As soon as she mentioned her mother-in-law, Xiaoying, who was 36 years old in front of her, was angry. Xiaoying said that from the first day of marrying into their family, her mother-in-law began to abuse her, and she also specially recorded more than 50 recordings of her mother-in-law's evil deeds. Xiao Ying said angrily that her mother-in-law was a particularly hypocritical person, always behind the previous set, so she retained the evidence in the form of a recording to prove her words.
Xiaoying kept complaining about her mother-in-law's usual attitude towards her, Xiaoying recalled that when she gave birth to the baby and confinement, her body was relatively weak and she needed to eat some chicken, duck and fish to supplement nutrition. But as soon as she mentioned to her mother-in-law that she wanted to buy a chicken, her mother-in-law was instantly angry, and she told herself that chicken, duck, fish and meat are not a good thing, and if she eats it, she will return to milk, if this milk is gone, her eldest grandson must eat milk powder, milk powder is expensive, and there is no nutrition, so she resolutely does not let herself eat meat.
Later, Xiao Ying's mother's family heard about this matter and rushed over, but even so, the mother-in-law still insisted on her own statement, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled many times. This day quarreled, and did not eat a bite of meat, his body quickly lost, for this month Qiu Xiaoying has always remembered the hatred to this day. Recalling this incident, the mother-in-law said that in the eyes of the older generation, chicken, duck and fish meat are all hair, and eating it is not only not good for the body, but also diarrhea. The reason why I don't let my daughter-in-law eat is entirely for the sake of my daughter-in-law's goodness, and I will confinement, and my mother-in-law has not cooked chicken, duck and fish for herself to eat, to see if she is not living well now? The daughter-in-law is just too pretentious.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law argued about this, and Xiaoying said that her mother-in-law was deliberate, because her own mother-in-law was not good to her, so for many years her daughter-in-law became a mother-in-law, and she wanted to take revenge on herself. At first, she listened to her mother-in-law's ghost words, and did not eat a piece of meat during the whole confinement, but later found that when the sister-in-law sat in confinement, the mother-in-law not only did not stop it, but also bought meat for her daughter every day, so she seriously suspected that the mother-in-law was deliberately targeting herself. Because she did not bring any dowry when she first got married, her mother-in-law thought that she was not worthy of meat.
Hearing her daughter-in-law's complaints, her mother-in-law explained that she only suggested that her daughter-in-law not eat meat during confinement, and did not substantially stop it. Besides, her daughter-in-law had also eaten pig's trotters at that time, and if she really wanted to eat it, she could buy it herself, and she couldn't stop it. For her own daughter, her daughter married and listened to her in-laws, and it was not that she would listen to what her daughter said. The in-laws on the daughter's side let her eat meat, and she couldn't stop it.
This is really a reason for each argument, it is difficult for the officials to judge the family affairs, and in the end who is right and who is wrong may only be clear in their own hearts. Hearing her mother-in-law's explanation, Xiaoying said something that made her feel terrible. Xiaoying said that three years ago, her father-in-law was found to have tuberculosis, but her mother-in-law deliberately concealed that her father-in-law had tuberculosis, and in her opinion, her mother-in-law did not regard herself as a family at all. Speaking of the wife suffering from tuberculosis, the mother-in-law is also aggrieved, the mother-in-law explained that at that time, she told everyone in the family at the first time after learning that her wife had tuberculosis, and according to the doctor's requirements, the whole family did a physical examination, and the daughter-in-law also went to the hospital to check at that time, so the daughter-in-law knew about this matter.
Xiao Ying retorted that she had recorded the conversation with her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law did not tell her at all, but only told her after her father-in-law was completely well. Now think about how terrible it is, when I was eating with my father-in-law, if I was infected, the consequences can be imagined. From several years of confinement not to eat meat to three years ago when her mother-in-law hid her illness, these things slowly planted an indelible shadow in Xiaoying's heart. Xiaoying said that she had poor congenital vision, was abandoned by her parents since she was a child, and was later adopted by her adoptive parents, and has been living a life under the fence, and later introduced to her husband. At the beginning, the people in the village said that the mother-in-law's family was an honest person, and they thought that the mother-in-law should be good to themselves in the future, so they married over. At that time, there was no dowry or bride price, but since she married, her mother-in-law had never given herself a good look.
Later, after mediation, the mother-in-law said that she actually had no malice towards the daughter-in-law, it may be that the daughter-in-law could not understand and accept some of the ways the old man did things, and she would try to correct it in the future, hoping that the daughter-in-law could forgive herself and live a good life for the family in the future. In this regard, Xiaoying said that for so many years, she has been worried about these broken things for her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all day, and there has never been a relaxed day, as long as her mother-in-law is willing to correct it, she will also live well regardless of the previous suspicions. Once the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is broken like this, even if it is reconciled, it will still be broken.
In fact, many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions are escalated in the confinement stage, the daughter-in-law in the confinement is not easy, and the mother-in-law is also survived from the daughter-in-law, which can be understood to some extent. So your mother-in-law generally does not come to this stage, on the other hand, if you can understand that the mother-in-law is well-intentioned, then the daughter-in-law should properly admit a mistake when the mood is calm, and do not let the mother-in-law feel that you are in the blessing and do not know the blessing. Sometimes, in a different way and attitude, the mother-in-law relationship may not be so difficult to get along with.