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Neighbor Aunt Zhang was heartbroken by her daughter-in-law.
When the daughter-in-law gave birth, Aunt Zhang just retired. At the request of her son and daughter-in-law, Aunt Zhang left her wife and familiar home and came to her son's house to take care of the children and the life of her son and daughter-in-law.
Aunt Zhang has a monthly pension of more than three thousand. Since coming to her son's house, she has never taken the initiative to ask her son for money, her son has just begun to buy vegetables, and her daughter-in-law is not happy, and Aunt Zhang thinks that she has money, so she does not want it. So usually buy vegetables, living expenses and some of the grandchildren's toys are out of Aunt Zhang, every New Year's Festival there are red envelopes for children, and there is little left in the monthly pension.
When the grandson was three years old, his wife had some physical problems, and Aunt Zhang had to go back to take care of her wife. The son gave Aunt Zhang some money, the daughter-in-law was reluctant, the daughter-in-law said that Aunt Zhang had a pension, and lived at home for three years, he did not ask her for a penny, did not spend her money, she had money in her hand, why should she give her money. Aunt Zhang listened very coldly, she has contributed money over the years, but she did not explicitly give her money, and in her daughter-in-law's heart, she did not spend her money.
The situation encountered by Aunt Zhang is very common, according to me, it is the invisible nibbling of the old. The mother-in-law paid for it, but the daughter-in-law said that she did not spend a penny, and the invisible nibbling old man made the mother-in-law have a bitter word.
Although most of the elderly do not explicitly give money, they are invisibly subsidized
Most of the elderly who live with their children and help take care of their children are mostly taking out their pension money and pensions to subsidize their children. For example, there are some basic living expenses for the family to buy vegetables, and many of them also bear the mortgage of young people.
It can be said that it is precisely because of the unconditional subsidies of parents that the lives of many young people are not so tight. But in the hearts of many ungrateful young people, they feel that the elderly take it for granted. Even while enjoying the old man's patch without guilt, he was ashamed to say that he never nibbled on the old man, and never used a penny from his parents. Indeed, your parents just didn't put the money in your hands, if you did, can you still come out when you spend money?
Now young people have a lot of pressure in life, parents have the ability to be willing to help, with the help of parents, young people's families are getting better and better, young people also admit that they do eat old, it is because of the help of their parents, they are not so much pressure, so that parents feel that they are worth paying. But many young people are obviously invisibly nibbling on the old, but they have a conscience to say that they have not used their parents' money, and when their parents need help, they will do everything they can to resign.
Parents have to leave a way back for themselves
There are too many white-eyed wolves now. Parents should be wise, and help their children to leave a way back for themselves. Otherwise, they will not necessarily be grateful for hollowing out their families to help their children, and when they have no way to retreat in their later years, their lives will be very miserable. Therefore, when you meet young people who know how to be grateful, you will help more, the family will be happy and harmonious, and you will be guaranteed in your old age.
If you encounter someone who does not understand gratitude, then stay away as soon as possible, anyway, you can't count on it, and you don't panic if you have some savings in your hands.
【Topic Discussion: Do you have invisible young people around you who eat the old? 】
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