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Editor / Tommy
Dialectical thinking tells us that the only constant is that everything is in constant flux.
As a result, everyone's face is constantly evolving.
Due to physiological reasons, such as aging and environmental changes, people's facial muscles and skin will gradually age, causing changes in appearance.
At the same time, at the psychological level, there is also an old saying in China that states:
"Phases are born from the heart, and the environment changes with the heart".
This means that a person's psychological changes can affect their appearance.
In ancient times, it was believed that changes in the mind could cause changes in appearance, such as changes in a person's mood that could affect the appearance of their face or head.
Therefore, in daily life, a person with a sunny and kind attitude often looks dignified and kind.
A person who is diligent and persevering and does not admit defeat always seems to be full of energy.
If a person is scheming and often uses harm to others and self-interest, he often gives people the impression that he is not liked by others and his eyes are wandering.
And in a society that values appearance, having an attractive appearance can bring more advantages:
For example, it's easier to get the interviewer's favor when applying for a job, and people are more willing to be tolerant of people who are attractive in appearance.
Since ancient times, beautiful people have always been in the limelight, and many people are willing to follow them.
As a result, those who are physically present are often more socially supported.
If people can go beyond what is right, and rediscover that "sexual attractiveness" is the true core of individual attractiveness, from this source of beauty, various forms of attractiveness can be revealed.
In the classic film "The Beautiful Legend of Sicily", the heroine Monica Bellucci shows great charm with her demeanor, which stems from her strong attraction.
1. Is it wrong to judge people by their appearance?
This behavior is regarded as a fundamental human instinct and was first elaborated by the American psychologist Frevert.
He stressed that this is not just an instinct, but also a vulnerability of human nature.
People can't suppress this deep-seated instinct, and it is difficult for their brains to make decisions that go against that instinct.
Judging people by their appearance is not only limited to evaluating a person's appearance and appearance, but also widely related to a person's behavior, speech, dress style, and personal temperament.
The so-called first cause effect is a concept proposed by the American psychologist A.S. Lochins, also known as the first effect, priority effect or first impression effect.
This effect illustrates that the first impression formed in a person's first interaction can have a decisive impact on future relationships.
A person's appearance plays a key role in the first cause effect.
For example, in social activities, we often unconsciously favor people who are friendly in appearance and cheerful in nature, believing that they are easier to approach and get along with.
"Appearance" is the evaluation of a person's overall image, not only limited to the facial features.
Even if a person does not have an outstanding face, if he has extensive knowledge and a broad vision, he will feel better in communication.
The halo effect illustrates that we often unconsciously associate beautiful appearances with good morals.
When you meet someone who looks attractive, you are more likely to think of him as kind and sincere.
Even though our appearance is inherited from our parents, we cannot choose what we are born in.
However, as an adult, individuals should begin to take responsibility for their appearance.
A person's appearance is not only determined by genetics, but also by many factors such as the individual's willpower, knowledge, personality, cultivation, temperament and life experience.
No matter what kind of face our parents give us, we all have the opportunity to cultivate a beautiful heart. It has nothing to do with the face we were born with.
Second, is "good looks" really all advantages?
It is undeniable that good looks in society usually bring many benefits to individuals.
However, everything has its own two sides, and people with good looks are not immune to some negative effects.
First, they are more likely to incur same-sex jealousy, which is a human nature.
Since looks are given by God, those who are ordinary in appearance can easily feel the injustice of fate.
In addition, the extra benefits you receive because of your beauty often provoke resentment among others.
Second, when these good-looking people achieve something, their success is often attributed to good luck.
In this society where looks come first, people tend to focus on beauty and ignore individual efforts.
If they are handsomely rewarded for their efforts, many will instinctively believe that it is an advantage they have gained by virtue of their appearance, thus believing that they have some kind of privilege.
Third, their shortcomings are often magnified.
Because the public expects more from them, and once they show any shortcomings, those shortcomings are infinitely magnified.
People tend to remember their shortcomings and think that they have no strengths other than their appearance.
At the same time, good-looking people may have a sense of distance from others, making ordinary people feel uncomfortable or even avoiding them.
As a result, those who are popular tend to be mediocre in appearance.
Third, the appearance also needs to be "matched"
Although most people crave good looks, in real life, their partners are often not extremely good-looking people.
Social psychology explains this phenomenon:
According to the pairing theory, we are often really attracted to people who are comparable in appearance to us.
In love, it is often said that the door is the right match, and the same is true of appearance.
Studies have shown that a couple's physical fit can directly affect their relationship intimacy and well-being.
Partners who are comparable in appearance are usually happier with each other and have stronger relationships.
While appearance has a huge impact on a person, it's not everything.
As the saying goes, the five senses determine whether you will come together or not, and the values determine how far you can go.
In order to maintain a long-lasting relationship, we should pay more attention to the other person's heart and values in addition to appearance.
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