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With the increase of social pressure, the problem of marriage and love among young people has become more and more prominent.
Many marriageable men and women are not only difficult to find a good couple, but even basic love is reluctant to try.
In fact, when the elders are worried about the future of their children, they must also keep up with the development of the times and understand the emotional needs of the children's hearts.
The hero in the next case has been going around on the road to find a partner.
Xiao Guang is already thirty years old this year, but this feeling has not been lost.
His family has long been unhappy about his affairs, and in addition to his parents, other relatives have also taken turns to fight for him.
But Xiao Guang's kindness to relatives and family members is really a headache.
Even as soon as he heard someone knocking on the door at home, he was afraid.
Originally, when he graduated, he had a girlfriend who had been talking for more than a year.
Unfortunately, because of the distance, I finally broke up.
Later, I also fell in love at work, and soon after, I was broken up because I didn't have a house.
After the family knew, they were a little too unwilling to go, so they discussed buying the new house first and preparing it.
Xiao Guang was helpless in his heart, but society was so realistic, and he couldn't do anything about it.
Then after the new house was bought, it was put away and not decorated, and I thought about it when I got married.
But after buying the house, XiaoGuang has no strength to fall in love.
He often remembers how wonderful it was to be in love on campus before, not thinking about money and houses at all, and eating some street food is already very happy.
But since I went to work, I found that this love was becoming more and more uninteresting. It's all about conditions and substances, cold.
Now that the house has been bought, he is even less anxious, thinking of slowly finding a confidant.
But after several years, he was still alone, and the family could not sit still.
The enthusiastic aunt of the family took the lead in opening her mouth: "Xiao Guang, you are not small!" The house is also ready for you, hurry up and fall in love. ”
But Xiao Guang was helpless in his heart, and he had to smile and giggle on his face: "Auntie, this girlfriend is not easy to find, and I want to meet the right one." ”
The aunt immediately said that this matter was wrapped up in her, and said that she had many sisters, and it was not difficult to introduce a few girls.
In this way, Xiao Guang embarked on the road of blind date.
The aunt of the family looked after a girl in two days, who was a nurse in the hospital, and the long cute person was also diligent.
Unable to resist the persuasion of his parents, Xiao Guang still went to meet according to the agreed time and place.
Xiao Guang ordered two drinks and sat in the café bored and waited.
A moment later a car drove up and a pretty girl stepped down.
She pushed the door in and made a phone call, and walked towards Xiao Guang.
As soon as he sat down, he simply said hello to Xiao Guang, and then called the waiter to ask for another cup of coffee.
The girl straightened her hair and asked Xiao Guang where she had parked the car, and said that it was not easy for her to turn in.
But Xiao Guang could only say slightly embarrassed: "Ah that, I don't have a car, I came by bus." ”
The girl on the other side is very generous, busy saying that it is not convenient to park now, and it is better to drive than not to drive.
Having said that, the girl was obviously not interested in Xiao Guang, and sat on the side and played with her mobile phone.
At this time, Xiao Guang was very embarrassed, and he regretted very much why he wanted to come on a blind date.
After the coffee came, the girl made the excuse to go to the toilet, and bought the account by the way.
When he came back and sat for a while, he said that he still had something to do, and before leaving, he told Xiao Guang about the things he had paid for.
Xiao Guang sat alone in his seat in a trance, and his heart suddenly went up and down.
When he got home, the family asked him how he was, and he listlessly said that it was fine, and then closed himself in the door.
He lay in bed and turned on his phone and looked at his balance.
Looking at the more than eighty thousand yuan he had saved, he gradually narrowed his eyes.
At dinner in the evening, he told his family that he wanted to buy a car and told him what happened today.
The family naturally supported his decision, and his mother also said: "Buy it, now it is necessary to fall in love with a caravan." If you are ready to take eighty thousand, I will add some to you with your father and buy a good one at a time. ”
Immediately after that, the family took advantage of the weekend holiday and went to the 4S store to pick up a C-class Mercedes.
Xiao Guang did not expect his parents to support him in buying such a good car, and he hesitated for a while.
But my parents said that I would also buy a marriage in the future, and it was good to be in place at once.
After picking up the car, Xiao Guang found that having a car was really different. Not only did friends and colleagues throw envious and jealous eyes, but even the unit security master was very polite.
More and more people introduced him to him, and even a few female colleagues released their good feelings for him.
But the more this happens, the less Xiao Guang has the heart to fall in love.
Although he did not lack the material conditions of love, his resistance was even stronger.
For the overtures of relatives and friends, he became more and more disgusted, and only felt hypocritical and helpless.
But he was already thirty years old, and the family was really starting to worry.
This time, his mother asked a friend to introduce him to a girl named Xiaoqing, who was engaged in design and was beautiful.
The mother felt that her son would definitely be satisfied this time, after all, she had seen the photos, and the appearance was very cute.
She was soft and hard at the same time, so that she could talk evilly, and only then did she coax Xiao Guang to agree to go on a blind date.
Under the supervision of his mother, he dressed up handsomely, then took the car keys and left.
The family was waiting at home, somewhat expectantly. Fortunately, after Xiao Guang returned at night, he said that although the contact time was a little short, he felt fine, and the family was happy to think that this time it should be able to be done.
Three days later, the two made an appointment and prepared to meet again.
It was also their first official date.
At six o'clock in the evening, Xiao Guang waited for Xiaoqing's arrival in the beautifully decorated restaurant.
After more than half an hour, Xiaoqing actually walked towards Xiaoguang with several female friends.
Seeing this scene, Xiao Guang felt a little strange, how there were many other people.
It turned out that Xiaoqing had called out to her good sister and wanted to test Xiao Guang together.
After sitting down, Xiaoqing took the menu and ordered a lot of dishes with her sisters, completely ignoring the menu price.
In the gap between waiting for the dish, Xiaoqing asked Xiao Guang's marriage house in front of the sisters which community to buy, and how much flat.
When I learned whether it was a bungalow or a three-bedroom and two-hall, my expression was still quite satisfied.
Then she asked him about his work income and car model, and Xiao Guang's answer was quite satisfactory to her.
After asking a large circle, Xiaoqing saw that the sisters did not object, so she asked the sisters to talk as well.
Her little sister suddenly said everything to you, and all of them were praising Xiaoqing.
After a while, he said that the people who chased her were all rich second generations, and it was a blessing that Xiao Guang could catch up with her.
After a while, he said that Xiaoqing had a good personality and a good job, and it was difficult to find a lantern.
Xiao Guang felt very uncomfortable at this time, just like being interviewed and assessed.
Finally he watched the girls eat happily, and he only drank a few sips of water himself.
When it was over, Xiao Guang took the initiative to shout Xiaoqing aside.
Before he could speak, Xiaoqing said that his friends were quite satisfied with him, had passed the examination, and were just ready to turn around and leave.
Xiao Guang smiled and said, "Stay, let's make the meal aA system." ”
The girl thought she had heard wrongly and turned her head to look at him questioningly.
Xiao Guang said, "I'm sorry, the feelings I want are not cold condition exchanges." Besides, if you bring so many friends, I didn't say yes. ”
Xiaoqing was angry and shy, but she was not too ugly in public, and finally AA paid and left.
After Xiao Guang returned home, he told his parents not to show for him anymore, after all, feelings are not child's plays and are not an exchange of interests...
In the end, Xiao Guang in the case still can't accept the marriage of only looking at materials, which tells us that we must not only consider reality when choosing feelings, but also understand the following two truths.
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One: a healthy marriage relationship must be a two-way choice.
Marriage and love relationships will always be a hot topic in society.
And men and women of the right age are also trying to find their other half.
However, at present, people's emotional problems are getting more and more difficult.
In the final analysis, people's hearts are now complicated, and their demands have become more numerous.
Just like the male protagonist in the case, it is difficult to start a normal relationship without a house and a car.
But having material things, I can't meet a girl who is willing to give affection.
Therefore, although the feeling is inseparable from the material, it is not separated from the heart of the two people.
To know good feelings, it must be a two-way choice.
This is the guidance of the mind, not just the trade-offs of matter.
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Two: On the issue of marriage and love, women must have an opinion.
The importance of marriage to women is self-evident.
Therefore, many girls like to let their parents and friends check for themselves.
As everyone knows, parents can still believe it, but friends are very immature when they are mixed in.
Xiaoqing in the case actually called her friend to eat and drink on the first date.
This immature behavior immediately wiped out the boy's good feelings.
Therefore, in the matter of marriage, the girl herself must be independent and assertive.
Don't give others a lead by the nose, and everyone will follow the clouds.
Know that happiness is fleeting, and don't miss a lifetime of dependence because of your naivety.
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As the saying goes: May you have one heart, and the white head will not be separated.
That being said, it's not easy to get what you want.
Therefore, we should not be anxious on the road of feelings, let alone speculate.
To know that rare people and feelings are not so easy to appear.
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