Women with good lives have these 3 "outstanding points", please learn them early

When I returned to my hometown, in addition to listening to the small talk of the elders, I also heard about the deeds of the distant cousin who had never met.

My cousin studied well from a young age, and when she went to college, she did not slacken off and finally obtained the qualification of Baoyan, graduated into a large factory, and her cousin-in-law was also together when she was in college, and the marriage object was also him.

After getting married, the cousin-in-law's family also held the cousin in the palm of their hands, and the whole family was spoiled.

I couldn't help but sigh, the same clan, how can the gap between people and people be so large?

My cousin is undoubtedly the woman we call a good life, but if you think about it, my cousin is not the chosen son, she was not born with a golden spoon.

Therefore, I know that the so-called good life is actually obtained through the efforts of the day after tomorrow, and it is precisely because of the hard work that the satisfactory effect is obtained.

Psychological research has shown that women with good lives have these 3 "superiority points", please learn them early.

They do not accept their fate, and naturally they are not willing to be mediocre

Su Mingyu in the TV series "All Is Good" is an example of changing his life against the sky through his own efforts - Su Mingyu was born in a patriarchal family, and her mother gave all her love to the eldest brother and the second brother, and su Mingyu was negligible.

The eldest brother needs to spend money to study abroad, and the family's funds are tense in an instant, but the mother does not hesitate in the slightest, she wants to let Su Mingyu drop out of school, and threatens her not to give her any tuition.

Su Mingyu was born proud and naturally refused to succumb to such a threat, since her mother did not provide her living expenses and tuition fees for college, then she worked hard to make money on her own.

It is precisely under such an ambition that is not willing to be mediocre that Su Mingyu has become an executive of a listed company and the richest person in the Su family.

When everyone is born, fate is predestined, but what kind of life will be in the future is a thousand faces.

If we confess our destiny, then our future life will not be shining, if we do not recognize our destiny and are not willing to be mediocre, then our future will shine under our unremitting efforts.

As a line in the movie "Nezha's Devil Boy Descends", it is said: "My fate is up to me, it is the devil or the immortal, I say it myself." ”

Whether the fate is good or not is also up to us to say.

They are not lazy and plan for their future

Life is varied, everyone has a different way of life, some people live their days into a poem, and some people live their days into a mess.

Life lies in constant movement, and the reason why the river water can remain clear for a long time is because they are constantly moving, constantly survival of the fittest.

Therefore, it is not difficult for us to find that the kind of women who have a good life have a commonality, that is, they are not lazy.

They will make a clear plan for their future, and they will be clear about what to do at each step.

Reading, sports, traveling, etc. are all ways they use to improve themselves, and the process of making people excellent must not make people feel comfortable, because transformation is very tiring.

But it is precisely because of such a tiredness that they continue to approach their better selves and become the enviable existence in the eyes of others.

Yang Lan once said: "In the face of an ever-changing world, we must have the ability to adjust ourselves and continuously learn. ”

If a person is always solidified in a circle and refuses to go forward, then their life will lack a lot of fun invisibly, and they will lose a lot of opportunities, because the essence of life lies in movement.

So, to elevate yourself, the soul or body is at least one on the road.

They are not passive, they know that everything can only be successful with hope

During our college years, we worked hard for work, and the people around us didn't need to do anything because their families had arranged a way out for them early.

We work hard for a long time to get a job, but it is not as high as the job that others can easily get.

At this time, we will feel that everyone around us is moving forward, and we seem to have been standing in the same place, and the effort is not so useful, so the mentality is unstable, and anxiety will occur.

So why do we feel anxious?

In this regard, Barlow explains in Anxiety and Anxiety Disorders: "The function of anxiety is to warn of potentially dangerous situations and stimulate internal psychological mechanisms. ”

After having anxiety, some people will contribute to their lives under such an incentive.

They are not pessimistic, they know that there are people born in Rome in this world, that is, someone is born and the end, but this is nothing? Why compare with someone who is so much stronger than himself?

If you really want to live a good life, you can work your own, step by step, step by step, with hope, as long as you don't give up and don't be pessimistic, one day, they will also become the existence that others look up to.