When watching the TV series "All Is Fine", I can't understand why Su Daqiang lost his ability to take care of himself after his wife died.
Later, he finally understood that he had not been cared for in his life and was too eager to be recognized, which was also the reason why he wanted to marry each other after knowing Cai Genhua.
Because, Cai Genhua gave him the feeling of confidence and being adored.
In life, the elderly with such needs are not unique, they have a strong sense of self-superiority, and there is machismo, such as the following Uncle Ma, who proposed to ask women to serve themselves unconditionally when they went on a blind date, and that feeling of self-confidence even felt excessive when they saw the red bride.
So the question is, can he meet his own needs?
1, the uncle blind date only wants to be a water thrower, single-mindedly pursue the dream
Uncle Ma, 65 years old with a monthly pension of 3700, once had a failed marriage.
Speaking of the reasons for the breakdown of feelings, Uncle Ma frankly admitted that his ex-wife did not understand himself, and the two had different views.
For example, he wants to live a free life, thinking that the problems of life are naturally straight to the bridge, but his ex-wife asks him to work hard and earn a little more money.
In Uncle Ma's view, money and houses are useless, and it is even more wrong to use a lifetime of savings to buy a house, he thinks so, and he does this, and he is willing to eat and refuse to save.
To this end, the ex-wife filed for divorce, thinking that there is no hope in him, but Uncle Ma feels that his ex-wife has long hair, short knowledge, and does not see the problem thoroughly, after the divorce, he rented a small bungalow, the ground has a large crack, he also feels that there is no need to go to the whole, as long as the roof does not leak rain on the line.
Uncle Ma spent most of his energy writing articles, he said that he had a friend, had published several books, life is very fulfilling, let him be very envious, he also wants to live such a life.
In order to realize the dream, Uncle Ma wants to go on a blind date and remarry, and the requirements for the future wife and children are that the other party must have a vision, not only look at the immediate interests, translated, that is, no matter what I do, you must support, because he realizes the dream.
At the same time, he also asked the other party to have a plan, such as to travel, you must prepare in advance, do not rush to the front and then panic and busy.
For such a thing as doing housework, Uncle Ma confessed that he could not do it, because he was too busy to watch the TV series, and the woman had to serve herself unconditionally, so that he could free up time to create.
Seeing this, I don't know what you think, I feel that he is Su Daqiang's possession, blindly confident and unwilling to listen to other people's opinions, want to find someone to take care of his old age, and also make the reason sound grand.
2, the big mother is sober in the world and is not used to each other
After reading Uncle Ma's information, The Red Lady introduced him to Aunt Xue.
Aunt Xue is 57 years old, has a 60-square-meter house and a pension of 1700 per month.
Although the pension is not much, but it is enough for her, Aunt Xue is a thrifty and thrifty person, buying her own vegetables and cooking, and her clothes are also worn back and forth.
The reason why she wants to find her wife is that her ex-husband hurt her too badly, the two are blind dates, and there is not much affection after marriage, but for her son, she has been working hard to give her son a complete home.
But the ex-husband loves to drink, drunk can not control the emotions, a word does not match the beating, she often has a piece of blue and purple on her body, Aunt Xue really can't stand it, the two went through divorce procedures.
After the divorce, Aunt Xue raised her son, and she also had regrets in her heart, plus seeing her girlfriend sick, Aunt Xue was sad, worried that she was lying on a hospital bed, and there might be no one to take care of her.
In order to have a dependence in her later years, she decided to go on a blind date, with only one condition, and the other party should live a solid life and let the old age leave no regrets.
When I met Uncle Ma, Aunt Xue's first impression felt OK, and Uncle Ma wore a suit and a hat, which was quite an intellectual.
Just Uncle Ma's mouth made Aunt Xue's face look bad.
It turned out that as soon as Uncle Ma sat down, he began to talk about his writing dreams, Aunt Xue was a high school graduate, and usually liked to read books, so he took the other party's manuscript and looked at it, frankly saying that the literary style was general, and the gap with the level of the book to be published was a bit large.
But Uncle Ma is obsessed with self-confidence, thinking that the two live together, the woman is not only responsible for housework, but also to help her copy the manuscript and do her own assistant work.
This request made Aunt Xue can't help but spit out: "You think beautiful, didn't wake up, now all computer office, who still needs to copy the manuscript, I can't do it, how many years have not written, the eyes in my old age are not good, and I will not write every day." ”
To say that Uncle Ma is really strange, others remarry is to give happiness, he remarried is to arrange tasks for each other, no one can accept it.
3, the elderly remarry, more is the need for realism
After watching Uncle Ma's blind date, netizens couldn't help but laugh.
Someone said: "Uncle is suitable for finding a nanny, but also the kind of culture, Cai Genhua is more suitable." ”
Some people also said: "How old is he, and he is not pragmatic at all, whoever marries him will have contradictions, because his values are too biased." ”
Some people said: "Uncle do your best to do good things, big aunt does housework for you, but also to help you copy the manuscript, you are on the side of the hand to shake the treasurer, or quickly find a bed to lie down, there is everything in the dream." ”
Yes, remarriage in your later years is to run for happiness, if you give each other a lot of pressure, who wants to be with you?
Uncle Ma's pursuit of dreams is a good thing, when you are older, it is a good thing to have an interest, but it cannot be imposed on others, and it is worth doing what you like under the premise of fulfilling your obligations.
Through their blind date, we can also see that the elderly remarry, there is a realist need.
First, they want someone to take care of themselves.
Whether it is financial or life, they have their own needs, which is actually not too much, if you can understand each other, you can also find the right partner.
But don't be self-righteous, such as Uncle Ma, who asks the woman to serve herself unconditionally, just want to ask, what do you rely on?
Second, the old man is afraid of loneliness.
Most elderly people remarry to avoid loneliness.
After experiencing the bittersweet and bittersweet of life, they hope that someone can accompany themselves, in contrast, the old partner is still more intimate than the children, after all, when they are sick, the other party can bring a glass of water in time.
With the permission of all conditions, the remarriage of the elderly is worth encouraging, because a person's good spirit is also good for physical health.
But in order to find a suitable partner, you need both to be grounded, as far as possible to understand each other, the two people have the same three views, you can try to contact, on the contrary, if the ideological gap is too far, or avoid contact.
In general, the elderly are more happy than anything, if you want to live without regrets, we must learn to please ourselves, and then understand each other, so that the family can live happily.
Give it a thumbs up and go! Do you think older people will be happy to remarry?