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Women are often naïve when it comes to relationship issues, it's not about age. Women are old and look forward to love. Because there are expectations, they will believe unconditionally and then fall into the vortex of feelings.
In extramarital feelings, women are the same, women always feel that men outside marriage are sincere to themselves, and always feel that men outside marriage are true love, so they will unconsciously rely on each other.
But are men outside of marriage really reliable? Is it really trustworthy? People who have really experienced extramarital feelings understand that men outside of marriage are very realistic, and he may behave reliably, but this is only a symptom, and he deliberately made it for you to see.
The real situation is that in extramarital relationships, men are really realistic.
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The reality of a man is one: when faced with a conflict of interest, he will not hesitate to protect his own interests.
In extramarital relationships, the question of how realistic a man really is may be really difficult to see from the daily relationship. Only when faced with a conflict of interest can you see the true face of a man.
Let's talk about a real-life example.
Mei Na (pseudonym) has been married for five years and has been secretly with Jin Feng (pseudonym) for three years. Mina and her husband met each other on a blind date, and after talking for two months, they got married, and there has always been a light relationship between the two people. They know each other that there is no love between them, and that their marriage is just a partnership to live together.
Mina thought that she didn't care about this, she thought that love was not important to her at all, what was important was that two people with the right conditions could run the family well and live a life that was more than enough.
But Jin Feng's appearance changed her mind. She realized that she didn't care about love, she just hadn't met love, so she thought she didn't need love. A person who has never touched love, once he begins to touch love, it is easy to completely plunge himself into the vortex of love.
Mei Na is that she and Jin Feng love each other so much that she thinks that Jin Feng has never divorced his wife, because she can't open that mouth, just like her. Although Jin Feng did not divorce and marry herself, she has always believed that Jin Feng loves herself, and she firmly believes that the feelings between the two of them are true love, and nothing can separate them.
But reality slapped her hard. Jin Feng's wife finally discovered Jin Feng's extramarital affair, but she said that as long as Jin Feng was willing to completely break off contact with the women outside and return to the family, then she was willing to forgive him.
Mina thought that things had reached this point, and Kim Summit chose to marry her after divorce, but what she waited for was to be broken up. He said that if he divorced, he would lose everything, his career would be ruined, what he had was given by the Yue family, and he could not leave the Yue family.
After this incident, she woke up to the fact that no matter how crazy she usually said, he would still protect his interests without hesitation in the face of conflicts of interest.
Men are really realistic, he will choose to give up his lover outside of marriage for the sake of profit, and he will also please a woman he does not like for the sake of profit.
Since then, Meina has never looked forward to true love anymore, and in extramarital feelings, there is no true love.
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The reality of men is two: they just want to maintain the status quo and will not give women a future.
In extramarital relationships, the reality of a man is also manifested in the fact that he only wants to maintain the status quo and will not give women outside of marriage a future.
Men are particularly realistic in this regard, he knows the importance of marriage, he also knows that wives and children are his family, they are the ones who can share their honor and disgrace. And a lover outside of marriage is just an outsider who can bring him emotional value.
In the relationship with lovers outside of marriage, two people will indeed have feelings, but this feeling can only float on the surface, and this feeling cannot go deep into the bone marrow at all. What men want is to stay in this state all the time, they are realistic, and they know that breaking this state and giving a woman outside of marriage a future will make him lose a lot. He doesn't want to choose one or the other, he wants to have both.
When he can't have both, he will choose the option that is most beneficial to himself, and he will not divorce according to the expectations of women outside marriage and then marry women outside of marriage.
In extramarital feelings, once a woman outside marriage falls into a relationship, she will expect men to be able to marry her after divorce, and some women will even force men, but men's attitude will only be mud and mud, or play with words, he does not want to change the status quo, he feels that there is a wife who runs the family well, and there is a red confidant who can add fragrance to the red sleeves, which is perfect. It's a life that all men envy.
He can say sweet words to women outside of marriage, and even swear that he loves only women outside of marriage, and these are just tricks he uses to coax women outside of marriage.
Think this man really loves a woman outside of marriage? How can it be! If he really loves miserably, then he will not be willing to bear the infamy of a woman outside marriage, nor will he be willing to let her be wronged. He would clear all obstacles, he would stand in her way and block all the insults for her. This is true love.
But the reality is that men do not feel that women outside marriage have been wronged, nor will they feel sorry for women outside of marriage, and when the incident occurs, men will even push the responsibility on women outside marriage, so that women outside marriage will bear all the infamy.
Want a man to marry a woman outside of marriage? How can it be! In order to get rid of the infamy and get rid of the responsibility, the man has pushed the responsibility on the woman outside the marriage, and can he be expected to be willing to divorce and then marry the woman outside the marriage?
Therefore, in extramarital relationships, women should not be foolish to know only to pay, which is doomed to be unrequited. If you give too much, all you will get is endless harm. The more you give, the more you hurt.
In extramarital relationships, men are realistic, he just wants to maintain the status quo, he does not want to divorce, and he will not give women outside of marriage a future. He only hoped that the two people could avoid people and talk about an underground love affair that was physically and mentally pleasing unconsciously.
When two people are together, he is willing to say to you the sweet words that you want to hear, but the words he says are only the words you want to hear, that is not his true words. Therefore, women should not indulge in this, nor should they let themselves fall into the mud of so-called true love, let themselves be unable to extricate themselves, and finally make themselves messed up and harm their own lives.
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In extramarital relationships, men are realistic. And women can't see this clearly. After encountering an unhappy marriage, women always want to find true love in extramarital relationships. No matter what others say, they firmly believe that the extramarital affair they encounter must be true love. After all, in this world, nothing is absolute, there are always some exceptions. While most extramarital relationships may not be true love, she believes that her extramarital relationships are definitely true love.
But the reality is that you are just an ordinary member of all sentient beings, and your extramarital feelings belong only to the majority, and they are ordinary extramarital feelings that can no longer be ordinary. So, what you think of as true love is just your delusion.
When faced with a conflict of interest, your extramarital boyfriend will not hesitate to protect his own interests, and his attitude towards extramarital feelings is that he only wants to maintain the status quo and will not give you a future. Can such a man, such a feeling, be said to be true love? True love is not so cheap.
These truths, people who have experienced it understand, people who have not experienced it, read this article is estimated to understand almost, but some people, met people who made her heart move, after launching an extramarital relationship, will completely fall into this relationship, her mind is clear, but she just wants to believe that they are true love uncontrollably.
This kind of person just doesn't hit the south wall and doesn't look back, and only when she has really experienced and hurt will she see the reality of men and will she see clearly that there is no true love in extramarital feelings.
So, here I would like to advise those women not to expect true love in extramarital relationships. True love exists, but there is no true love in extramarital relationships.
Text/Fenghua