Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: divorce, marriage, love
Article length: 4300 words
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If your other half is in love with someone else and is determined to divorce you, can you keep your cool? On the verge of divorce, would you rather know what you can, or will you not quit?
It's a one-man marriage question that seems to have only 2 choices, but the answer is hazy.
In today's marriage relationships, many people have faced similar emotional distress. The so-called husband and wife feelings, when it comes to the depths, there will be tears.
When persuading others, everyone thinks that emotional problems are easy to solve. Only after personal experience did I understand that I couldn't even persuade myself!
Even if some people behave lightly, they still feel heartache. Divorce or non-divorce sometimes depends on just a thought.
Some people divorce calmly for the sake of dignity, and some people endure to the end for the sake of the family. Some people have finally saved their marriages, and some people have fallen into a complete failure.
As the saying goes, life is difficult to find a perfect trajectory, if you want to make the relationship between husband and wife absolutely harmonious, is not it a joke?
Everyone can believe that love can do miracles, but some of the realities in marriage are cruel and don't depend on whether you believe in love or not.
When a third party appears in the marriage, even if the person is successfully saved, it is difficult for the husband and wife relationship to go back to the past. At least one person has to carry the weight forward, and the heartache is only understood by themselves. Some people are obviously already miserable, but they still have to pretend not to care.
In the following, I will tell you a brief divorce case. Some marital problems are deeply a pity, and once encountered, they are both losers.
In order to save a person and a marriage, some people are not afraid of being injured all over the body, and some people have paid for their lives...
For some couples, marriage is torture
Flipping through the dossier at noon, I saw a logical marriage case from a man's experience. The following is in his tone, and I will only tell the truth, and to improve readability, I have made a little arrangement.
During those days, I wanted to divorce my wife and quarreled almost every day. Many people say I'm a scumbag and accuse me of being wrong. But regarding divorce, no matter how others scold, I have already hardened my heart.
Seriously, I don't love my wife, I don't love her at all. In the 6 years since I got married, I have only loved her for 3 months, and the rest of the time is a mental torment.
I have been able to live with her for so many years, and I have done my best. Since you don't love anymore, what's not to like about divorce? I can't be bound by her forever, and I still have my dreams.
My words seem very unconscionable, and in the eyes of some people, maybe I don't look like a man at all. But conversely, divorce was my greatest kindness to her.
Marriage without love is torture for both husband and wife, and dragging on for a day is equal to torturing a day. Since the relationship between husband and wife has long since died, why not divorce rationally and calmly?
I'm not as hypocritical as others, to tell the truth. Not loving is not loving, the sooner the better, there is nothing to explain.
In order to get a divorce, I said all the good things and begged my wife to understand me and fulfill me. Divorce is a last resort, and only divorce can lead to their own happy lives.
I told my wife many times: I really don't love you anymore, there is a woman who is more important than you. While we are both young, divorce is a more appropriate option. Do you understand me more, don't be stubborn anymore...
She said: You swore to love me for the rest of your life and never abandon me. I believe your words, and you don't want to abandon me in this life. You can not love me, but you are not qualified to ask me how to do it. I will never divorce unless I die, and it is not too late for you to find another one...
I made it clear to her that divorce is not an emotional abandonment, but for the sake of each other's future. I am willing to give you enough compensation to let you have no worries for the rest of your life, and I only hope that we will get together and disperse. I have my pursuit, I believe you have your thoughts in your heart, point to the point is not OK?
I've made it clear enough that if she's still sane, I should think carefully about why I have to divorce her.
She didn't understand my good intentions, and she actually forced me to die. She cried on the phone and said I wanted to kill her...
Second, men can hide their grievances until the end
She knew that I didn't have her in my heart anymore, but she didn't know how to make trade-offs. In her obstinate will, she did something stupid that could never be saved...
During a fight that day, she jumped from the 3rd floor. Although rescued, he was also left with a lifelong disability.
For her, this is the biggest regret in life. For me, too, it was a lifetime of guilt.
I remember what she said that day: Listen, never try to replace me with another woman, even if I die, I am your wife. Even if it is a ghost, I will haunt you and make you feel guilty for a lifetime. Goodbye, take care of 2 children...
I didn't expect her to dare to jump, and by the time I tried to stop her, she had already hung up the phone and couldn't get through again. I came home in a panic and heard that she had been taken to the hospital...
She was unfortunate and fortunate that she had lost consciousness on both legs, but fortunately she was still alive.
This kind of thing happens every day, never thought it would happen to her.
What else can I say? Since she was so stubborn, I had to give up my intention to divorce. I am willing to take care of her for the rest of my life and make up for the guilt in my heart.
Many people in the community said that I was a scumbag and forced my wife to look like this for another woman.
Am I a scumbag?
Actually I have my troubles.
I didn't fall in love with another woman, that was just an excuse for my divorce, and I hope my wife won't pester.
Men always have to make themselves miserable, and I can hide my grievances until the end. There were some things I didn't say thoroughly, not only for the dignity of the 2 of us, but also for the growth of 2 children...
Even if we have no love for a long time, at least there is always a little affection. If you can get together and disperse, that's the best thing.
From any point of view, I really don't want to tear my face with my wife. If she could understand my pain, she should let go of it calmly, instead of being stupid and stubborn to the end, and she would not jump down the stairs in anger.
Third, the things in the relationship, do not easily say right or wrong
I don't understand if other men are scumbags, and as far as I'm concerned, I'm not. Even now that I'm divorced from her, I'm still a person with a clear conscience.
In the relationship, you can't say who is right and who is wrong, everyone has their own troubles. I want to talk about my wife and my past, and that unspeakable relationship experience!
Let's start with 7 years ago...
At first, I loved my wife, even if I was not her first love, even if she had conceived and beaten others, I was still willing to protect her. At that time, love can create miracles, even if I go to the soup for her, I will not have any hesitation.
Unfortunately, our love has encountered many setbacks and tribulations.
Although she was with me, she never forgot her ex-boyfriend. She was obviously in a relationship with me, but she often hid it from me to meet my ex-boyfriend. As for what was done, she knew better than I did.
I can understand the pain in her heart, and I can understand that she is difficult to give up. But she was my woman after all, and I couldn't accept that kind of thing.
I once asked her: If you can't forget your ex-boyfriend, you should get back together early, and we'll both get together and disperse. I just need a clear attitude from you, think about it and then answer me, who do you choose?
She cried and apologized to me: both of you are good men and I don't want to hurt anyone. You give me 3 days and I give you a reply.
I thought she wouldn't give me another reply, after all she went to her ex-boyfriend's house, which was a clear refusal.
I was sad after the separation that day, drank 8 bottles of wine, and couldn't sleep all night. As a man, that was the first time I was forced by love to the point where I could only cry!
I asked myself many times that night: Can love bargain like this? She clearly didn't think of me as the only one, so why should I be sad for her...
I didn't expect that she only thought about it for 1 day and sent me a message: Are you free, let's go and shoot the wedding dress?
Happiness came so suddenly that I burst into tears of excitement and went to her without eating. We didn't mention the past again, and in joy we photographed the wedding dress and got engaged.
I thought all the suffering was over, but reality caught me off guard. After only 3 months of marriage, she betrayed her marriage vows.
She was pregnant with my child, went to see her ex again, and did something unforgivable...
Fourth, that thing is like a demon
She thought I would never know about it, but I did. It's one thing to say or not to say it, it's another thing to forget or not to forget.
She had just become pregnant with her eldest and had taken advantage of the fact that I was not at home and dated her ex-boyfriend.
I was the driver of the unit, and I should have sent the leader to a meeting in the field, because some things did not work out. On the way back that day, I saw her walking with her ex-boyfriend, and I also saw her wipe her tears.
My heart suddenly went cold, and if it weren't for the face of my real colleagues, I would definitely get out of the car and look for her.
When I got home, I called her over and over again, and she said she was shopping with her sister. Speaking with sound and color, more wonderful than saying crosstalk, playing me like a fool.
I not only had anger in my heart, but also an unspeakable sense of inferiority. We've only been married for 3 months and she's like that, I'm scared. The man is still pursuing her bitterly, and I am afraid that their feelings will rekindle...
Don't say I'm in the pocket, you can't understand my mood at that time, that half a day is like a year.
She didn't come home until 10 p.m., and I didn't know what had happened to them, after all I hadn't seen it with my own eyes. But I saw her panic and the shallow marks on her neck.
In the second half of the night, she had sweat all over her forehead and cried that her stomach hurt. She said maybe she drank cold water, her stomach hurt, she was worried about the child, and asked me to take her to the hospital...
The doctor criticized me: you men only take care of yourself, remember it later, don't have sex in the first 3 months, bear with it.
I haven't been willing to touch her since she was pregnant, and how thoroughly do you want me to say?
It's a shame for my whole life, but I didn't say it.
Fortunately, the child is fine, otherwise I would have turned my face to her. I'd rather let everyone see the hat on my head than let her fall into disrepute.
It didn't take long for her ex-boyfriend to get married and never contact her again. At least in my opinion, she didn't quietly do anything out of the ordinary again.
Maybe with the child, she learned about life. For almost 6 years afterwards, she was very nice to me and kept the house in good order. She is very able to bear hardships, gentle and considerate, and gave birth to a second treasure for me.
Don't I just want a peaceful day? Now that the incident is over, I should forget that there is no need to destroy a harmonious marriage relationship.
But can I really forget?
As a man, I patted my heart and said, I have never forgotten in 6 years! I had long since stopped loving her, and this kind of thing was like a heart demon that tormented me forever. I can't escape it, one day I'll break down!
Fifth, some things are said to be harmful
In terms of reason, the meaning of husband and wife is to understand each other, and affection is greater than reason. Since she loves me, I don't have to argue with her.
I also understand that some things are harmful when they are thoroughly stated. Not to say it for the dignity of both of us, and the growth of the child.
But I didn't love her for a long time, and I couldn't fool myself. I've been with her for 6 years and I've done my best.
I gently proposed divorce, hoping that she would take the initiative to realize her mistake and divorce calmly. But she didn't understand my good intentions, and she refused to divorce with her death.
If I had known this would have happened, I would have made it clear in advance. Let her understand that divorce is for a reason, don't feel wronged...
The marriage case ended here, a few months ago by a man. I wrote it because the follow-up to the case is intriguing.
The other day, the man's wife was gone. Gone forever with regrets, out of this world.
I will continue to tell you in his tone.
That day my wife said: You hurt me like this, did you get your wish?
I said: I'm sorry for you, don't be so stupid in the future.
I wanted to keep the secret in my heart forever and take care of her for the rest of my life. But her father brought her brother to beat me, and my parents slapped me to protect me.
I can beat me, I can't be unreasonable to my parents. I no longer had any scruples and said the anger and grievances that had been hidden in my heart for 6 years.
I asked her: Do you remember what you did when you were pregnant with the eldest? Why did you ask me to take you to the hospital in the second half of the night, do you dare to say? You really think I'm an idiot don't you? In front of your family, you answered me. I have hinted at you again and again that divorce is the best option, but you always feel that you are wronged. Today I have spoken thoroughly, you touch your conscience and say, who has failed whom...
She was silent, and although her dad and brother had repeatedly denied it, not believing she could do such a thing, her tears had proven it all...
I don't want to pursue the matter any further, but I hope no one will mention the old story. But she couldn't think straight, so she left me and the child and left alone.
That night she cried and asked me: You already knew, why don't you make it clear? I always thought you didn't know, and if you had made it clear earlier, I wouldn't have been so stupid. I agreed to divorce you and not delay you any longer...
The next day I went to take care of her living quarters, and she was already gone. The deep wound on the wrist was shocking. Maybe with guilt, maybe with regret, I hope she's happy over there...
The marriage case is written here, I will not say superfluous words, just truthfully narrate. I don't express any opinions, the article itself is the opinion, everyone has their own opinion.
In my spare time at noon, I discussed the case with a few colleagues and sisters, which was compiled into next month's monthly magazine. For many, this is both a revelation and a profound lesson.
Let you say, who is right and who is wrong with this couple?
There is a view that things in the relationship are not right or wrong, but in the end, the guilty person is right and wrong.
It depends on how the readers understand it.
In principle, love is an attachment. The path of feelings is complicated, and every wrong step comes at a cost. Some of the costs are very heavy, and if you are not careful, it is a lifetime...
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