Women with a husband have a mentality: Man, do you still feel attractive?

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I once saw a comment on the Internet: "I am now 35 years old, married for 5 years, and have children 4 years old." There were several little girls in the unit who liked me, and one or two of them had explicitly asked me how I felt about my relationship with my wife. ”

Finally, he added: "A man's charm is not in age, but in strength." ”

Perhaps at that moment, he was bursting with self-confidence, and his vanity was greatly satisfied, so he couldn't help but show it off.

Someone asked him, why did the young girl like her?

He also replied bluntly: "This situation is very common in our unit, our unit is treated very well, it is not easy to come in, many little girls do not want to work hard, so they put their minds on the older men who have mixed well." ”

Look, that's the root of the problem.

Knowing that they can't do it, do the young girls really like him? Did he really attract girls with extraordinary charm?

Of course not, those little girls are not "silly white sweet", not "love brain", they know that the other party has a family, but they still do not care to pounce on it, but just to achieve their own goals.

Women and "husbands with wives" are a state of mind

Feng Xixi in "Heart Residence" knows that Gu Xin has a wife, but she still inserts a foot, and even takes the initiative to confess to promote this matter.

She did it not because of love, but because of profit.

She wanted to gain a foothold in Shanghai and wanted to get what she wanted by any means, so she took Gu Xin as a stepping stone.

In real life, there are many such cases.

Where does love and worship come from? Women know "three" when "three", nothing more than a state of mind.

profitable.

Babeuf once said: "All wealth that exceeds the share of social goods to which the individual is entitled is stolen." ”

Everyone yearns for wealth, but one's power is limited, and in order to satisfy their own selfish desires, many people will rely on the power of others to achieve some ulterior motive.

A single unmarried little girl is with a married husband, often because the person is profitable to her.

She can either get money from him or she can get resources.

All in all, he was of great use.

In the whole process, the man is just a tool for her.

Unfettered and ready to leave.

Whether it is love or marriage, there is a certain sense of constraint, and since two people decide to be together, it is not so easy to separate.

But if the other party has a family, the result is completely different.

This relationship was invisible from the beginning, and it was also doomed to last.

So women can leave at any time when they want to leave, without any constraints.

Take it when it's useful, kick it away when it's useless, and then turn around and leave.

At this point, only married men can meet their needs.

A good girl with a good heart will not be involved with her husband

Writer Wu Mi, after having three children with his original wife, fell in love with Mao Yanwen, and he confessed madly, even abandoning his wife and son in order to pursue Mao Yanwen.

Mao Yanwen was deeply repulsed by what he did, and then he continued to refuse, and finally married the person he wanted to marry.

When asked about that past in an interview with reporters in her later years, she also replied with a look of disgust: "He is unilateral!" ”

When Lin Huiyin met Xu Zhimo in England, the two talked happily and appreciated each other, Xu Zhimo also pursued Lin Huiyin, but after knowing that Xu Zhimo had a family lineage, Lin Huiyin did not hesitate to choose to leave, and finally married the architect Liang Sicheng.

According to Lin Huiyin's son, Liang Congjie, his mother had responded to rumors outside him, insisting that she could not be involved with a married man who was seven or eight years older than herself.

This is Lin Huiyin's attitude, and it is also her bottom line as a person.

Zi Yue: "Rich and can be sought, though a whip is a man, I will do it, and if I cannot ask for it, I will do what I like." ”

There is nothing wrong with pursuing wealth, but it is to be based on the Tao, and if not, it cannot be done.

This is true of wealth, and it is also true of love.

Love does not come first, but there must be courtesy, righteousness, and shame, and a girl with a kind heart and good character will not be related to a husband with a wife.

She will be ashamed of this, and if a husband of a woman approaches her, she will choose to flee.

This is how a normal girl should react.

Smart men don't engage in "extramarital affairs"

Ignorant men use "extramarital affairs" to prove their charm, while smart men will only prevent "extramarital affairs" from happening, because they know the seriousness of the matter.

First, destroy families

No matter how well you hide it, the paper can't cover the fire after all, and the day of the East Window incident is the day your wife is separated.

You originally had a happy family, you can spend the rest of your life happily, but you don't know how to cherish, you destroyed this home with your own hands, ruined your happiness in your old age.

Your wife has left you, and your children have resented you for it.

And the girlfriend who says she loves you may not always be with you.

All of a sudden you lose everything, but no smart person would put his life in this position.

Second, ruin the reputation

Infidelity is never an honorable thing, but a disgraceful thing.

Once word spreads, your reputation will be ruined.

You will become the talk of others after dinner, and even some people will use you as a negative teaching material to educate their husbands and sons.

Your past is a stain on your life, because you have a bad record, and in the future life, it is difficult to find someone who is willing to accompany you to the end of your life.

Third, destroy the child

What parents do is closely related to the child, and your reputation is the reputation of the child, good and bad can be passed on.

What you do will not only become a stain on your life, but also on your children's lives. He will be ridiculed by others because of this, and when he grows up, he will face the difficulty of marriage because of you.

Marriage is a matter of two families, people always believe that the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked, how can a father with "extramarital love" educate good children?

So young people who are in all conditions are not willing to get involved with your family, and this is the most terrible place.

Foolish men act recklessly, destroying themselves and their children, and even the whole family.

Smart men will regulate their behavior, use reason to control life, and prevent all disasters from happening.

I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.