If it's your daughter, would you like her to marry someone who doesn't have a house, a car, and no savings?

Recently, I talked to a post-90s owner who opened a restaurant, and he was more depressed recently than the marriage with his girlfriend.

The personal circumstances of the boss are as follows:

92 years old, this year to turn 30 years old.

In their local area, near the university town, a small restaurant was opened, not large, and the daily flow of water was about four thousand.

Remove the cost of labor, water and electricity, raw materials, takeaway platform deductions, etc., and the annual income is about 180,000 yuan per year.

That is, a monthly income of fifteen thousand.

They are a third-tier city, the average salary is more than 4,000, he is a relatively high income of the layer.

But even so, he faced the crisis of difficulties in marriage.

First, he didn't have a house.

His parents can't help anything, because they have only saved more than three hundred thousand in their lives, which is the old capital of their parents, they are rural elderly people without pensions.

So he couldn't bear to let his parents take this money out and pay him a down payment.

So the house can only be bought by himself with his own money.

But he also has an income of more than 100,000 yuan a year, in the face of more than 10,000 local house prices, want to buy a slightly more spacious house, the down payment decoration series down at least five or six hundred thousand.

It will take years to save enough of this money.

Second, the woman's parents suspect that he is not within the constitution and that he is too old.

His girlfriend is six years younger than him and has just entered the workforce this year. It is also very difficult to find a job, after graduating for several months, I joined a company with a monthly salary of more than 4,000.

The woman's parents have always hoped that their daughter can find a husband with a physique, because they still advocate "unit" work.

Let's not say how much the salary is, at least it is stable.

In fact, many people in society think that mothers-in-law and mother-in-law are snobbish, and marry their daughters only look at money, only look at houses and so on.

Not necessarily, now it is different from previous years, the form of these years, as long as it is not stupid, you can see who is swimming naked when the crisis comes.

Mother-in-law and mother-in-law marry their daughters not only for one year or two, people hope that their daughters will marry into your family, not to say that they are rich and noble, at least for a lifetime of peace and stability, this is the wish of most families with daughters.

If the daughter marries a restaurant owner with a little money, it may be OKAY in a few years, but in a few years, if the hotel is yellow, the daughter will not suffer with it, which may be the mentality of many mother-in-law.

The third is the man's deposit.

The man has just opened this small restaurant for two years now, and his personal savings are not much.

Because I borrowed a lot of money when I first opened a restaurant in the first year, the income in the first year was basically used to pay off the debt.

It was only the following year that some surpluses began.

In addition, the spending money after nine zero is also relatively large, going out with girlfriends, usually sending a gift what do not want money? So definitely can't save a few bucks.

This is also the most criticized point of the mother-in-law, saying that he will not live a life, the hotel will be yellow sooner or later, and the daughter will not be able to marry.

After listening to this story, I couldn't help but sigh:

Now even the owner of the hotel is a little stretched in terms of marriage, and he can't look up in front of the future mother-in-law;

His annual income is 180,000 ah, the monthly salary is 15,000, no matter how you look at it, you can't say that he is a very poor young man.

Besides, how to get old at thirty, I don't understand.

As a woman, I have long been fed up with the discrimination and malice of the world on the age of women, how can a man be pointed out after thirty years old.

What is wrong with thirty years old, is a person going to go into the ground when he is thirty years old?

When I talk about thirty years old, it is as if I am on the verge of a great enemy.

However, after talking about this, my friend sighed and said:

"If I had a daughter, she would grow up to be in her twenties, and come home and tell me that I was going to marry a man in her thirties who had no house, no car, and no savings, maybe out of the mentality of protecting my daughter, I would also persuade her to seriously consider it again." 」

I think this may be the sadness of this world.

In our society, not having a house is almost equivalent to losing the right to be human, especially men.

If you are in your twenties and don't have a house, others will advise you, hurry up and buy it, no house who will marry you.

If you're in your thirties and don't have a house, others will look at you:

"You can have a long snack, you see that the couriers and delivery workers who earn five thousand a month have bought a house, and you are too hard to work hard, as far as your salary is concerned, don't hurry up and save to buy a house, what are you still playing?"

If you are in your forties and don't have a house, others will laugh at you, what have you done in this half of your life, you wasted your time, you will regret it when you are old, there is no house, no wife, no children, no family, you are lonely and old.

The point is, in the face of such accusations and ridicule, in the face of others talking about you like a person who has come over, as a man without a house, it seems that nothing can be refuted.

The fact is that no house is no marriage, unless you are lucky to meet a person who is willing to work with you, you are both happy, but how low the probability is understandable.

Let's talk about deposits.

Some people say that hundreds of thousands of savings are a lot, millions of deposits are a lot, as an ordinary person can earn these in a lifetime has been quite successful.

In fact, if you go to the hospital for a while, you will understand what it means to spend money like water.

Last month, I had a relative who spent a small 200,000 yuan before and after treating a heart attack, which is almost all the money they earned by the couple who worked hard for most of their lives.

Three months were spent.

People's lives are saved, but where is the guarantee for the second half of life, how to live in old age, and what to do if there are problems in the follow-up, these questions can not give them answers.

The world is like this, many things you think are very unreasonable, but you are very helpless.

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If it were your daughter, would you marry her to a man who has no house, no car, no savings?

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