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If there is only one thing in the world that is fair, it is probably that everyone will die one day. No one can hide from life, old age, illness and death, no matter how much unwillingness and reluctance you have in your heart, it will not help.
So for the elderly, if the other half leaves first, how to face the rest of life?
At first you are sad, sad, and desperate, but over time, you will turn your thoughts into motivation and spend the rest of your time well. This is the best way to love someone and miss a person.
After all, for the person who left, he doesn't want you to be depressed and depressed all the time.
People are old, old, if the old wife takes a step first, then no matter how sad you are, there are three stupid things that you can't do. Only by making enough psychological preparations can you make your old age more secure.
One: Don't think about it, be strong in the face of separation
The old man has experienced a lifetime of vicissitudes of life, and he has a very light view of life and death. What they can't accept is not death, but the sudden separation, and the loneliness after separation.
Therefore, before things have happened, we must do a good job of psychological construction for ourselves, calmly face the impending separation, and do not deceive ourselves into illusions, and as a result, when the last day comes, only the grief of being caught off guard is left.
Spend every day as if it were the last day of companionship, and leave no regrets about every day. Since they have been dependent on each other for a lifetime, let's give him the last journey and leave no regrets for each other.
After all, every day together we cherished, and we were worthy of my heart.
The other half is gone, no matter how sad you are at the moment, you can't think about it. This must not be what he wants to see, rather than following him, he wants you to live better and love yourself better instead of him.
Second: Do not quarrel with your children, but straighten out the relationship with your children
The wife is gone, and he still has a long way to go, at this time, no matter what, he must have a good relationship with his children. Although they may not be able to protect us in everything, at least, they can have a dependence for the rest of our lives.
If the relationship is tense, it will inevitably affect the quality of life for the rest of your life.
The most typical example is Su Daqiang in "All Is Good". He was originally an honest man with no right to speak, and under the pressure of his wife, he cowered and lived for a lifetime.
However, with the sudden death of his wife, Su Daqiang seems to have suddenly found the value of life, from an old father with no sense of existence to an old lady who is a heavenly master.
Coffee to drink hand-ground, not to drink to spill smoothly, but also to talk about a vigorous love, must be the whole family to support him.
Of course, Su Daqiang's extreme changes have some artistic exaggerations in it, which are still rarely encountered in reality. But it is undeniable that there are indeed some elderly people who cannot grasp the measure of getting along with their children, and have caused a lot of unnecessary unhappiness and disputes.
Obviously, people who should support each other the most and get through grief should not do things that hurt each other.
Three: Don't remarry casually because you are lonely, you need to be cautious
Some old people are not accustomed to a person's life, just to eliminate loneliness and loneliness, casually find a person to make up for a life, the result is calculated by the other party, making life more difficult.
Also in the TV series "All Is Good", Su Daqiang has a vigorous twilight love.
Cai Genhua, the new little nanny, seized on Su Daqiang's desire to be recognized, and used the means of encouraging him to write poetry to his liking, packed him up and stuck to him, and plunged into the trap she had carefully woven.
Not only did he coax Su Daqiang to obey her, let her make false accounts, embezzle the family's living expenses, and even coax Su Daqiang to marry her and give the family house with both hands.
In the end, it was in the fiery eyes of his children that Su Daqiang avoided the end of being left on the streets in his old age.
Su Daqiang's lesson is worth learning, and you must be cautious before deciding to start a new relationship. Although feelings sometimes come without reason, they must have logic.
Feelings are mutually needed, to use a joke from the TV series: What does she picture you? Figure how old are you? Figure you don't take a bath? Ask yourself a few more questions, and maybe a lot of lies will be self-defeating.
Everyone will grow old one day, so we don't have to be too afraid, if the other half leaves first, don't do the above three stupid things. Only by living well can we reassure those who have left.