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The relationship between people is actually very easy to break, there is no indestructible in our imagination, think carefully about the way, how many people who once thought they would go for a lifetime, and finally drifted away? How many loves that thought they would not be broken, but finally saw it slowly shatter, and only nothingness remained in their hands.
Even kinship and blood relations can easily split. Once two small no guess, accompanied by each other for the longest time, although it is easy to have conflicts at that time, but the heart will not remember the revenge at all, one second is still making a big fuss, the next second has been reconciled.
Brothers and sisters should have been the closest people in the world, parents gave us blood relations, they were involved with each other, there are many words that can not be said to parents, but can communicate with brothers and sisters.
I once thought that we could support each other and support each other for a lifetime, of course, this is also the original intention of parents, if one day parents leave, I hope that children can help each other and get along harmoniously.
The intention is good, but no one can predict what will happen next. It is also easy for brothers and sisters to form a grudge because of some conflicts of interest.
Some people have complained because their parents are biased, some people have completely cut off contacts because of partnership business and uneven distribution, and the relationship between brothers and sisters is also fragile and easy to get into revenge.
If it is a colleague, it can be said that the relationship is broken, and the blood relationship between the family cannot be separated after all. If one day there is a vendetta between brothers and sisters, it is better to do so.
Keep your distance and live your own little life
Any relationship needs to maintain distance, whether it is a relative or a close friend, it needs to uphold this standard to maximize the preservation of the relationship.
Especially when the relationship between each other has been cracked, it is more necessary to stay away from each other as much as possible, and not always mix together.
Some people have to get together because they have common relatives or friends, because of some occasions, "the enemy is extremely red when they see each other", no one will let each other, and even in front of outsiders, there will be a fierce collision, the so-called teaching ugliness can not be publicized, most people are watching your jokes behind your back. Even if there is a great vendetta, there is no need to publicize it loudly, just know each other.
There are also some people, because of disputes between each other, will infinitely magnify this dissatisfaction, interfere with their relationship with others, say bad things about each other behind their backs, and tell unrelated people about their hatred between them.
Maybe you are just in the angry head, and when the anger is gone, you will be reconciled, but once there are more people who know, there will be more scruples, and in the end, you will be more and more unwilling to bow your head, and you will not interact with each other.
You just need to keep your distance, live your own small life with peace of mind, don't have to mix too much together, some indispensable gatherings during the New Year's Festival do not have to resign, you are worried about the face of your parents, don't let yourself be too stingy because of the hatred between each other, and also make your parents chill.
Think more about each other's goodness, learn to let go of hatred, and let go of yourself
Sometimes the rupture of a relationship is often just a matter that is infinitely magnified, and in the end the heart cannot turn a corner, breeding hatred for the other party, and the knot is difficult to reconcile, and it completely breaks out at a certain moment.
Maybe it's just a moment of anger, maybe it's just between words, temper tantrums, saying words that hurt each other, and they can't get off the stage between each other, so they have to break up.
Brothers and sisters can have a lot of deep hatred, even if the other party has one thing that is not satisfactory to you, but always get along, there will definitely be a lot of good times for you and make you feel warm.
We can't deny all the goodness of the other person because they did something wrong, such a person is too mean.
The people closest to each other have reached the point of separation, and I think they are not comfortable with each other. Instead of holding this grudge and remembering his bad places in his heart, it is also a burden to his heart, making himself depressed, and it is difficult to get real happiness.
It is better to think more about the other party's goodness to yourself in your heart. Let go of the contradictions between each other, let go of the hatred in your heart, and at the same time let go of yourself.
Brothers and sisters are like the relationship between lips and teeth, when there are fights between upper and lower teeth, but also people with independent thoughts? Contradictions are a very normal thing, don't dwell on them. Remember each other's good, those depressed places to learn self-relief, compared to friendship, a momentary bowing and concessions, what does it matter?
If possible, try to reconcile
In "All Is Good", Su Mingcheng and Su Mingyu's two brothers and sisters did not deal with each other from childhood to adulthood, because their mother preferred sons to daughters, spoiled Su Mingcheng to the limit, and was very mean to Su Mingyu. Many times, in order to fulfill Su Mingcheng, he did not hesitate to let Su Mingyu endure grievances.
In the long run, the two people formed a deep grudge, water and fire were intolerable, and they pinched when they met, and even in the later stage, because of some things, Su Mingcheng hit Su Mingyu hard.
In the end, it is flesh and blood, even if the two people hate each other, but they can't bear to see each other hurt because of themselves, Su Mingyu has helped him a lot of times. The two men held that grudge for many years, but in the end they chose to reconcile.
The two of them have such a big grudge, and finally let go of the hatred, in the end, how many people in our real life are the beams from childhood to adulthood? How many people have a deeper vendetta than they have?
Many times there is obviously not much resentment, but we can't get by in our own hearts, we have been grumpy, long-term resentment, don't you feel tired? I know that it is difficult to bow your head and it is difficult to let go, but if the hatred does not make you more comfortable, but makes you live very tired, it is better to choose forgiveness.
Multiple enemies are not as good as multiple friends, not to mention the relatives of relatives. Try to take a step back, maybe in exchange for the sea and the sky.
Its practical term "vendetta" to describe the contradictions between brothers and sisters is a bit exaggerated. What kind of contradiction can rise to the level of hatred? Honestly I can't think of it.
It is nothing more than who the parents are partial to, who has suffered some losses in money, I know that the brothers should clearly calculate the account, but many times there are some accounts that cannot be calculated at all, and there is no need to calculate too clearly. A man who is too shrewd seems to have gained some cheap, but in fact has lost the most precious thing in the world.
Instead of turning brothers and sisters into "enemies", it is better to treat each other with the greatest kindness and sincerity, and I think you will receive the warmest rewards.
Of course, if the other party is very selfish, then it is better to keep your distance, live your life with peace of mind, and do not interfere with each other.