In today's society, there are still many male families, who feel that as long as a girl marries into her own family, then all her things are her own family's things, and it has nothing to do with her own mother's family. Not only that, they also want girls to take all the resources of their mother-in-law's family to their in-laws to use. They also do not let the woman take care of her parents, they feel that since the girl is married, she can only manage her own family, and can no longer manage her mother's family.
Such an idea is very wrong. Even if a girl is married, she is still the child of her parents, and she still has the responsibility and obligation to raise her parents. As a man's family, you can't stop a girl from taking care of her parents.
And you can't blindly take things from the girl's body, and you can't take all the dowry of the girl for your own use, and completely disregard the girl's wishes.
Even in ancient times, the dowry of the wife was to be brought back by the mother-in-law, and there was no such thing as putting it in the in-laws' house.
01.
The phoenix man stands out and is filial to his parents.
Zhao Yi is the second eldest in the family, and he has a sister above him. But Zhao Yi's family is relatively poor, and he has been a farmer for generations. The parents did not have a great vision, so they only had to work hard to cultivate the land and provide Zhao Yi out.
From the beginning of Zhao Yi's understanding, he was taught by his parents that only by studying well could he change the fate of the family. Under the education of his parents, Zhao Yi was also very competitive. Since junior high school, he has been what other parents call "someone else's child." Not only is he sensible, but he also studies very well and never causes trouble for his parents. For this reason, Zhao Yi was also jealous of many people.
Zhao Yi has never been disturbed by the sounds of the outside world, starting from the fact that he can help the family, he goes home every day after school to help his parents, try to reduce the pressure of his parents' lives, so that his parents can work less.
But Zhao Yi's academic performance has never fallen, from junior high school to high school, he has always attended the local key school. Academic performance has also been among the best. After the end of the college entrance examination, he was admitted to the first school in the province.
After graduating from college for four years, he chose to return to his hometown and stay with his parents to take care of them, because he knew that it was not easy for his parents to raise him. Less than two years after Zhao Yi graduated from college, his parents began to urge him to get married, so he began a blind date.
Then he met Wang Ru, and the first time he saw Wang Ru, he fell in love with Wang Ru. Wang Ru is not only very beautiful, but also has a very gentle personality. He felt that he and Wang Ru would definitely make their parents' lives better, so he began to pursue Wang Ru. Wang Ru also has a good feeling for Zhao Yi, she feels that Zhao Yi is very filial, and he is also polite and polite.
After a while, the two were together. Half a year later, the two of them took each other to see their parents, and Zhao Yi's family was very satisfied, because Wang Ru's family was better off, and if Wang Ru married over, then Zhao Yi would definitely have a better appearance.
But Wang Ru's family was not so satisfied, after all, Zhao Yi's family situation was there. Although they don't care very much, everyone wants a door-to-door family. However, at Wang Ru's insistence, they finally agreed to the marriage.
After the two families discussed the relevant details of marriage, Wang Ru's mother bought a house for Wang Ru in the county because she was distressed about Wang Ru, and wrote Wang Ru's name, so that the younger two could live in after they got married. Moreover, the dowry given by Wang Ru's parents to Wang Ru was also particularly rich.
Zhao Yi's parents were already very satisfied with this marriage, and now they are even more satisfied. Then Wang Ru married Zhao Yi with the blessing of her relatives and friends, and began their married life.
02.
For the sake of his own face, the boy completely disregarded his wife's wishes.
Because Zhao Yi's sister was also married, after marriage, Zhao Yi had planned to live with his parents. But Wang Ru's mother had already bought a house, so he came to the city with Wang Ru. And the parents stayed in their hometown.
Although Zhao Yi's education is very high, but because his work qualifications are relatively small, and the city where they are located is a third-tier city, with the help of Wang Ru's father, the salary of the job he found is not high, only 3500 yuan.
Wang Ru, because of her parents' relationship and her ability, found a job with a relatively high salary. And after marriage, most of the family's expenses are responsible for Wang Ru.
At this time, Zhao Yi was also very fond of Wang Ru, and from time to time, she would give Wang Ru some small surprises, and Wang Ru's personality was also relatively gentle, so she had never quarreled with Zhao Yi.
Until this day, Wang Ru's father had some discomfort at home, so Wang Ru went to visit her father. It happened that the mother-in-law came to Zhao Yi's house on this day, and when she saw that Wang Ru was not at home, she asked Zhao Yi where Wang Ru had gone.
Zhao Yi told her that Wang Ru had returned to her mother's house, and at that time, her mother-in-law was not happy, and said to Zhao Yi, "You tell your daughter-in-law, if you marry, don't always run to your mother's house, what does it look like?" ”
After Wang Ru returned, Zhao Yi conveyed his mother's meaning to Wang Ru, and Wang Ru was a little unhappy at that time, but she did not say much.
What Wang Ru didn't expect was that before this matter had passed, Zhao Yi did something that made her even more angry. It turned out that not long after, Zhao Yi's sister's child was about to have a birthday. And because Zhao Yi is more prominent in the family, her mother-in-law wants Zhao Yi to run this birthday party.
What Wang Ru did not expect was that Zhao Yi, a phoenix man, earned 3500 a month, but he spent 20,000 yuan on his nephew's birthday. After Wang Ru knew the cost of her birthday, she went to check her bank card, and sure enough, it was true. It was spent by Zhao Yi for twenty thousand yuan.
03.
The wife retaliates against the phoenix man and makes him regret it.
Although Wang Ru was very angry now, she also knew that it would not have a big effect on her being angry now, and Zhao Yi would still be like that, and she might even beat a rake backwards and say that she was stingy. So she decided to give Zhao Yi a warning.
So when Wang Ru paid her salary next month, she deliberately told Zhao Yi, "Our unit has something to do this month, so our salary has not been paid down, it will be sent down together next month, and my bank card has been temporarily borrowed by my parents." The two of us can only rely on you this month. I'll just leave it alone. ”
After Zhao Yi heard this, the vanity in his heart was immediately satisfied, but he had never thought about how his own salary could support the family's life. Sure enough, in the middle of this month, Zhao Yi told Wang Ru, "Wife, do you want to ask your parents to borrow some money, my salary is spent." ”
But Wang Ru said to Zhao Yi, "Didn't my mother-in-law not let me run to my mother's house more, I only went back to see my parents two days ago, is it not good to go again so soon?" Will the mother-in-law have an opinion? ”
After listening to Wang Ru's words, Zhao Yi knew that Wang Ru was retaliating against him. But after Wang Ru's revenge this time, he also completely cleared up. He said to Wang Ru, "When I make a decision in the future, I will tell you that I will not keep you in the dark again." Are you forgiving me well. ”
Zhao Yi also persuaded his mother after this. After that, the two people were reconciled.
In a marriage relationship, the husband and wife should respect each other, no matter what decisions they make, they should tell each other, do not feel that this matter has nothing to do with their other half, so they do not know him at all. This is extremely sad and sad for your other half. Because in his heart, you are the one who wants to spend your life with him.
Because you, as his pillow person, you make a decision without telling him, he will feel that he has no place in your heart, he will feel that you have not put him in your heart. This will make him question the feelings between the two of you, and in the end, if serious, it may cause the marriage between the two of you to break down.
As a husband, you should not interfere too much with your wife returning to her mother's house to take care of her parents, this is her responsibility and obligation, you as her husband, you should have gone with her. Instead of blindly accusing her. And when your mother accuses her, you should also help her speak, not conform to your mother.