There is an old Chinese saying: "Filial piety comes first." If a person does a good deed every day, if it is not good for his parents, he will also be pointed at the nose and scolded. Feelings are mutual, and no one can be nice to you all the time, except parents.
However, some parents have been making unreasonable demands on the grounds of "I gave birth to you". They use the slogan of affection to morally kidnap and absorb what is finally good for them in their children. Of course, this is only a few parents.
Children are a blank piece of paper, parents' words and deeds directly affect the child's life, just so-called: some people use childhood to heal a lifetime, some people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
Reading can change a person's life, Wang Yongqiang, who has not been loved when he was a child, has always been determined that reading can change his destiny, in fact, he has also done it. Postdoctoral Fellow Wang Yongqiang once refused to see the last side of his sick mother, and the ending made many people clap their hands and applaud.
Knowledge changes destiny
Wang Yongqiang was born in a poor and patriarchal family, he has an older sister and an older brother, his parents on the grounds that girls will marry later, let the sister drop out of school to work, and the brother who was weak and sick from childhood naturally took away most of the parents' attention, so in this family, Wang Yongqiang is the child with the least sense of existence.
In the society at that time, women's education level was very low, especially in women who got married, they were dedicated to the family, and Wang Yongchao's mother was a typical example.
Wang Yongqiang's mother is a housewife, and his father's job is only to sell some scattered things to make ends meet, because there is a sick child in the family, and this income alone is not enough to support the expenses of a family of five, so the sister is forced to drop out of school.
And because Wang Yongqiang, who has read books, knows that reading can change his fate, and when his father asked to drop out of school, he begged bitterly to get the opportunity to continue reading, Wang Yongqiang in order to be able to read well, his reading stationery is bought by him to pick up the money he sells.
Wang Yongqiang's grades have always been the first place in the class, children like his age are generally asked by their parents to go to school, and Wang Yongqiang began to study half together and half of the state until college at a young age.
Wang Yongqiang, who entered the university, received a bursary from the school for his outstanding results, and it is precisely because of this bursary that Wang Yongqiang's life has improved. Although Wang Yongqiang received a bursary, he still did not dare to slacken off.
Wang Yongqiang did not reach out to his parents for money during his entire college years, he would still use his free time to work to make money, and when his parents learned that their children could not only study but also make money, the two of them ran to Wang Yongqiang's school to scold him in front of all the teachers and students of the school, and only after taking the money from Wang Yongqiang did they give up.
After that, as soon as his parents learned that Wang Yongqiang had money, he repeated the same technique, and Wang Yongqiang, who was tortured and scared several times three times, gave it to his parents as soon as he had money, and he never dared to put money on him again.
People more or less have a sense of shame, and Wang Yongqiang's parents don't seem to realize this, they lie on Wang Yongqiang's body like a vampire, frantically squeezing the value of Wang Yongqiang's body. Over time, Wang Yongqiang had a very deep shadow over his parents and his nominal home.
He didn't understand why the parents of his classmates could be very protective of their children, afraid of giving less, and his parents' approach was so suffocating.
Later, his parents did something that made him even more suffocating. The very good-looking parents asked Wang Yongqiang to help his friend's children enter Wang Yongqiang's school; he also asked Wang Yongqiang to help his eldest brother with polio find a decent job, and Wang Yongqiang to take care of his brother. Wang Yongqiang could not understand his parents' approach, and in order to escape from the family, he chose to go abroad for further study.
In 1996, Wang Yongqiang left Japan to work, he once told his parents that he could earn 180,000 yuan a year in Japan, his parents were ecstatic, and Wang Yongqiang never came back after this trip, and directly broke off contact with his family. Before going abroad, Wang Yongqiang would talk to his family several times a month, but he had not been in contact for 20 years after he went abroad.
The seriously ill mother begged to see her
Wang Yongqiang has not been in contact with his family for 20 years, and he knows nothing about his mother Guo Qiaodi's cancer. And the only thing she wanted to do was to see Wang Yongqiang again.
Originally, this matter did not attract attention, with the development of the Network, Guo Qiaodi's search for a son was reported, at that time everyone knew that the Wang family had an unfilial son, and then there was an insulting voice on the Internet.
Some netizens provided a piece of technical personnel in a city in the United States and Wang Yongqiang's identity information is highly consistent, find the clue that things are much easier to do, first through the middleman to contact Wang Yongqiang, ask him if he wants to come back to visit his seriously ill mother, and Wang Yongqiang said that it is difficult for the Qing officials to break the housework, I hope netizens do not care about this matter.
Wang Yongqiang's attitude made the family very disappointed, and the two old men said that they would not continue to look for Wang Yongqiang. Wang Yongqiang is reluctant to see his relatives again, netizens have said that Wang Yongqiang has read so many books in vain, China pays attention to filial piety first, and Wang Yongqiang's most basic filial piety is gone.
However, netizens do not understand the causes and consequences of the matter, and the main reason why Wang Yongqiang is reluctant to return to China is actually his parents. When Wang Yongqiang explained what his family did to him when he was young, and what he did when he grew up, things changed, and netizens also understood Wang Yongqiang's move very well. For their son not to return home for more than twenty years, the two old men were also punished.
Fate is unfair
Wang Yongqiang's primary school is based on his own very strong sense of purpose to complete, after arriving at the university, he first graduated from Soochow University, and then obtained a doctorate in physics from the Chinese Academy of Sciences and became a postdoctoral fellow in physics at Peking University.
Wang Yongqiang became a postdoc and fell in love with the daughter of a professor at Peking University, and the family had dragged Wang Yongqiang back many times, and he also made a very important decision: he hoped that his family would not come to his wedding.
Later, Wang Yongqiang, who went to Japan, did not return to China after his academic exchange with his wife, but transferred to the United States to work. It is said that Wang Yongqiang divorced his first wife, because he could not stand the repeated interruptions of Wang Yongqiang's parents. And the two had a marriage change.
brief summary:
Everything has a degree, Wang Yongqiang's parents have tortured their children many times, even if the temper is good, how much blood will eventually be worn out. Originally, Wang Yongqiang's small family could live a flat life, and it was precisely because of his parents' acting that caused this fate.
If the child does not receive good guidance when he is a child, he will have more or less psychological shadows when he grows up, and Wang Yongqiang is also very disappointed in his family, and he will not return home for 20 years, even if his seriously ill mother wants to see him, he has not been able to do so.