Now there is a contradiction between many children and parents, that is, after the children start a family, they will follow the habits of the previous people and want their parents to help bring up the children. But parents who have just retired and are just planning to enjoy old age are not everyone willing to participate in such trivialities of life. And some children can't understand, they will feel that their parents are too desperate.
But we actually think about it, the real obligation of parents is to raise their children healthy and happy, not to tie their children to their children for the rest of their lives, so when children want their parents to drag their old bodies to continue to help themselves, they should also think about whether they have fulfilled their children's obligations.
And now most of the children also understand this, the parents to take care of the children at the same time, will give the parents a good old age life, which can also be regarded as mutual help, but also to achieve a real family harmony. And we also hope that more and more children can give up those ideas and attitudes that are taken for granted, and understand the real hardships and difficulties of parents.
01. Retired mother-in-law comes
help
After Liu Jia and Kang Si got married, they did not want to live in their hometown for a lifetime, so after careful discussion, the two people chose to come to Beijing for development, because although they did not have any connections and relationships, but their academic qualifications and abilities were good, they felt that as long as they could stay, they would always have their own place to stay.
With this belief, the two people are very hard at work, after five years in Beijing, they have finally saved enough for a down payment of a house, although the location is remote, the house is only more than forty square meters, but it is also very good to have a house of their own in Beijing.
But after buying a house, it also means that two people will have to bear a high mortgage, although the two people have given each other a preventive injection before, but the plan can not catch up with the change, in the second year of buying a house, Liu Jia found out that she was pregnant.
The two have been married for more than six years at this time, and it is particularly unrealistic to beat up the child, but Liu Jia's company will drop her salary by half when she takes maternity leave, which means that the pressure on the two people will be greatly increased.
This made the pressure on the two people finally not so much, Liu Jia was also under the care of her mother, her physical condition was getting better and better, after the pregnancy of October passed, Liu Jia gave birth to a beautiful little girl.
The birth of the child makes everyone very happy, but Kang Si, who bears the financial pressure alone, is almost unable to hold on, so Liu Jia returned to the company to start work immediately after the confinement, which means that almost all the household chores in the family have to fall on Liu Jia's mother.
02. After the husband and wife discuss, give the mother-in-law 5,000 yuan per month
After all, Liu Jia was a little unbearable to bother her mother, and Kang Si had always been grateful, always thinking of doing something to make up for her mother-in-law.
After discussion, the two finally decided to give all the family expenses to Liu Jia's mother every month, and after adding the living expenses they calculated for Liu Jia's mother, they planned to give Liu Jia's mother 5,000 yuan a month.
In addition to the hydropower, in fact, Liu Jia's mother does not have to care about anything, so this 5,000 pieces. When she took it out, Liu Jia's mother felt that there was some more, but Kang Si and Liu Jia insisted on letting her accept it, and she did not say more after thinking about it.
Later, when Kang Si was paying money, her mother-in-law no longer resigned, and every time she received it all according to the order, but the 5,000 yuan mother-in-law did not spend on herself, because she herself had a pension, and she was willing to accept the 5,000 yuan, but also to reassure Liu Jia and Kang Si.
It wasn't until half a year later that Liu Jia and Kang Si knew that 5,000 yuan was spent at all, and Liu Jia's mother didn't spend much at all, most of it was saved, and sometimes some of it was spent on the child.
This made Liu Jia feel a little guilty, after all, her father died earlier. Although my mother said that a person is lonely, she is also very comfortable and relaxed in her hometown, and now she is pulled by herself to help, but she still has to spend her own pension.
But Liu Jia's mother did not feel so, "I and your father only have your one girlfriend, you can live well, is what we have always wanted to see, you have difficulties, I naturally want to help, and can stay with my children, grandchildren, is the life that every old man wants to live." ”
Liu Jia and Kang Si were very touched by their mother's words, and they were more relieved to hand over their homes to Liu Jia's mother, but the happiness and harmony of the four of them did not mean that others could understand such a practice.
03. Mother's approval
Kang Si's brother is such a person, because Liu Jia's mother has already lived at home, and the two of them can't often go back to visit the elderly, so almost as soon as there is a holiday, Liu Jia and Kang Si will take the initiative to go back to visit their in-laws.
Before, the family only had a few meals together and talked about home, but this time because Liu Jia's mother was in Beijing, Kang Si's brother had some curiosity, how did Kang Si usually get along with his mother-in-law?
"Don't have to get along, don't have to compromise, my mother-in-law is a very good person, now our family management is in order, of course, we can't let the family do nothing, I give my mother-in-law 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses." 」 Kang Si said truthfully, and both inside and outside the words were gratitude to Liu Jia's mother.
However, as soon as these words came out, Kang Si's brother did not understand a little, "Brother, you have to give your mother-in-law 5,000 yuan a month, is it a little too much?" And she's living in your house now, eating your drinks, and you don't have to, right? ”
Liu Jia and Kang Si were a little unhappy about this, but just when they were about to refute it, the mother-in-law spoke first, "This 5,000 yuan, your mother-in-law must not have spent it, right?" ”
Kang Si's mother knows the mind of being an elder better, so she also asked directly about the idea, Kang Si thought that this was a step that her mother deliberately found for herself, so she said everything about her mother-in-law's practice, and her brother also shut up.
After listening to it, the mother also smiled and nodded with satisfaction, "My mother is doing the right thing, if you don't pay anything, you may naturally ask us to help in the future, and now you have a sum of money, which can not only understand her hardships, but also help you save it." ”
A few words from the mother-in-law made Liu Jia and Kang Si understand the thoughts of liu jia's mother, and the two of them were also more grateful to Liu Jia's mother, and even Kang Si's brother began to learn this method later.
In fact, whether the elders take care of the younger generations or the younger generations filial piety to the elders, no one should have that kind of natural mentality. Especially when the children grow up, because the children or the pressure of things need the help of their parents, they can not feel that the parents should help themselves, feel that this is the obligation of the parents, but to learn to be grateful, to hurt the parents.
Just like Kang Si and Liu Jia, when the two people have really almost impossible to solve the trouble, Liu Jia's mother came without saying a word, and without Liu Jia and Kang Si settling down, she took on all the housework in the family. And Liu Jia and Kang Si, because they feel guilty, also gave Liu Jia's mother 5,000 yuan of living expenses, so that they will not let everyone get angry, but will let everyone better take on their current affairs, and they are also grateful to the people who come to help.
And many children should also learn from Liu Jia and Kang Si, parents are older, should be a good upbringing to spend their old age happily, willing to help with housework with children, after all, because they can not rest assured of their children, and originally should be children in turn to support their parents, but now they still have to keep their parents busy, so children should be more grateful, thank their parents well.