Psychology: 4 things that people with strong hearts can see

People who are fragile in their hearts are difficult to experience the ups and downs of life, just like the flowers that have been raised in the greenhouse, and they are pushed down with a light touch.

People who are strong in their hearts can laugh out loud and blossom on unhappy and sad days, just like wildflowers that grow freely in the wind and rain, without fear of wind and frost.

We all want to be strong at heart, because it means we don't get knocked down easily by difficulties.

We can experience the rainbow after the storm, we can grow in setbacks, and we can meet a better self in the days to come.

Psychological research has shown that people with strong hearts can only see 4 things.

Everything has cracks, and that's where the light comes in

Our life will not be smooth sailing, our life will inevitably experience setbacks of one kind or another, and when we experience these things, we will have some frustration because of failure.

At this time, some people will feel how this life is so unbearable, and they will not experience a little happiness and happiness.

As a result, they curl up in a corner of their hearts, looking for a safe haven, and will instinctively reject and resist something new.

But life always has to continue to move forward, should not stay still.

Those who are strong in their hearts, until many things in this world are born together, everything has cracks, but from another point of view, you will feel that it is the place where the light comes in.

No matter how unbearable the past is, we should not be immersed in grief and unable to extricate ourselves, we should let go of our attachments and try to face and accept the facts.

We must have the courage to face the past, learn lessons from failures, and get up wherever we fall.

It is better to rely on anyone in this world than on oneself

Hyland in the TV series "Ruyi Zhuan" was very timid at first, and the other concubines in the palace could bully her as long as they looked at her unfavorably, and she did not dare to resist.

Ruyi is kind in heart, and the only thing Hyland can rely on is Ruyi, so she regards Ruyi as her own life-saving straw.

But later, Ruyi was imprisoned in the cold palace, unable to get out, and unable to protect Hailan.

At this time, Hyland understood that when people are in a desperate situation, they must have courage, no one can protect themselves for a lifetime, and the only thing that can do this is to rely on themselves.

Since then, Hyland has become someone who no one dares to bully anymore.

Audrey Hepburn once said, "Man is full of energy, self-repentance, self-reflection, and self-growth." It's not about complaining to people. ”

Always habitually dependent on others, when things change, we who lack the ability to think independently will be helpless and can only be slaughtered.

Every day that has not danced is actually a kind of waste of life.

What we have to do is to rise up in adversity like Hyland and become our own masters.

Less empathy, more selfishness, more happiness

I don't know if you have found such a group of people who have a strong empathy ability, can keenly perceive the emotional changes of the people around them, and then make changes to their behavior in real time, so as not to make the other person sad.

Empathy is a good thing, but if "selfishness" is forgotten when empathizing, then empathy becomes a flattering and bottomless kindness.

Wang Xiaobo said: "Kindness is never an easy task, wrong kindness will not bring heaven to others, it will only drag you into hell." ”

In this world, we need to understand that even if we are good, we cannot satisfy everyone.

Thousands of faces, everyone has their own favorite, everyone also has their own dislike, just like some people hate our temper, some people like our temper.

No matter how good we are, we can't make everyone like it, of course, we can't make everyone dislike it, after all, it's hard to reconcile.

Instead of pandering to others, it is better to like yourself, living a relaxed life is the goal, and living freely is happy.

It's useless to complain, and it takes action to get out of the mud

Lin Qingxuan once said: "The imperfections and imbalances encountered in life are the best enlightenment in life, just as dark clouds and storms are the best revelations in the sky." ”

Imperfections and imbalances are actually unpleasant things we experience in life that make us doubt our abilities.

These things can also make us feel as if we are not so good, so that under the frustration, some people fall into the mud and can't extricate themselves.

Therefore, they complained about the world, and everyone complained about how fate was and how unfair fate was to them.

When we become like this, people who believe in ourselves and are full of negative energy will not let their lives become bright, and their world has long been clouded.

Get stuck in the mud and move your feet out to get out of the mud.

It is useless to complain, only practical actions can make your world clear.