For a man, the luckiest thing is to marry a good wife, and a good wife can also determine the feng shui of a family.
It can be said that a good wife and a good mother is a better evaluation word, which means that a woman has a collection of traditional Chinese virtues.
Virtuous wife, virtuous wife; good mother, good mother, in a family, a woman is enough if she can have these two things.
So, we would also feel that men would like such women and would especially want to marry such women.
In fact, men do not favor such women, and can even be said to be unwelcome.
In a relationship between the sexes, why are good wives and mothers not welcomed by men, and what do they really want?
Repetitive roles in life do not arouse people's expectations
Just think, in our childhood memories, what kind of person can be called a good wife and mother?
The answer must be our mother.
My mother kept the whole house in good order, the food was delicious, the house was spotlessly cleaned, and under the teachings of my mother, we knew right from wrong and argued right from wrong.
Although we are not a genius, nor are we a very outstanding person, we do not have a crooked view and grow up healthy and healthy.
Therefore, in childhood memories, a good wife and a good mother belong to the mother, and in our concept, we have a very early concept of a good wife and a good mother.
That is to say, in our lives, there is already someone who has filled our role as a good wife and mother.
When we are adults, another person appears, and this person gives us the feeling of a good wife and mother, at this time, the other party and our original concepts have a repetition, naturally we will not like it.
It's like if we already have an Apple phone, and someone else gives us an exact same, then we will naturally dilute the joy of only one time because of repetition.
So, that's why a woman with a good wife and a good mother can't get a man to care about.
What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear
Ruyi in the TV series "Ruyi Biography" is a virtuous wife and mother.
She is gentle and kind by nature, and when she gets along with the emperor, she always does her best to deal with all the affairs of the harem for her, and when the other party is sad, she will also give advice;
When educating their children, Ruyi does not insist on how good they must be, and they must strive to become princes, but integrity, bravery and responsibility are the qualities they must have.
Therefore, every one of her children is a decent gentleman.
However, such an excellent Ruyi was not favored by the emperor, why was this?
This is because Ruyi loves the emperor so much that everyone knows how important the emperor's position in Ruyi's heart really is, and it can be said that Ruyi's mind is on the emperor.
Unfortunately, everyone has an inferior root.
People who are too good to themselves, people who will never leave themselves, are people who will never be cherished.
The so-called unobtainable is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear, knowing that they are loved, so they will be unscrupulous, so they will not care about each other's feelings.
As emotion expert Zuo Yan said: "When a woman becomes more and more enthusiastic about men, men become more and more indifferent to women, this is because men feel that women have no challenges for themselves, so they will be like this." ”
What men want is actually a soul mate
01) Since men with good wives and good mothers do not want it, what do men want?
In fact, in a relationship between the sexes, what a man really wants is the only soul mate in the world who fits in with himself.
There is no need for a virtuous wife, because the original role of the wife is to accompany herself through a long life, and she does not need to be too virtuous, which seems unreal.
Cute, real, even if it's a little bit of teeth and claws.
There is no need for a good mother, if a woman has conceived life, she only needs to teach her children the rules of life, and the rest of the road can be let them go on their own, don't take care of it, after all, loving mothers are many failures.
For men, the most important thing a woman should do is to be the most authentic version of herself.
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02) When you feel lost, you can stand behind yourself without hesitation and give yourself confidence and courage;
When you feel sad, you can accompany yourself, even if you don't do anything, a sentence of "I have been" is enough to win over thousands of troops;
When you feel happy, there can be someone who can share this happiness from the heart and double the joy.
Although a good wife and a good mother are good, they will invisibly become a shackle that binds us, because after all, who is not born to be a good wife and mother, but in order to conform to the opinions of others, they are forced to become a role that does not belong to themselves.
Therefore, women must follow their inner feelings and be the most authentic version of themselves, which is what men really want.