It was another spring festival, the laughter of the children outside the door penetrated into the ears of Cao Zhaogang and his wife through the thin wall, and the old man of the ancient age would put a pair of dishes and chopsticks on the table every year for his daughter Cao Qian.
However, they have spent 17 years of this Spring Festival, not that their daughter has passed away, but that their daughter, who grew up proud of herself, never received a reply or a phone call from her daughter after she went to Germany to study 17 years ago.
"We just want to know her news, even if we just look at her photos, we have no regrets even if we die", in the face of the media, Every time Cao Mu mentioned her daughter, it was a bitter echo, when Cao Qian studied exceptionally, it was hard to have a chance to study abroad.
Parents can refuse anyone, but they can't refuse their own children, even if they pick the stars and ask for the moon, they are willing to pay all the costs, and in the 2000 era, the second elder borrowed all the money he could borrow, sold what he could sell, and made up 70,000 yuan for tuition.
Watching her daughter embark on the train to Beijing with a large bag and a small bag, Cao Mu's hand holding Cao Father's hand has been unable to resist, of course, they are reluctant to do so, but for the sake of their daughter's future they are willing to make sacrifices, but who knows that the daughter has not been able to see each other until Cao Mu's death.
In 1979, in Caojia Village, Lushunkou District, Dalian City, the young Cao Zhaogang and his wife ushered in the only daughter of the family, and the atmosphere at that time was different from now, which would make many older generations think and have some backward culture of "heavy children and light daughters", especially in Cao Zhaogang's village.
Boys in the countryside represent the labor force, so we will now find that there are many uncles and uncles, because the environment will be like this, sometimes there will be four or five children in a family, but Cao Zhaogang and his wife do not think so, they only have Cao Qian, a daughter, and only want to give the love of their parents to one person.
So from a young age, what is good to eat at home will let Cao Qian give priority, and do not let her work, really hold in the palm of the hand are afraid of melting, Cao Qian's grades in school are also very good, not only are they three good students in the class every year, but they also like to read and read famous books on weekdays.
At school, Cao Qian often told her classmates the contents of the book, and sometimes even the teacher would be surprised by what little Cao Qian understood, and the award certificate was also pasted layer after layer on the wall, and Cao Zhaogang and his wife were proud every time they mentioned their children in front of outsiders.
Until the beginning of middle school, Cao Qian needs to live in school, and Cao Qian, who ushered in adolescence, gradually began not to communicate with her parents, Cao Zhaogang had a hot temper, sometimes saying Cao Qian two sentences, but Cao Qian listened to it and did not refute it but just silently endured.
The quarrel between children and parents is inevitable, every parent needs to spend a lifetime to learn on the issue of educating children, although there are many self-proclaimed education experts who often talk about it, but in the face of their own children's problems, they will still be overwhelmed to ask others for advice.
However, from childhood to adulthood, Cao Qian almost never quarreled with her parents, and since middle school, no matter what Cao Qian has been very obedient, which makes the second elder always feel that the children in the family are more obedient than other families, but the opportunity for the two sides to sit down and talk is also very small.
Until Cao Qian's third year of high school to participate in the college entrance examination to fill in the volunteer, the first positive conflict between the child and the parents in their lives occurred, Cao Qian benefited from the influence in the book and hoped to grow up in the big city in the south, but the parents were such a daughter, and in their hearts there was still some reluctance for their daughter to stay away from home.
Under such influence, the daughter had no choice but to fill in Liaoning Normal University, in fact, there are many parents who will have opinions on their children's reports, and also use the slogan of "good for their children" to let their children follow the opinions of their parents.
Cao Qian finally studied in Liaoning Normal Education, and the inflection point of her life also began here.
Contrary to wishes, Cao Qian, who failed to listen to her inner choices, has a great opinion on her parents, and in the heart of Cao Qian, who has just established a mature worldview and values, she has always believed that her parents have stifled her dreams, so Cao Qian rarely calls home during college.
Even when I go back from vacation, I rarely sit down to chat with my parents, but this makes the grumpy Cao Zhaogang a little angry, thinking that her daughter can't understand the adults' practices, so sometimes the angry Cao Zhaogang will say a few heavy words, and the daughter will lock herself in the house without a word.
Cao Qian has had some spoiled ingredients since she was a child, so she is very interested in the things she likes and is willing to study, but for the things she does not like, she will not even spend the strength to look at them, so her grades are not as outstanding as in middle school.
On the contrary, because it is not on and then plummets, the results of the university are not related to the influence of hanging subjects, although all this Cao Qian does not pay attention to at all, but let the father of the family Cao Zhaogang look in the eyes anxious, after all, the daughter's achievements from childhood to adulthood have not let the family worry.
But who knew that after going to college, Cao Qian actually let the school call home to understand the situation because of learning reasons, Cao Qian subconsciously thought that he needed to remind Cao Qian, pulled his sleeve, and they tried to use a gentle tone to call Cao Qian to inquire about life.
Unexpectedly, Cao Qian did not pay any attention to the grades, the second elder thought that the child had some signs of degeneration in the university, and Cao Qian's violent temper had somewhat exploded, and after Cao Qian hung up the phone directly on the phone.
The second call between the two sides was Cao Qian's initiative to call, the second old man was happy and quickly picked up the phone, but cao Qian said that they were a little hesitant, she wanted to study abroad, and there was an opportunity to fight, but the tuition fee was more than 70,000 yuan.
Although Cao's father is usually a little irritable to his daughter, this is the first time that his daughter has opened her mouth to ask for money from the family, and the second elder is of course willing to give two hundred percent of the strength to this only daughter, and they gritted their teeth and raised 70,000 yuan to give to Cao Qian.
You must know that 70,000 yuan in 2000 was simply an astronomical amount for a family from a peasant background, enough to buy a small house in the second-tier cities at that time, but since the daughter wanted it, how could the parents not support it?
The second elder who borrowed a bunch of debts watched Cao Qian, who gradually became an adult, get on the train, and the mood at the moment when they sent the child away I think many people have such an experience, parents are like a big tree, children are seeds, seeds need to absorb nutrients to root in a better place.
However, when the seeds blossomed, the big tree of the parents had begun to wither and grow old, and the second elder who could do nothing but cultivate the land was not the young man who could carry Cao Qian on his shoulders, but the second elder who had lost all his strength could not even farm the land.
Cao Qian stood on the shoulders of her parents who were not tall and chased her dreams, she did not know that after she left, the second elder lived a difficult life by picking up garbage and the government's low guarantee, although she did not say it, but the second elder still had a small idea in her heart, that is, her daughter returned to her hometown to honor them.
But parents never expect their children to be, only hope that they live well, live in peace, more than 10,000 miles apart, they expect Cao Qian to make a phone call to contact the family every time, the mother is old and has a small problem, but no matter how difficult it is, she will keep the only phone at home.
Spring and autumn, hot winter, often sleepy Cao Mu will drag the seriously ill body to guard the phone, guard the little Cao Qian in her heart, the wind blows in and raises Cao Mu's white hair, but also makes her tightly wrapped in sheets, the home is like empty, I think this picture is a side of the life of many parents.
But Cao Mu couldn't wait for the voice that missed her to the extreme, but she waited for the report that she had cancer.
For seventeen years, Cao Qian has not contacted the family, the second elder is completely ignorant of his daughter's life abroad, the only time he called home was in 2003, just after the end of the year Cao Qian called home, parents took the opportunity to say two more words to their daughters.
Before this longing reached the other side of the ocean along the telephone line, Cao Qian proposed that her life was very tight, because in addition to the tuition fee of 70,000 yuan, Cao Qian's living expenses had to be maintained by her own part-time work, and the family had already emptied the family foundation for tuition fees.
So Cao Qian said on the phone that her life in Germany was actually not as beautiful as imagined, and the body of the second old man at that time had begun to go downhill, but after hearing that her daughter's life was miserable, she still tried to find a way to make up 33,000 yuan for her daughter.
Later, Cao Qian also made a phone call, but this time Cao Zhaogang was very angry, because after the last call, Cao Qian did not contact her home for a year, and the angry Cao Father angrily scolded on the phone, "I thought you were dead, so long time did not call home."
Later, they lost contact with their daughter, but thoughts and worries were always the constant topic of parents to their children, although the daughter did not call home, but from her classmates, she heard that her daughter was doing well and became a German citizen.
In the gossip again and again, the second elder began to look for his daughter, and they first got a lot of different statements from their classmates, some said that their daughter had become a professor abroad, and some people said that the daughter had already had a child, but no matter what, the daughter was like giving up the family.
But they did not believe, in 2005, the Chinese Embassy in Germany accepted the second elder's entrustment to find Cao Qian, to their happiness is that the daughter is not dead, still alive, the bad news is that Cao Qian is really married abroad, for the embassy to find the door when Cao Qian is unwilling to face the room has been hiding in the room and do not respond.
In 2018, Cao Zhaogang and his wife, one with bone cancer and one with breast cancer, their time is short, and they are the only regret for their daughter who has no news, they do not want to give up, especially Cao Qian's mother hopes to see her daughter before leaving, even if it is a photo.
Their feelings for their daughter touched many German students, and at this time, the network was very developed, and the local overseas Chinese in Germany have also joined in, and a transnational female search for more than 20 years has made everyone look forward to the good news.
However, after Cao Qian's classmates at the University of Hamburg in Germany contacted, a thunderbolt-like news reached their world, Cao Qian had changed her name and surname to work as a tenured professor at the school, had married and had children, and did not want to contact them again because of family conflicts.
They have waited for many years to come to such a result, but is there really any family conflict as Cao Qian said? But at this time, what is the point of pursuing it, Cao Qian's personality is very sharp, it is difficult to change the things that she believes, and from the results, Cao Qian's heart has never let go of her resentment towards her parents.
However, one side of the two sides is a parent, the other is a child, what kind of contradiction can not be solved, perhaps Cao Qian's heart has long been indifferent to family affection, or perhaps her parents stopped her dream so that she wants to torture her family with not seeing each other in this life.
But in any case, the family caused today's situation Cao Qian has to bear greater responsibility, she is so stubborn in front of her parents, because of her violent temper or because she did not let her go to school in the south, she used extreme methods to fight against her parents, to retaliate against her parents, such a character is also the same for her family in Germany?
Later, Cao's father knew that the children were unwilling to contact them, and also entrusted someone to tell Cao Qian that "I hope she will call home to report that she is safe, we do not need her to retire", but it is still a stone sinking into the sea, Cao Qian's mother Liu Yuhong is sick and wants to hear her daughter's voice, but still did not wait for the phone.
Liu Yuhong left with regrets, when he left, he still had a photo of Cao Qian when he was a child, And Cao Zhaogang on the side was crying bitterly, he didn't know what bad things he had done in his life, God wanted to punish them like this, his wife left, with regret.
Once full of laughter and laughter of the family left him alone to live alone, he also has cancer, he has no life ambition or want to live for a few more days, if he can wait for his daughter's phone he can also be satisfied to die, to the following to tell his wife to make her happy.
Until the autumn is thick, the old dizzy Cao Zhaogang watched the daughter's yellowed award on the wall slowly fall off, he was unable to move, he still leaned on the half of the phone, slightly closed his eyes, the bright smile of Cao Qian when he was a child in his mind gradually blurred, Cao Zhaogang also left, and he could not wait for Cao Qian's phone.
The village branch secretary regularly went to the door to find the body of the old man, the village together to finish the aftermath, wanted to give Cao Qian a notice but no one had contact information, this family, this old house, decades of history, have disappeared with the autumn leaves.
Perhaps from the moment they sent their daughters to the train, they lost their daughters, and later some people said that they had seen Cao Qian abroad, and when asked about the death of their parents, Cao Qian's answer was that she was too busy to go back, and the indifferent words made countless people feel cold, and they could not help but sigh for the family.
But what can you say, even if it is really the second old man's side, what kind of deep hatred can Cao Zhaogang and his wife give their daughter to make her daughter so desperate? If they really hated their daughter, how could they pay seventy thousand yuan to give Cao Qian school?
Perhaps telling this experience from Cao Qian's mouth will be another story, but why does Cao Qian resent her parents, in the whole life, Cao Zhaogang and his wife have never asked for anything, let alone received substantial help, and Cao Qian's hatred for her parents is just revenge that she can't think of.
Both sides are responsible, but modern ideological culture leads to more children and parents are equal, so they can't be scolded, blindly spoiled, step back ten thousand steps, it is really the parents who scolded, the children can remember revenge, the mythical story of Nezha is also cutting the bones and returning the father to the meat to change the mother before not recognizing the parents.
Cao Qian'en did not finish reporting and directly retaliated, is this result really good in her heart? We have no way of knowing, but it is autumn again, and we don't know if Cao Qian will shed a tear for her parents to comfort the spirit of heaven.
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