in the evening, taking off his shoes and going to the guest room to sleep upside down.
Sometimes she wanted to talk to her husband and couldn't find the opportunity, and unconsciously, the distance between the two people slowly became farther.
Fatigue and the weakening of the husband and wife's feelings are not Xiao Ran's biggest headache, the most troublesome thing is her old woman.
The mother-in-law comes to her daughter-in-law's house twice every other week to see if the grandson can deliver some food.
Since the daughter-in-law did not go to work, the mother-in-law's face has become more and more ugly every time.
I always feel that my daughter-in-law is now an idle person, and it is particularly annoying to spend money without making money.
This year's New Year because of the baby, Xiao Ran alone can not be busy, the mother-in-law will come together to help the New Year.
Chinese New Year's Eve mother-in-law arrived a few days ago, but she didn't see her son come home for several days.
Knowing that her son had been busy with work could make her heart ache. Look at the daughter-in-law idle at home, the gas will not come out.
In order to vent her anger, she not only did not do any housework, but instead drank at home to let her daughter-in-law work.
After coaxing the child to do housework, after doing housework, he was also picked, and Xiao Ran, who was tossed by his mother-in-law, finally chose to be patient.
As a result, by the evening, the circle of friends that broke out of contradictions was about to appear.
Xiao Ran coaxed the baby to sleep while flipping through the circle of friends. Only to see the mother-in-law sent a circle of friends, the picture is the picture of dinner, with the words are: dinner at the son's house.
There are two comments below, one is Xiao Ran's in-laws relative who also added a friend, she commented that the mother-in-law is blessed, and the daughter-in-law is too happy to be served.
But the mother-in-law actually replied: "Oh, it is not so blessed." My daughter-in-law can't do anything, and she is still waiting for my old wife to serve. ”
This upside-down black and white comment completely made Xiao Ran anxious and never slept.
It wasn't until it was almost twelve o'clock that the husband returned. She lifted the quilt and complained to her husband: "Limin, look at the circle of friends sent by your mother, isn't this nonsense, do I have to be slandered by others so hard every day?" ”
But the husband said with a look of incredulity: "Talk about this when you don't sleep at night?" You say you're busy with something, I'm really busy waist can't straighten up, you and my mother can't be good! And the slander, you're talking too hard. ”
Xiao Ran was anxious and angry, and asked him loudly: "Then you don't care, let me be bullied by your mother!" I don't go to work and I don't like it every day! ”
Zhou Limin also became more and more angry the more he listened, and at this time the child was also woken up. She told Xiao Ran to shut up quickly, and then turned around and went to the living room.
Xiao Ran quickly took something with tears in his eyes, put on his clothes and took the car keys and ran.
The husband saw this posture in the living room and hurried out, but he still did not catch up.
As soon as Xiao Ran entered the door of her mother's house, she was shocked by how her daughter ran back alone on the big night.
She kept in tears, intermittently told her parents: "Mother-in-law came to the New Year, after watching the mother-in-law's circle of friends, I drove back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year, she was too bullying." ”
The parents were busy comforting their daughters, and it took half a day to see the circle of friends, and then Xiao Ran's mother's face darkened.
She said angrily, "Xiao Ran, you are not allowed to go back, you must let your mother-in-law come to the door to apologize!" A lot of years old still sing with me here, I really think that there is no one in our mother's family! ”
Sure enough, the mother-in-law couldn't hold back the next night, watching the messy children in the family cry all day, and quickly asked the son to bring his daughter-in-law back.
However, before he could enter the door, he was chased away by Xiao Ran's mother, and said that it was not good for the old lady not to come!
After the mother-in-law knew, on the third morning, she personally came to the door to speak and took it soft. Xiao Ran's mother was relieved and allowed her daughter to return to her in-laws' house.
After returning home, Xiao Ran's life returned to calm, and she also sincerely thanked her mother for letting her have a solid mother's family to rely on.
And she is also ready to return to the workplace in the near future, leaving the ranks of full-time housewives.
Although Xiao Ran in the case was wronged, it was good that the powerful mother's family helped her decide. This also tells us that women should understand the following two truths after marriage.
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One: The mother's family is the woman's biggest confidence in the in-laws' family.
A strong mother's family is the biggest confidence of a woman after marriage.
Because even if your husband loves you, it is difficult to fight with his mother.
And even if your child helps you, there is no deterrent because the weight is not enough.
But the mother's family is different, and her own mother can make a big fuss when her daughter is wronged and make trouble in the in-laws' house.
His own father can give his son-in-law a stinky face and let him know how bad it is.
And the brothers and sisters of the mother's family can also directly shoot and help you support the waist pole.
If the person who bullied you saw the group of people behind you, I was afraid that I should not regret it in the first place.
Dealing with in-laws who love to bully people, money and patience are stupid ways.
If you have a reliable domineering mother-in-law.
Then don't worry, because the wicked want the wicked to grind.
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Two: Women should never give up their right to earn money.
As the saying goes: eat people with short mouths, and take people softly.
Without making money, the waist is soft.
If your husband snubs you, you don't have the courage to talk to you.
The mother-in-law shakes her eyes, you don't dare to be dissatisfied and don't dare to fight back.
Therefore, women after marriage try not to give up on making money on their own.
After all, whoever has it is not as good as their own.
If you need to be at home temporarily for special reasons.
That is also to return to society in time after the end.
Being out of society will also reduce the weight you have in your husband's heart.
And the lack of financial independence will also make him no longer nervous about you.
Over time, you lose not only the ability to work, but also the respect your family has for you.
Sometimes a simple job isn't for that little salary.
What is important is a recognition of self-worth.
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Every woman has to know that there is no really friendly in-law.
Your status and respect depend on your own strength.
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