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After the 90s and 00s is a generation that grew up on the Internet, it can be said that they are the indigenous people of the Network, many of their exchange work and even learning are carried out on the Internet, but there are also many scams on the Internet, so now many young men and women are beginning to return to the basics, more inclined to relatives and friends to introduce blind dates.
Chen Bing is the only daughter in the family, her parents also have a pension, and she herself graduated from 985 university, worked in a public institution, 1 meter 65 in height, the facial features can be said to be the face value of the unit, but the unmarried young men in her unit are relatively few, plus she is busy at work, and rarely go online to make friends, so when her parents proposed to her that she had relatives and friends to introduce her boyfriend, she also gladly went on a blind date.
Chen Bing does not have very strict requirements for the height and appearance of the blind date, she said that she can see the past, mainly two people can talk, and the most critical is to hope that the man "three have three nothing".
Chen Bing also chatted with the school's sister and some of his relatives, and found that the unhappy marriage was not only related to her husband, but also related to her in-laws. She summed up the happiness of those married female friends around her, generally the in-laws and mothers-in-law have pensions, culture, have another house, and are healthy and disease-free, there is no older person in the family to take care of, and the temper is relatively mild.
When Chen Bing chatted with some unmarried friends, everyone recognized her summary very much.
The new standard for women to choose a mate, three out of three is not popular, and the intended in-laws and in-laws have become the key
★ Three haves
There is a pension
With a pension, the life of the old couple can be solved by themselves, without the need for the younger couple to raise. The elderly with pensions can even help with some when helping to bring children, reducing the pressure on the couple, so the elderly with pensions are a treasure in the family.
There is culture
After all, young couples have to go to work, so the burden of bringing children in the future is still handed over to grandparents, and if grandparents have culture, they can be more scientific in educating children, which is still very important for raising children.
There is a house
The contradiction between many mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the distance is too close, and the old couple has their own other house, so the two people do not live together, and the contradiction is much less.
And young people also need to have their own space, do not live with the elderly, for them can also enhance the relationship between husband and wife.
★ Three nothings
No disease
For example, some elderly people have limited mobility, or they have suffered stroke sequelae that need to be cared for.
There are also some underlying diseases, diabetes, high blood pressure, often have to take medicine, and even occasionally have to be hospitalized, which will also cause a certain burden on young people.
When they first got married, the foundation of the two was still relatively weak, they needed to work hard, they didn't have much energy to distract themselves to take care of the elderly, and he even hoped that the elderly would help with the children, so he hoped that the elderly were healthy and disease-free.
There are no older people to raise
For example, if the man's grandparents, grandparents are still older and need to be taken care of, that is, there are old people who need to be taken care of, and if there are old people who need to be taken care of, they have a weak heart in taking care of children, or they live with the old people and do not trust the children's grandparents to take care of them.
No temper
There is no temper, which means that the personality is more gentle, not too strong, there are some mother-in-law is very strong, they say one thing, so that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are very troublesome in communication. If you give the child to such a mother-in-law, many daughters-in-law are also not at ease, she has some parenting concepts are not correct, but she insists on following her own way, so it is easy to produce a variety of contradictions, so I hope that the in-laws have a better temper, so the contradictions will be less, and the happiness after marriage will be stronger.
Now the post-90s generation does have its own ideas and is very targeted, but I think the most important thing to find a boyfriend is to see if this man is suitable for himself? More emphasis should be placed on the degree of matching between the two.
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