George Bernard Shaw said: Those who want to get married should get married, and those who want to be single should stay single, and in the end you will regret it.
In the TV series "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo's marriage is full of suffocation.
What does marriage mean for a woman?
Have children
Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) is a people's teacher, born in a warm and loving family, his parents have a good work unit, and his mother can retire in another 2 years.
Fang Yinuo is an independent, confident and thoughtful new-age woman, who is very successful in her career and is a well-recognized good teacher.
When it comes to mate selection, she doesn't listen to her parents. Fang Yinuo chose to marry Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao), a man with the wrong door. My mother had always been opposed to this family affair.
Xiao Lu grew up in a single-parent family, and his mother raised two sons alone.
To a certain extent, Fang Yinuo is definitely married. After many years of marriage, Fang Yinuo finally became pregnant.
Unexpectedly, the arrival of the child did not make the marriage more complete, but accelerated the split between the two mouths.
Fang Yinuo is a decent woman, who still wears makeup during pregnancy, and even the freckles and stretch marks on the pregnant belly are not allowed to see her husband. When Fang Yinuo wiped off the foundation on his face and left freckles, that scene was painful.
It is said that a woman who gives birth to a child is a life and death disaster. At this time, the help of husbands and family members is particularly important. Unexpectedly, her husband Xiao Lu actually went home to drink beer and watch the ball game.
Finally the child was born, and Xiao Lu missed it. Watching Fang Yinuo desperately try to give birth to the child in the delivery room, and then watching Xiao Lu on the other side lying on the sofa drunk and sleeping.
What does marriage mean for a daughter? The sense of dependence and security that a woman needs in her most critical moments is all gone.
Having a child makes it clear to everyone around you.
At the critical moment, only the mother (played by Yue Hong) is the most reliable.
Steal the placenta to eat
Compared with his mother's cold and hot knowledge, Fang Yinuo's mother-in-law is the opposite.
The mother-in-law believes that it is natural for a woman to have a child, and there is no need to be too pretentious. When I came to the delivery room, the first appeal was not to see my granddaughter, but to ask my son for my daughter-in-law's placenta.
When she came to the delivery room, the mother-in-law looked at her granddaughter, hugged her, stood for a while and went home. I didn't even see my daughter-in-law thirsty. In the end, the mother found that her daughter was thirsty and wanted to drink water, and handed the cup in time.
This is the difference between mother-in-law and mother-in-law.
As early as when her daughter-in-law Fang Yinuo was pregnant, the mother-in-law planned to take the placenta to eat for her frail and sickly young son Xiao Xu. The mother-in-law did not dare to tell her daughter-in-law, and could only talk to her son Xiao Lu.
Then it means that the mother-in-law stole Fang Yinuo's placenta. Stealing the daughter-in-law's placenta home to eat, this mother-in-law is also too unauthentic.
The most crucial thing is that his son Xiao Lu actually did not object. Not only did he miss his wife's delivery, but he also secretly took the placenta to his mother for the first time.
Waiting for the confinement
Fang Yinuo already knew the personality of his mother-in-law (played by Li Qinqin), and since he was pregnant, he had no plan to let his mother-in-law serve the confinement.
Fang Yinuo had already invited Yue's sister-in-law. I thought that the high-priced sister-in-law was very reliable, but I didn't expect that in order to have a better rest, I secretly added milk powder to the baby's bottle, and one night I overslept.
The most infuriating thing is that because of the misjudgment of the sister-in-law, the baby's jaundice is serious, and later he has to go to the hospital to take blue light.
Because of her lack of heart, sister-in-law Yue ran away by herself.
The sister-in-law is gone, the mother-in-law is coming, and the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law has begun.
The mother-in-law is an old smoker, who basically smokes every day and loves to play mahjong. These are two things she has to do every day.
In order to have an explanation to the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law came up with a way, that is, to take the baby under the age of one month out of the house, she took the opportunity to smoke outdoors and play mahjong by the way.
Paper has a time when it can't hold the fire. The clever Fang Yinuo had already smelled the smoke on her mother-in-law's body, and finally she couldn't help but go out to check the post, but she didn't expect to see the scene of the most heartbroken breakdown.
In order to play mahjong, the mother-in-law actually let the stroller slide down the road, and the baby who was not yet a month old was thrown by the mother-in-law.
Adult collapses are often instantaneous.
There are no absolute good guys and bad guys
Stealing the daughter-in-law's placenta to eat, taking care of the confinement and breaking the baby, this mother-in-law is really too angry.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said: There are no absolute good and bad people in this world. Good people have times when they do wrong, and bad people have things to do good.
In addition to taking the placenta and dropping the baby, in fact, this mother-in-law still has some advantages.
There are 4 places to see it. First, the mother-in-law will stew pork foot soup late at night to milk the daughter-in-law, which is also a love. Early every morning, she would get up early to stew chicken soup for her confinement daughter-in-law.
Third, for the sake of her granddaughter and daughter-in-law, she will take the initiative to quit smoking.
Fourth, in order for her son Xiao Lu not to be caught in the middle, she will also silently endure and not provoke trouble. She knew home and everything.
Combining these four points, in fact, Fang Yinuo's mother-in-law is not too bad, and she also has cute places on her body.
It can only be said that the mother-in-law is a little unauthentic and has no culture. Compared with her mother-in-law, her husband Xiao Lu is more angry.
Of course, there is more than one side to everyone. When his wife Fang Yinuo was pregnant, Xiao Lu would also sleep on the sofa, eat noodles, and pinch his feet. Xiao Lu also got up early and worked hard, and also patiently coordinated the relationship between the whole family.
Everything changed qualitatively after the wife gave birth to the child. Love, sometimes, cannot stand any test. The details are enough to beat love.
His wife gave birth to a child, and he could calmly watch a ball game at home and drink beer. The most speechless thing is that after his wife Fang Yinuo was incontinent after childbirth, he ostensibly said that he was not disgusted, and he washed his hands with hand sanitizer outside the ward behind his back.
After the birth of his daughter, he basically did not stay home, and he did not get up at night to help watch the children.
Later, he gradually disappeared from home, and every day he came home at 5 a.m. Sometimes even when I go home, I would rather sit in the car than go home.
Xiao Lu's biggest problem is that the child does not establish a sense of responsibility after birth.
Even more excessive is the opening of the dislike of the wife and the family. 1 year after the birth of the child, the two people were like strangers, sitting at the same dinner table to eat, Xiao Lu actually remembered another young girl.
Fang Yinuo still loves Xiao Lu, and she will take the initiative to make fish bubbles for her husband to eat when she leaves work.
It's just that once a man changes his heart, he will become desperate.
Xiao Lu did not appreciate it, and their love had disappeared in a field of chicken feathers.
The form and weight of love is never set in our hearts, what kind of man you meet, you talk about what kind of love.
To end with Zhang Ailing's words: feelings are so fragile, can withstand the wind and rain, but can not withstand the ordinary.