"I've raised him for decades now!" Now I don't care about us, and I don't even want to come back if my mother is seriously ill. ”
"I haven't sent a penny in 20 years, so I really raised this son in vain!"
Just in 2019, Jiangsu TV released a report that sparked heated discussion among netizens, which was a pair of parents accusing their son of filial piety.
They said
Since his son was admitted to Peking University as a postdoctoral fellow, he was out of the woods and even wanted to break off relations with them
Ignoring the affairs of the family, now that the old mother is seriously ill, he is still cruelly reluctant to come back to see it.
For his behavior, the audience reaction was very fierce, and showed a polarizing trend,
Some viewers think that he is too soft-hearted and will be dragged to death by the family's outstretched party sooner or later; another part of the audience thinks that his behavior is understandable, after all, he is his own biological parents and family, how can he bear to ignore them?
For a time, Wang Yongqiang was actually pointed out by a thousand husbands...
At this time, the brother of the protagonist Wang Yongqiang told the truth of the matter, and the earth was reversed, not that he did not care about his parents but that his parents took infinite demands on him, which made him heartbroken, and only then broke off relations with his family.
To what extent did his family's demand for him make him desperate to cut off relations with his family?
Now that his mother is seriously ill, will he finally go back to visit?
Insist on severing ties
"Is it easy for me to raise this son?" Leave us alone now! ”
"For 20 years, I didn't even make a phone call, and I didn't send a dime, isn't this a white-eyed wolf?"
When the reporter interviewed the parents of the Wang family, their attitude was very resolute, they believed that they had fulfilled their parenting obligations to their sons, and their sons had the obligation to give them a pension, and they must take care of the family, otherwise they would not be filial piety.
After the Wang family's parents published a report on Jiangsu TELEVISION, netizens also joined the hot discussion of the "big war", some supported Wang Yongqiang, believing that his parents were too much for him, they only had to raise and not have children, and now they are not qualified to ask their sons to help them take care of the family.
Another group of netizens tit-for-tat, they think That Wang Yongqiang is too much, the Son of Man must take care of his parents no matter what, and now that he has money, why can't he help the family?
From the interview screen of the reporter, we can see that the family environment of the Wang family is indeed very bad, and now the village has generally built a small rural building, and only their home
It is still an adobe house in the early years, not to mention decoration, not even furniture
。
There is only one color TV, or the kind of old-fashioned color TV with a big belly, and I don't know if I can see it.
The reporter asked to know that it was indeed scrapped, the home was damp, the TV often appeared flash screen, snowflakes, and could not be seen at all.
In front of the reporter, the parents of the Wang family also took out their medical records, which recorded their medical treatment process, their old two bodies are indeed not too good, the wang father has high blood pressure, sciatica, etc., the queen mother is more serious, has been sick for a long time, do not know whether they can survive.
There is also a son in the family who is polio and cannot work, cannot work, and can only be raised at home.
There are only a few acres of paddy fields in the back of the family, and he can do a little by himself, and he also watches the sky to eat.
The Parents of the Wang Family tearfully told their pain and the help they needed at home, saying that if the young son did not care about them, their family would definitely not be able to sustain it.
After the fermentation on the Internet, this interview spread rapidly, and netizens questioned:
"What is the use of personality without academic qualifications alone?"
Even set off
Reading is useless
The discussion, and these netizens were very excited, and began to search for human flesh, and soon found Wang Yongqiang.
At this time, Wang Yongqiang was already an engineer in Silicon Valley in the United States, with a very stable income, an annual salary of 100,000 US dollars, belonging to the Middle Class in the United States.
After the search, netizens collectively criticized Wang Yongqiang, and what "ungrateful", "white-eyed wolf", "no conscience" and other words filled the online platform.
Wang Yongqiang went to the United States to live this quiet life, who knew that overnight, he was pushed to the cusp of the storm.
He responded to netizens:
"It is difficult for the Qing officials to break the housework," and said that he would not go back, "that home has nothing to do with me." ”
His attitude made netizens chill, just when netizens were attacking him, his brother stood up and explained the truth of the matter, "He has done a lot for that family,
If he hadn't been really heartbroken, he wouldn't have come to this point
。 ”
"There's a golden phoenix in the chicken coop"
Wang Yongqiang was born into a very poor family with only a few acres of paddy fields in his family.
Even so, the concept of parents still stays at the level of having more children, parents have three children at once, and Wang Yongqiang is the youngest child in the family.
He also has an older brother and sister above him, who was born with polio, unable to work, and needs to be cared for by others.
All the hope of the parents is in the youngest son,
But they do not expect their son to grow into a talent through the path of reading, but hope that he will become a labor force in the family early.
But contrary to their parents, since going to school, teachers have told them that reading is the best way for them to become talents, and Wang Yongqiang is convinced and determined to study hard and change his fate through reading.
During the day at school, he seized every opportunity to study, including at night when he had to continue to pick up the lamp and read at night, and as long as he had free time, he would go to the field to catch some loach field snails and other subsidies for the family.
Although he is very sensible, but his parents still do not support him to go to school, the family only has his father to work, he usually sells rat poison can have some income, but there are many places to spend money, polio brother, a family of 5 people need to spend money to dress and eat.
Even his primary school tuition was borrowed by his mother and others, he was not unaware of the situation at home, but reading was his only way out, even if it was to pick up garbage to earn money, he was willing, and every time in the summer, he would borrow his friends' bicycles to walk the streets and sell popsicles.
He did very well in his studies, and learning was not a difficult task for him, it seemed that he was born to be the material for learning, and the teachers at the school often praised him.
It is said that the parents of such a child should be very proud, but his parents are just the opposite, but they often ask him to go back to help because of some chores in the family, but they are rejected by him.
No matter how bumpy it was, he insisted on going to high school, and his ambition was to go to college to continue his studies.
But his parents reacted fiercely, telling him that the children in the village were working in the factory after going to college, and whose children were having a bad time after going to college, and they wanted to force him to go out to work.
Wang Yongqiang was very angry and argued with them, firmly saying that he would definitely go to college.
"Okay, yes, but we won't pay a penny!"
"Okay!"
Wang Yongqiang agreed as soon as he took a bite, and since then he has never asked his parents for money, and all the tuition fees for college are earned by doing various part-time jobs.
After graduating from high school, he was admitted to Soochow University.
In college, he did almost all part-time jobs, selling phone cards, setting up stalls, handing out flyers, etc., as long as he could earn money, he tried.
He had a good academic record, he got scholarships almost every year, and with scholarships and his part-time income, he could barely finish college, but
After negotiating the amount of money to send, he reduced his expenses and deducted a part of his food expenses that were regularly sent to his parents at home.
In his senior year, he was admitted to graduate school, and the scholarship was a little more than before, and he hid this thing because he himself wanted to save some money and have something to do in the future.
However, the college students in the same village who knew about this situation came to the Wang family's parents sourly and said: "Your son can be out of work, and now the scholarship alone cannot be spent." ”
As soon as the parents listened, they still had the heart to listen to him say something else, and immediately went home to contact their son, and Wang Yongqiang scolded Wang Yongqiang fiercely on the phone, as if he had saved some money for himself to betray the family.
Wang Yongqiang compromised again,
They were given an increase in the amount of money they sent each month, and the parents gave up
Soon when it was time to graduate from graduate school, the parents came to persuade their sons not to study anymore, and it was the right thing to quickly find a job and earn money.
Wang Yongqiang did not agree, he wanted to continue to study until the peak of his academic qualifications, so despite his parents' obstruction, he was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
The news came that many people in their hometown came to the door to ask the parents of the Wang family for help, such as introducing the work to his children, providing some help for his children's learning, etc. Parents felt that they had face on their faces and agreed one by one.
When he went back to contact his son, in addition to asking for money, he also asked his son to do things for them, but Wang Yongqiang had this ability, he was still a student, and he painstakingly explained to his parents that the doctorate was just a degree, not a power.
The parents did not listen, but forced themselves to tug-of-war with him, grinding for a long time, making both sides exhausted.
At this time, Wang Yongqiang found a girlfriend, the daughter of a professor at the school, the tutor is very good, very gentle and understanding, for Wang Yongqiang, who has been in a relatively low mood for a long time, it feels like falling into a honeypot, and he likes this girlfriend very much.
And what is valuable is that the girlfriend's family knows that his family is very poor, but he does not express his mind, but tries his best to help the two of them, and Wang Yongqiang is very grateful.
They finalized the wedding in Beijing, Wang Yongqiang called to invite his parents to come, the parents were unwilling and opened their mouths to ask for money.
"Send us a thousand bucks and we'll go."
Wang Yongqiang has no money, the wedding is mainly prepared by the woman, he is already embarrassed, how can not give them money, he said that he has no money, but still hope that they come over, they want to get married to get the blessing of their parents.
But in the end, his parents still did not come, he was very disappointed, and even the bride's face was not very good-looking.
After getting married, Wang Yongqiang's thinking underwent some changes.
He began to snub his parents and wanted to run away from them
Living their own lives, but their parents have intensified, which has brought their relationship to an end.
From running away from parents to breaking off relationships
His parents' attitude toward his wedding made Wang Yongqiang feel indifferent to his parents and the family, and since then this feeling has become so strong that he wants to flee from them.
"They never treated me like a son, I was just their cash machine."
During the new marriage, Wang Yongqiang did not pay attention to his parents, did not answer the phone, and did not write to them for the time being, he just wanted to show his attitude.
Who knew that the development of things had already exceeded his expectations, and his parents walked all the way to his school while asking, and when they reached the school gate, they sat directly on the ground and sprinkled: "Let's see what son I have raised?" ”
"When we get married, we don't care, this is to forget the mother when we have a daughter-in-law!"
Soon a large number of people gathered at the entrance of the school, Wang Yongqiang's wife and father-in-law were in this school, they felt very disappointed, and even the reputation of Wang Yongqiang's father-in-law in the school was affected.
"No conscience" and "no filial piety" and other dazzling words poured into Wang Yongqiang, he quickly appeased his parents, is not money, he promised to continue to send them money, parents immediately stopped making trouble.
This incident exacerbated Wang Yongqiang's idea of fleeing from them, he decided to study in Japan, his wife also agreed, and his wife also bore most of the costs, Wang Yongqiang was very moved.
His parents didn't agree to his going to Japan.
Wang Yongqiang directly told them that he could earn more money by going to Japan, and his parents immediately gladly agreed.
Parents let others help send emails to their sons, let him send money, again and again, hollowed out Wang Yongqiang's savings, and finally had to ask his wife for money in order to live, the wife knew that he sent money to the family, and finally couldn't stand it, and he proposed a divorce, in her opinion, Wang Yongqiang is simply a bottomless pit, when to fill in the dissatisfaction.
Wang Yongqiang reluctantly agreed to the divorce, but this incident became the last straw that crushed him, and he decided to run away from his parents and cut off relations with them.
After returning from Japan, he continued to send money to his parents, pretending that everything was normal.
While being admitted to the postdoctoral program at Peking University through hard work, he finally reached the peak of his academic qualifications.
When he graduated, a classmate in the United States introduced him to a job, and immediately after graduation he flew to the United States, after which he completely cut off contact with his family.
Two years later, after getting the green card, he cancelled his Identity Information in China, and all the previous contact information was changed, and his parents really couldn't contact him, so he really panicked.
Didn't expect them
Even if black and white are reversed in front of the media, they still have to find their son, but Wang Yongqiang is iron-hearted this time and will not go back.
Wang Yongqiang's approach is actually understandable, he is really scared by his parents, he wants to become an independent individual, not his parents' cash machine, his family has been broken up by his parents, he does not want to continue to live so darkly in the future life.
The act of taking infinitely in the name of love is not love after all, it is just a bondage, a bondage
Its end can only be backwards and dissipations, it cannot be forward and ascend, even if it is family members, they must know how to contribute to each other, so as to create a warm family atmosphere.