For women, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a hurdle after marriage, and it is inevitable to avoid it, after all, the three views and living habits of two people are different, and there has not been any intersection before, because the same man only gets along under the same roof, and sooner or later there will be a time for contradictions.
There is a gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the attitude of men is particularly important, if you choose to be partial and inactive, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become more and more intense, in fact, it is really impossible to come together, it is a big deal to live separately, there is a certain distance, in order to avoid unnecessary friction, but some people are selfish in their bones, always want to take advantage, even if they keep a distance, they also try to calculate each other, but they do not know that people's patience is limited, once they tear their faces, in the end they often lose their wives and fold soldiers.
After Xinya got married, she has always been very dissatisfied with her mother-in-law, in her opinion, her mother-in-law is very strong, always wants to occupy the initiative at home, and thinks that she can obey her unconditionally, but as a woman in the new era, Xinya also has her own ideas and opinions, and will always argue for unequal things, which also leads to the inability of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along harmoniously.
Fortunately, Xinya did not live with her in-laws after marriage, although the two people were not compatible, but it was not time to fight each other, but the mother-in-law did not converge, but changed the law to put forward various requirements, the most unacceptable thing for Xinya is that the mother-in-law always wants the sister-in-law to live in, want to let the daughter-in-law help take care of her daughter, Xinya is naturally not happy, the sister-in-law is good to eat and lazy, the personality is as strong as the mother-in-law, a little unhappy is a big quarrel, Xinya does not want to serve her, so as not to be thankless.
The refusal of the daughter-in-law naturally caused the dissatisfaction of the mother-in-law, who chewed the root of her tongue everywhere in front of her relatives, saying that the daughter-in-law was not filial piety and did not respect herself, and even questioned the daughter-in-law in person: Why didn't I let my daughter live in the house that my son bought? But I didn't expect to be recoiled by my daughter-in-law: I'm sorry, the house was bought by me, your son didn't have a penny, not enough money was subsidized by my mother's family, and there was only my name on the house book, of course, I have the right to decide who to let live in?
After listening to the mother-in-law's face full of disbelief, Xinya continued: Your son said that he bought it, that is, he took care of your vanity, so that you can go around bragging, I am too lazy to expose his self-esteem, if you do not believe, ask him yourself. Xinya thought that by clarifying the matter of the house, she would be able to make her mother-in-law stop.
But two days later, the mother-in-law came again, and said bluntly: I don't care who bought the house, anyway, if you marry my son, everything about you will be my son's, not to mention that I have already told my daughter that you must let her live in. After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Xinya only felt funny, and then replied: Then go and ask your son, if he dares to agree to your request, I will divorce him, anyway, I am the master of this house.
Xinya also thought clearly, in the face of the mother-in-law who is messing around, you must adhere to your own bottom line, if the husband wants to be partial, then this marriage should not be, anyway, he has a house, this is the biggest confidence and protection, the big deal is a divorce. Afterwards, her husband did consult with her mother-in-law for a long time, which dispelled her thoughts.
Christopher Meng once said in "Intimate Relationship": the closer you get, the more problems there are, and as problems arise, the power struggle gradually begins, and both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to be the hostess of the family, which is the power struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Indeed, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not know how to tolerate and understand, then contradictions will emerge endlessly, and eventually it will often affect the quality of marriage.
For the mother-in-law, she wants the daughter-in-law to be obedient, but the daughter-in-law has her own bottom line, in her opinion, the mother-in-law is selfish and unreasonable, and the elders are wanton, Xinya naturally cannot accept unfair treatment, which makes the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more and more intense, in fact, when rejected, as an adult, you should think about whether the requirements you put forward are unreasonable, if you do not know how to reflect, you will only blindly ask others to revolve around you, which is doomed to run into walls everywhere.