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Many elderly people, when they are in good health, swear that they don't want anyone to care and retire on their own.
But on the day when I couldn't walk, I had to bow my head and rely on the people around me.
There is a saying in my hometown: "Those who want to be heroes will inevitably want to be bears." ”
Man, learn to plan ahead. When you are healthy, plan the layout of the old-age care; when you can't take care of yourself, do it according to the plan, and adjust the plan appropriately.
Generally speaking, the elderly who cannot take care of themselves should learn the following ways of providing for the elderly and be kind to the rest of their lives.
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First, learn to communicate with your children and give them the opportunity to "filial piety.".
In the TV series "All Is Good", Su Mu has always favored sons over daughters, and Su Mingyu can't feel warmth at home. After su's mother passed away, Su Daqiang wanted to remarry and fell in love with the nanny Xiao Cai.
Because the children have always opposed, Su Daqiang and Xiao Cai did not marry, but the fact that Xiao Cai coveted property was also exposed.
Obviously, there are contradictions and lack of communication between Su Daqiang and his children. The filial piety of the children is not reflected.
When Su Daqiang suffered from dementia, he took a book and told his daughter Su Mingyu that he had found a way to save a little money and wanted to help his daughter buy a book... The touching past is vividly remembered, and the daughter's heart is immediately pulled to the father's side.
The way is, you raise me to grow up, I raise you to old age.
Children are the heart of parents, how can there be no truth? It's just that children are very busy and will neglect the feelings of their parents; parents are not willing to trouble their children, and many words are not spoken. Over time, this true feeling was lost.
Carnegie said, "If you want someone to like you, tell him in all languages that you like him." ”
Many elderly people would rather talk to outsiders than communicate with their children. Turned the days upside down.
Don't think that a person can't walk, and you can still rely on yourself to retire. Communicate more with your children and accept their children's arrangements. While you won't be satisfied, you'll get better care.
Children's pension depends on "conscience"; parents rely on their children with "love". Strengthen the interaction, between the soul, there is no barrier.
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Second, let go of your stubbornness and accept the help of your neighbors.
There is a curse sentence in my hometown: "People are half-cut in the ground, and their mouths are still a whole one." ”
That is to say, when a person is very old, the rest of his life is short, but he is still hard-mouthed and unwilling to open his mouth to ask for people.
When the old man can't walk, his temper will be very grumpy. Especially when I was lying in bed for a long time. After all, boring time can make people think wildly.
In fact, there are many loving people in the neighborhood community. For some daily chores, instead of counting on distant relatives and busy children, it is better to accept the help of neighbors.
Let's say a neighbor can help when going down the stairs in a wheelchair. Especially some elderly people who live in the stair room, there is no way to go downstairs and go upstairs by themselves. The purchase of vegetables can also be entrusted to neighbors.
In many communities, there are some retired, healthy elderly people. They don't want to go to work, they can still "take the handle" at any time, or they can do it. The key is that you have to put down your face, take the initiative to ask for people, and say more "thank you".
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Third, treat the "different place" as your home and make your life stable.
In the second volume of "The Surprise of the Second Moment Shooting", Zhou Guoneng of the Song Dynasty, who was excellent in chess skills, married a female chess player of the Liao State. According to his wife's arrangement, Zhou Guoneng spent the second half of his life in the Liao kingdom.
In order to be filial to his parents, Zhou Guoneng took his parents to the Liao State. Leaving their homeland, my parents enjoyed the joy of heaven.
Many elderly people, because they are reluctant to go to their hometown, even if they are sick, they are not willing to go to the city with their children to live in the city, resulting in their children running around the city and their hometowns, spending money and doing little, and still resentful.
Think about it, many parents can go to the pension across borders, what are you reluctant to do?
Whether your children arrange for you to live in a nursing home or go to a place where you work for a pension, you must accept it. Think of it this way, the world is very big, and everywhere there is a "deceased person" in the loess.
Whether it is in the son's house or the daughter's house, it is the same. As long as everyone has discussed it and is not noisy, it will be OK. The old man was at ease, and the days were comfortable.
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Fourth, treat the patients as friends and encourage each other to move forward.
In the "Shenzhen Special Economic Zone News", there is such a message: Guo Liying led the establishment of the "Phoenix Nirvana" art troupe, the main purpose is to let the sick people gather together, encourage each other, and get out of the predicament together.
Sick people need more love than ordinary people. Physical care, there are medical staff, but mental and spiritual care, rarely get. Therefore, if patients talk to each other, their mood will feel much better, and they will also ignite the pursuit of life.
A person can no longer take care of himself, and may have to stay up for several years. How did life go? You can't always let your children accompany you every day, and let your neighbors nag. Therefore, talking to patients and hugging the elderly is also a way.
After all, with good faith, illness is less terrible. Accept everyone's encouragement and you will be more energetic.
Carnegie once said, "Three-quarters of the people you meet are eager for sympathy." Give them sympathy and they will love you. ”
Compassion is an emotion, and although it is a little humble, we all need it. If you want to get compassion, you have to open your heart. Don't hold back, suffer and cry in silence.
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Cao Cao wrote in "Turtle Although Shou": "Teng snake rides the fog, and eventually becomes earth ash." ”
No matter how good you are, how high you have been, how much money you have, it is all a passing cloud. The last days of life are inevitably lingering. Therefore, you have to take the initiative to accept, do not be reckless.
Birth, old age, illness and death is a process, but also the fate of people.
No matter how difficult it is for people to live, they must find a way to comfort themselves. As long as there is light inside, the outside world will not be dark.
Of course, as a young person, we must care more about the elderly around us while caring for our parents. Everyone will have a handle, there will be countless warm hands, and society will become warm.
Understand that if you care for the elderly today, you care for the "you" tomorrow.
Finally, I wish the old people, the old people, to live as a ray of sunshine.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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