In this world, there are always some people who take their marriage as a child's play. If they only affect their own lives, others certainly won't say anything, but there are always two people in a marriage. If you don't take your marriage seriously, there will always be another person who will be affected and will be condemned by others. Marriage requires a person to mature gradually, and a person needs to become responsible and responsible. What he needs is to always stand with his lover. What he needs is the gradual acceptance of the two people and the gradual integration of the two people. Things in a marriage can't be separated forever. If a man really has his lover in his heart, he wants to give him the best thing in the world instead of becoming haggard, and even a man's lover should be wary of fear that he will become a loser in this marriage. This is not called marriage at all, but a person's consideration of their own interests.
People always say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are opposites. No matter what happens to the mother-in-law, there will be a gap between the daughter-in-law and the daughter-in-law, which requires the efforts of the husband. However, if the husband stands with the mother-in-law, acquiesces in all the actions of the mother-in-law, and never protects the wife, then this marriage is not a disaster for women.
Li Wenjie has such a husband and mother-in-law. Her husband didn't want to be the bad guy, so her mother-in-law chose the one to talk to, while her husband chose to acquiesce in all of her mother-in-law's actions. Whether what the mother-in-law says is reasonable or not, the mother-in-law is willing to be a bad person for her son. Li Wenjie finally saw the mother and son performing double reeds for her, and after tasting regret, they chose to divorce.
01. The mother-in-law who deliberately creates trouble and the husband who never stops.
Li Wenjie and Liu Kai have been married so far. Thinking about their marriage, Li Wenjie found that there were almost no happy memories.
She will always be a mother-in-law who tries to pick the wrong person, a husband who will never speak even if he argues fiercely. Her friends always said that her husband couldn't fart with a stick, and Li Wenjie thought it was a man's nature. Men can never understand the war between women. Later, Li Wenjie found that his husband was not unaware of this, but he chose to be laissez-faire, which actually benefited his mother, no matter how much his mother did.
When Li Wenjie was the most tired and tired, his mother-in-law always made some unreasonable demands. For example, when Li Wenjie returned from overtime, she saw that her mother-in-law had no choice but to cook her own meals. She originally wanted to eat a few bowls of noodles, but her mother-in-law only wanted to eat dumplings. Her mother-in-law even said that if Li Wenjie did not make this meal today, she would go on a hunger strike in the future, and Li Wenjie had no choice but to wrap dumplings with noodles. After eating, the mother-in-law ate a few bites and then put it down, while Liu Kai directly chose not to eat. Later, Li Wenjie knew that the two had already eaten. She did not tell her mother-in-law that she wanted to eat dumplings on a whim, but Li Wenjie was still washing dishes in the middle of the night. Li Wenjie became more and more aggrieved. Her mother-in-law treated her like this. She can also say that it is difficult to get along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, seeing her mother laughing at herself, her husband Liu Kai remained indifferent. This made Li Wenjie very sad. After all, they are husband and wife, where the husband deliberately watches his wife suffer.
Thinking of when the two fell in love, Liu Kai was not like this. Although he also has some straight men, he will help Li Wenjie when she encounters difficulties. Later, he would defend her in front of outsiders. I don't know why. On the contrary, after marriage, when the mother-in-law deliberately embarrassed Liu Kai, Liu Kai should choose to ignore this.
Li Wenjie complained, and the answer I got from Liu Kai did not show that the relationship between the two of you was not good. Later, Li Wenjie thought her husband was blind. It's better to ask others than to ask yourself. Sometimes men can't count on it.
02. For the mother-in-law who proposed the AA system, her husband not only did not stop, but acquiesced.
One thing that undermined the family's apparent calm was that her mother-in-law proposed the AA system. The reason why the mother-in-law proposed this system is not because of fairness, but she is worried that Li Wenjie will take advantage of them.
Li Wenjie's family has some special circumstances. Her father was in a wheelchair for a stroke a few years ago. Therefore, Li Wenjie also went home to take care of his father for a while. However, liu kai never came to see his father-in-law except for sending a fruit basket, and his mother-in-law could not count on it. The mother-in-law rarely touches the relationship between the parents, so the mother-in-law shows her attitude and never hides herself. She was used to these Li Wenjie. She sometimes wondered what her marriage had brought her and why she still insisted on doing so. The mother-in-law caused trouble because of her husband's indifference, which eventually made her a little tired. As a result, she also had the idea of divorce, but she didn't continue to think about it because of the various things that had accumulated in her life.
Later, her brother reached the age of marriage, and she sometimes helped her brother, but she never wanted to be a pro-devil brother, and her brother didn't ask her sister to do anything for him, but her mother-in-law didn't think so. Her mother-in-law worried that Li Wenjie would move their money in order to get her brother married. Of course, Li Wenjie's mother-in-law doesn't care, but how can her money be missed by others?
In order to prevent what she thought would happen, her mother-in-law took the initiative to propose the AA system with Li Wenjie. Li Wenjie subconsciously asked Liu Kai for help, but Liu Kai turned his head, and Li Wenjie understood that Liu Kai agreed. She was still thinking about divorce, but now she was angry. The AA system is the AA system, and she can't let the mother and child look down on her.
03. Mother-in-law's regret.
Li Wenjie always silently implements the requirements made by his mother-in-law. In fact, the proposal of the AA system has saved Li Wenjie a lot of trouble. The AA system is really a good reason to refuse to do things. Li Wenjie no longer had to pay for this hypocritical mother and son. She has more time for her job, her ability to do a very good job, but her family is a liability to her. Without these limitations, her performance gradually became the first place in the company.
Look at Liu Kai and her mother-in-law. Because Liu Kai's name is written on the property deed, the repayment of the mortgage is handed over to Liu Kai, and Li Wenjie pays 800 yuan per month according to their rent. The renovation fee was paid by his family. If you want to eat, you have to pay for the meal. You need Li Wenjie's consent to whatever you want at home. These things were all her money, and her mother-in-law sometimes cooked her own meals. As long as the stove is moved, Li Wenjie will not hesitate to ask for money. After all, her mother-in-law did everything first. How could these things be blamed on her.
Quarrel, serious execution. Six months later, her mother-in-law cried and demanded that things in the home should not be moved without consent. Her mother-in-law gradually felt that this life could not continue. Just half a year later, her mother-in-law was crying to change the AA system, but there was nothing you could do in this world.
However, Li Wenjie gradually grew tired of this life. She can take care of herself. Why should she face this pile of mother and son who make her unhappy, she finally chose to divorce. Of course, she took everything with her before the divorce, including the furniture at home and various necessities of life. What's wrong with her packing the wallpaper together. After all, it was her money.
Therefore, when you are a man, you have to leave the room. When you do things perfectly, others will only choose to do better. Then, when you regret it and want to go back, you will find that you have not had a chance for a long time, and you will stay on the front line to meet the future. Many people understand this simple truth, but they just can't do it, when they taste the bitter fruit, how do they deserve to be forgiven by others? After all, the source of everything is their own. They think they can gain the upper hand for a while. It is themselves who never want to suffer, so take responsibility for their actions. It's not anyone's fault.
Even if a couple can't help and respect each other as much as guests, they deserve the most basic respect. Two people who are married are family. What's the use of a man who can't even protect his wife? When a wife is in trouble, a man's first instinct is to run away, which is not only selfish but useless.