The world is big, there are no wonders. In 2019, a 67-year-old woman in Zaozhuang City, Shandong Province, who was unwell, came to the hospital for examination, but was told by the doctor that she was pregnant!
As soon as the results of the examination came out, the old couple was shocked, and even the onlookers felt incredible.
But the problem of the child's whereabouts has become a tricky problem. The opposition of the children and the persistence of the parents made this sudden child controversial before he was born.
Is this the selfishness of the children, or the irresponsibility of the parents?
Next, let's walk into the stories behind the 67-year-old woman's motherhood in Shandong.
A sudden child
There is an ordinary elderly couple in Zaozhuang City, Shandong Province, the wife's surname is Tian, the following will be called her Aunt Tian, the husband's surname is Huang, and he will be called Uncle Huang after the end!
The elderly couple received a very substantial pension in a small city, and the children also started their own families.
In his 60s, he was in the middle of a beautiful old age when he was visiting his grandson. But an accident changed Aunt Tian's life.
Where is there a husband and wife who does not quarrel? Even Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang, who were already sixty years old, were no exception.
But after all, the body of the elderly is no better than that of the young people, mixing two mouths, Aunt Tian's blood pressure will directly rise, directly giving herself qi disease. His wife's illness, Uncle Huang was also very anxious, and hurriedly took his wife to the hospital.
The first check is high blood pressure, which needs to be slowly adjusted. Since the West does not cure a disease well, it is left to the Chinese medicine practitioner who is best at conditioning the human body.
Uncle Huang immediately took Aunt Tian to see a Chinese medicine doctor, and the Chinese medicine doctor said that Aunt Tian was stagnant and stagnant and stasis, and it was best to drink some Chinese medicine to regulate the body.
Usually, Uncle Huang also pays the most attention to health. When he has nothing to do, he also learns popular science programs on TV and soaks in water with goji berries.
Chinese medicine is the best at supplementing the body with food, and prescribing some decoctions is not as powerful as Western medicine, so the old two families grabbed the medicine for two days and went home to eat.
I have to say that even if many people say that there is no scientific basis for the treatment of diseases in Chinese medicine. However, Chinese medicine is a medical means that the Chinese nation has inherited for thousands of years, and it has its own skills.
After Aunt Tian ate the decoction that Chinese medicine had caught her, her appearance was getting better and better. The whole person's small face was red, the limbs were no longer sore and weak, and the whole person had a feeling of renewal.
But this is not the most amazing place of this Chinese medicine. I heard that Aunt Tian had a blood clot before, and in order to soften her blood vessels, the doctor also added some drugs to the Chinese medicine to activate blood and dissolve stasis.
This medicine to activate blood stasis was originally intended to condition the body, but after Aunt Tian took it, she actually came to menstruation.
At first, Aunt Tian thought it was a simple bleeding and didn't pay special attention. But later, with the increase in blood volume, Aunt Tian realized that she really had menstruated.
Today's girls are about thirteen or fourteen years old to menstruate, a total of more than 200 eggs can be discharged in a lifetime, the eggs are exhausted, and the menstruation is gone. So a normal woman, at about 50 years old, will have menopause.
At this time, Aunt Tian was almost 70 years old, and it was a miracle that she would menstruate again.
However, Aunt Tian and her husband did not take it seriously, and the Chinese medicine doctor said that this was also a normal reaction. But soon, Aunt Tian felt physical discomfort again.
Aunt Tian began to have weak limbs and sometimes nausea.
She thought that chinese medicine did not work, and she was afraid that her illness would worsen again, resulting in other sequelae. So I discussed with my wife that I should no longer go to the hospital to let the doctor check it.
Uncle Huang felt that his wife was right, and the two of them came to the old Chinese medicine doctor again.
The Chinese medicine doctor gave Aunt Tian a pulse, sometimes frowning, sometimes sighing softly. This action of the doctor frightened Aunt Tian not lightly, and she thought that she had some incurable disease.
In fact, Chinese medicine is because it feels incredible. He took out the slippery veins, which are mostly reactions that occur when women are pregnant.
But this Aunt Tian in front of her is almost seventy years old, how can she still be pregnant?
However, patients still have the right to know their "condition". The TCM told Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang about his diagnosis.
Both were surprised, how could this be? This TCM must have misdiagnosed! However, Chinese medicine firmly believes in its own diagnosis results, which makes Uncle Huang and Aunt Tian have to think in the long run.
After returning home, Aunt Tian couldn't say what mood she was in. Sometimes I am a little worried about whether my body has any symptoms, and sometimes I am a little excited, I can still get pregnant at this age!
In order to confirm whether what the doctor said was true, the couple went to the big hospital again and prepared to take a film to check it.
The doctors at the big hospital gave Aunt Tian a series of examinations and finally told Aunt Tian explicitly that she was indeed pregnant. And the fetus in her abdomen is the same as the full-term fetus and is in the normal process of development.
Oh, my God! This time, it was Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang's turn not to be calm.
The doctor who examined Aunt Tian also felt very incredible. At Aunt Tian's age, the ovaries have already shrunk, and women's egg reserves are limited, and it is a miracle that eggs can be released at this age.
But the world is big, there is no surprise, Aunt Tian is an exception to confirm the existence of a small life in the abdomen, then, whether to leave this small life has become the next problem that the couple will face.
Aunt Tian is almost 70 years old, and giving birth at an advanced age has great harm to the body of pregnant women. In addition, the miscarriage rate of advanced women is also 3 times that of ordinary women, and various complications occur.
The physical state of the elderly mother is not as good as that of the young mother, the fetal mortality rate is very high, and if the fetus is stillborn, the degree of harm to the mother is also very serious.
Aunt Tian is almost 70 years old this year, and if she miscarriages, she will be seriously injured and may even threaten Aunt Tian's own life.
After listening to the doctor's advice, the decision on whether this sudden child was going to be born was ultimately in the hands of Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang.
On the other hand, after hearing that Aunt Tian was pregnant, the children could not sit still, and rushed to Aunt Tian to discuss the issue of where the child went.
Aunt Tian's children's views on this "newborn"
Aunt Tian's eldest daughter directly persuaded her mother to shed the child, and did not want the child to be born in this world.
Regarding the idea of the eldest daughter, she also has her own considerations.
First of all, Aunt Tian's eldest daughter also has her own children, that is, the granddaughters of Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang, and now this girl has reached the age of junior high school.
Aunt Tian and her husband and wife choose to continue to have another child at this time, so do they have to let a teenage flower girl manage a child who is waiting to be fed as an aunt or uncle? This is an ethical challenge.
Secondly, the pressure on young people's lives is getting bigger and bigger. Aunt Tian's eldest daughter is also constantly running for life.
The unfinished mortgage and car loan, the tuition and living expenses of the children who cannot be paid, all of which make Aunt Tian's eldest daughter feel helpless.
Having parents to help take care of their children not only saves the huge expense of hiring a nanny, but also frees up more time for their children to run their own businesses.
Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang are no exception, they have reached the age of retirement, they have nothing to do, often help the eldest daughter to take care of their granddaughter.
If a newborn is suddenly welcomed, Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang will devote all their energy to their new brother or sister.
Then, the time to take care of one's children will become less, so that the burden on oneself will become heavier.
Third, Aunt Tian's children are also highly educated, and after listening to the doctor's advice, they all understand what it means for Aunt Tian to give birth at an advanced age.
They could not care about the newborn brother or sister, but they had to consider the old mother's body. If the birth of this child affects the health of the mother, it is definitely not worth the loss.
So this has also become one of the reasons why Aunt Tian's children refused to let her give birth to this child.
Finally, and most realistically, the problem of raising this child. After all, Aunt Tian was old, if there was really any accident after that.
Then, the burden of raising this newborn will fall on Aunt Tian's other children.
Aunt Tian's children also have their own lives and their own children to take care of.
Now the cost of raising children has been greatly improved compared to Aunt Tian's time, and education alone will cost hundreds of thousands or even millions, not to mention the daily expenses of children.
It is not easy for children to be able to support their families, and they are not willing to take out money to help younger siblings who are younger than their children.
These thoughts in the heart of the eldest daughter, Aunt Tian is not ignorant, has lived for nearly 70 years, the truth of life, has not she yet understood?
It was only when she lay down and felt a small life in her stomach, and its heartbeat connected to every nerve of her own, and the feeling was very wonderful.
Everyone persuaded Aunt Tian to give up the child, because the child did not have any intersection with them now.
But Aunt Tian was different, she deeply felt that there was a small life in her own life, that is, her own child who was one with her own bones and blood.
No mother will give up her child, and this is the greatness of maternal love. This kind of maternal love can overcome all the difficulties in the world, and Aunt Tian only wants to bring her own children to this world to see them.
"I can't kill my children."
Aunt Tian calmly spoke out her decision—to give birth to the child, and she told the children that her and Uncle Huang's pension was enough and would not bother them financially.
When the eldest daughter heard that her mother wanted to keep the child, she was so angry that she decided to break off the mother-daughter relationship with her mother on the spot, hoping to use this resolute attitude to make her mother change her mind.
In fact, some of Aunt Tian's friends also advised her not to give birth to this child. Most of them are also for Aunt Tian's consideration, and some friends have also found some previous news cases, hoping to use these cases to persuade Aunt Tian to give up the child.
In 2010, there was a family that had not been able to adopt a suitable adoptive child, so the hostess decided to go to IVF at the age of 60.
The couple's conditions are good, and the pension is also very impressive. They felt that as long as they could give birth to children in good health, it was not a problem for money.
However, a series of side effects brought about by the advanced age of childbirth soon hit the confidence of the couple.
From the day of birth, the child was infirm and had to be admitted to a special incubator in the hospital for treatment. The cost of treatment in a day is tens of thousands, and the savings of the husband and wife flow out like flowing water.
After that, they also have to face a series of living expenses, tuition fees and other issues for their children.
The husband and wife, who should have been nurturing their young children, also had to go out to do business and do business like young people, and save living expenses for the two children.
And if the age gap between the second and third children and the first child is too large, it will also lead to a gap between the brothers and sisters, and the children will focus the resentment caused by the dispute with the parents on the newborn younger sibling.
It should have been the closest person in the world, shedding the same blood, but it was even more bitter than strangers.
This newborn child, who did not even know what was happening, had endured the great hatred of his brother or sister since he was a child.
If you are not able to raise a child, knowing what kind of situation you will face in the future, or bringing this child into the world, it is an extremely selfish act.
Not only will it annoy your own children, but it will also be irresponsible for this newborn little life.
However, even if Aunt Tian's friends gave her so many cases and analyzed so many drawbacks, they could not stop Aunt Tian's determination to give birth to this child.
After all, this child is a piece of meat on Aunt Tian's body, and it is All Aunt Tian's decision to stay. At most, other people's words can only be suggestions, and the decision is ultimately in the hands of Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang.
In the face of this matter, Uncle Huang has actually swung left and right. But after all, it was also his child, and after seeing that his wife insisted on staying, Uncle Huang also decided to support his wife's idea.
And in order to amuse his wife, he also actively named the child.
He said that if the child was born as a boy, he would name the child Huang Shikai according to the order of the family tree; if it was a girl, then name the child Huang Tianci, thank God for giving them this new life.
"The arrival of God", can the family break the ice?
Since it had been decided to give birth to this child, Aunt Tian, after consulting with the attending doctor, decided to pay close attention to the maintenance of the body.
Even the doctor's advice is not to give birth to this child, but this is the decision of the person concerned, and the doctor can only do his best to ensure the health of the elderly mother.
To this end, the hospital has set up a special team for Aunt Tian to be responsible for Aunt Huang's childbirth.
After all, at the age of 67, normal pregnancy and childbirth are also unprecedented for hospitals.
Moreover, this matter is likely to contribute to future medical research, so the hospital also attaches great importance to this matter.
Soon, the adverse reactions predicted by the doctor were also fulfilled one by one in Aunt Tian's body. Even if Aunt Tian pays great attention to protecting her body, the discomfort from the inside out still makes her body begin to be a little overwhelmed.
In fact, during the pregnancy, Uncle Huang was distressed by his wife, and once persuaded her to give up this pregnancy.
But the power of maternal love is really too great, feeling the child's growth in his belly day by day, watching the B ultrasound image from a small meat ball to a big meat ball.
Aunt Tian's heart could no longer let go of this child, even if she endured more suffering, she would create a chance for her child to have a chance to live.
Uncle Huang also took good care of his wife's body, but at the same time he did not forget that he also had a granddaughter.
Even if the daughter says something heavy, it is her own child! What parent doesn't feel sorry for their children?
This one in the stomach is his own child, and the eldest daughter in her 40s is also her own child!
So while taking care of his elderly and pregnant wife, he ran to his eldest daughter's home to continue taking care of his eldest granddaughter's daily life.
Even if the daughter will still put on a cold face, what parent will really be angry with their children? From childhood to adulthood, parents are tolerant of their children, even if the children grow to 40 years old, it is also a child!
Conversely, what child can really break off relations with their parents?
When the emotions on the impulse dissipated, Aunt Tian's eldest daughter was also concerned about her mother's body. But she couldn't put down her body, and she could only knock on the side of her father's mouth to inquire about her mother's current situation.
Uncle Huang also knew the child's intentions, always saying that Aunt Tian was all right and everything was normal. He wants to reassure his children that there is still him behind this! He could take care of his pregnant wife while taking care of his granddaughter.
The old father still supports the family with his broad shoulders as he did when he was young.
Soon, when Aunt Tian was more than 30 weeks pregnant, the amniotic fluid broke and was about to give birth.
With the full help of the doctor, Aunt Tian gave birth smoothly, and the mother and daughter were finally safe. After so many months of hard work, Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang finally welcomed the beloved daughter they had when they were in their 60s. Maybe that's providence!
Aunt Tian and Uncle Huang also named the girl Huang Tianci according to the agreement at that time.
With the birth of this sister, the relationship between Aunt Tian's eldest daughter and the family has gradually improved. She even offered to visit her mother, and this wonderful sister.
Blood is the most amazing thing in the world, seeing the first sight of the sister, the sister grinned open the mouth without teeth, smirking at the big sister; she also wanted to take the initiative to feel the temperature of the big sister, and rubbed the neck bend of the big sister with her own head.
There was nothing wrong with the child, from the beginning of the unacceptable, Aunt Tian's eldest daughter gradually admitted the arrival of this sister.
After accepting it, she loved her sister more than anyone, and every time she came, she bought her some beautiful new clothes and some snacks for the children.
After all, it is a family! It is the blood vein that breaks the bone and is still connected to the tendon.
Aunt Tian's children also gradually changed their minds, promising that if there was really something wrong with their parents in the future, they would take on the life of this sister.
Now, everything is settled, and the future will be handed over to the future! Now Aunt Tian's family lives with Meimei, and that is the best ending.
At the same time, I also wish Huang Tianci children can grow up safely and healthily!