Why should I give your parents the capital to brag about the house I bought?

01.

What kind of person should I marry, do I like myself, or do I like it? I believe most people have considered this issue.

But the matter of feelings, sometimes does not mean that you are ready to fall in love with and marry what kind of people, you will definitely meet what kind of people, more is fate and sensibility.

But my marriage makes me want to tell you that marriage and love are not the same, if you just love and don't get married, then there is no problem.

If you want to get married, no matter how much you like this person, you still have to think rationally about whether you are suitable, and this is the family atmosphere of your future in-laws' family, and whether your boyfriend recognizes this atmosphere, which is crucial.

"Buy pigs to see the circle" is really not just talking.

My family's conditions are not good, I will not study after graduating from junior high school, and give the opportunity to study to my brother.

It's not that my parents prefer sons to daughters, but my parents actually treat me and my brother equally.

It is my own feeling that when girls grow up, even if they have no culture, it is impossible not to marry.

But if the boys don't have any culture and don't work well, on the condition of my family, my brother is enough to get married. So I insisted on going out to work and making money to supplement the family, and my parents couldn't stop me.

Because there is no culture, it is difficult to find a good job, and at the beginning I followed the people I knew and worked in the factory.

The hardest and most tiring work, no one will understand you because you are a girl or you are young, and it is not easy for everyone to earn money to support the family.

Because it is a group form, if you don't work hard and drag your feet, you will be rejected and driven out. If no group wants you, your job will be gone.

So I knew then that if you wanted to stay, you had to work harder than others, so that no one could replace you casually.

In this way, I started with the most basic things, and as time passed, my ability to work grew day by day.

Over the years, I changed several jobs and finally started selling, and at the same time, after earning money, I did not forget to sign up for night school to improve and enrich myself.

When my brother graduated from college and worked and was able to make money, my parents never wanted my money again.

I said my brother could afford to raise the family, but I still insisted on giving.

Speaking from the heart, although the sales work is hard, as long as you will suffer and be willing to work hard, the income is really good. Over the years, I have not only given my family a lot of money, but also some savings in my own hands.

02.

My husband Zhang Feng and I met at work, he is also a salesman, but the industry is different.

In love, we have a good relationship, I like him, in fact, I can't say it, I am quite willing to be with him.

After a year of love, because of age, marriage is on the agenda.

In love, I have been to the future in-laws' house several times, in fact, I don't like the way the in-laws get along. Good face, braggart, and self-righteous.

But because I like Zhang Feng, I have always been patient, and I feel that I will not live with my in-laws in the future, and how they are will not affect me.

But I forgot how it was possible to grow up in such an environment without being affected.

Sure enough, Zhang Feng faced these things that I minded, and he showed a kind of dazedness, thinking that I thought too much, wasn't this all normal things?

As many times as I went, I actually thought he was right.

Because of his family's economic conditions and the fact that my future mother-in-law has been crying and being poor, I have savings in my hands, so I bought the marriage house with a down payment loan.

Repaying the loan after marriage is actually borne by me alone, because Zhang Feng's salary is not high.

As we all know, sales mainly rely on performance, he has no performance, naturally there is not much income, sometimes, even have to eat.

In fact, it is normal, after all, I am running customers, and when I am blinded, he is either talking to his friends or playing games. Giving and rewarding are directly proportional, and this statement is not wrong at all.

Later, I became more and more busy, and I couldn't take care of the family, so I wanted to hire an hourly worker aunt.

Zhang Feng said that with this little money, it is better to give it to him, he resigned at home, husband and wife, who earn money to support the family are the same.

After I repeatedly confirmed that he would not feel faceless, I agreed to his resignation.

03.

At first, such a day was quite warm, although he was lazy, but he was still good at housework since he was a child, so now he can clean up the house.

Originally everything was fine, but then because of his seven aunts and eight aunts, we started arguing.

I think his family is excessive, he thinks I'm pretentious, cold-blooded, and don't treat my in-laws' relatives as a family.

In our city, there is a very famous attraction, and many people come to visit every year.

After Zhang Feng and I got married, my mother-in-law said not to live with us to avoid affecting the feelings of the two children, and I was quite touched at that time.

The result is now good, after we got married, especially after Zhang Feng resigned, relatives came wave after wave, all came to travel.

Saying that the hotel is expensive and inconvenient, the family has a house here, naturally it is home.

I also cried and laughed, relatives came to travel, reception is normal, but the in-laws such relatives, I really can't accept.

Two-bedroom and one-living house, originally another room, I was ready to be a children's room.

Now it seems that it is not realistic, every time relatives come, they live in this room, and there are four or five of them.

If it weren't for the tatami mats in the room, I think it might be necessary to make a floor, but even if you hit the floor, they would still insist on living, after all, they don't have to pay rent.

Moreover, every time you come over, as long as it is in our home, then the next ticket is good, daily eating and drinking, it is Zhang Feng to pay.

When he ran out of money, he reached out and asked me for it, after all, he didn't have a job, so naturally I had to give money.

These seven aunts and eight aunts, every time we come, we not only eat and pack bags to play, but also have to pay for the ticket when we leave, but also bring some specialties back.

The number of times, I was helpless, and I didn't know how to have so many relatives.

Some so-called relatives, twisting and turning, in my opinion, have no relationship at all.

But Zhang Feng said that my parents promised others at home that it was important to go to their son's house, live casually, play casually, and be happy.

I finally began to realize that when I went to my in-laws' house, I felt that my future in-laws had a good face and loved to brag, but in fact, it would really affect our lives.

I know that I and my in-laws must not be clear, because I said it euphemistically before, and the result is that my mother-in-law said: Don't be so stingy, family, you don't have only money left in your eyes. To be serious about righteousness, you spent such a little money in exchange for people praising you in front of me, and I also have face.

I sneered in my heart, this is mainly because you have face, and then say, eat and take, people say good things in front of you, maybe they are laughing at me stupid.

04.

Seeing that this can't go on, I can't save money at all, so how can I prepare to get pregnant and have a child?

I told Zhang Feng about this matter very seriously, but he felt that I did not know good villains, saying that they were all family, and I could not be so stingy. The tone is really exactly the same as that of the mother-in-law.

I really regret why I didn't choose to break up after knowing the personality of my in-laws, so that I want to divorce.

Even if the in-laws come to live together, I don't say much, but these distant relatives, some relatives who can't even hit the eight rods, come over, eat and live in vain, what is the matter?

I would rather get a divorce, I work hard to earn money, I want to give our small family a guarantee, to my mother and parents a guarantee of old age.

But now, the money is earned for others, and I am really uncomfortable and unbalanced. Should I really get a divorce?

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