Everyone is afraid of marriage, but they are not afraid of marriage, they are afraid of all kinds of problems they encounter after marriage. The mountain alliance vows promised by the two people before marriage will be as light as water after marriage, and even the two parties in the marriage will no longer have the will to continue with each other.
So what exactly will happen after marriage that will make the relationship between two people develop like this? The most fundamental must be the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is now very good, but most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still have opinions on each other in their hearts, just for the sake of the family Everyone chooses not to say it.
Then the second is the problem of children, now about the birth of the child who brought this question with the hot quarrel, many people think that since the mother gave birth to the child must be the mother to bring, how can you let others bring it? But women are becoming more and more independent, they also have their own careers, let women do everything, so what is the meaning of marriage?
It is Li Xuan who shares the story today.
Working women give up on themselves for their families
Li Xuan and her boyfriend are both graduates of prestigious universities, in fact, the two of them have a particularly good relationship at school, but now that they are married, the two people are always contradictory. So the main reason for all this is that two people have children, before they have children, they think about how much to pay for the family, and after having children, the two people have to consider who brings the children at home.
From a man's point of view, Li Xuan's husband said: "Since you are a woman, the child is also out of your belly, you should take good care of the child, and then since you choose to marry me, you should protect the rear at home, I go to the front to work to earn money, why do you have to argue about this." ”
Li Xuan didn't think so, although she was a woman, her ability did not have to be bad at all. Li Xuan said: "Your words fundamentally discriminate against us women, the two of us together need to have a person to sacrifice, compared to you do not earn more than me, you also know how much money a child can talk about now, what do you think is your sacrifice?" ”
The man said angrily: "Anyway, what is in front of you is two choices, either you take care of the children at home, or let my mother come, you look at it, you are willing to choose that, choose that." After saying that, the man left, such a situation, Li Xuan can only choose to sacrifice himself, and living with an old man who is not very familiar is even more stressful.
Li Xuan, who returned to her family, did not give up the opportunity to work at all, and usually she did part-time work, because only in this way did she feel that life was meaningful. But life has to lose, once again Li Xuan was busy with his part-time job, forgot to give the child hot milk, just this time the man returned, he looked at the hungry son and immediately shouted: "What can this family expect you to do?" How is everything more important to you than a child, and if so, what is the point of giving birth to him? ”
Suddenly Li Xuan didn't know what to say, the two people were unhappy and scattered, and there was also a gap between them. Since then, Li Xuan's attitude towards men has changed, although there is no big contradiction between the two people, but there is less communication. The man felt that it might be because he ignored the other party and wanted to make up for it, but Li Xuan was not willing to take care of her at all.
Infidelity was discovered
Li Xuan snorted coldly and said, "Go to work? What do you do with a woman during work hours? My words have been said to be like this, you better come back and don't let me embarrass you. There is no way for the man to come back, and the man who has just arrived at home said: "Wife, let's get a divorce, I am out of the house, everything in the family is for you and your son." ”
Li Xuanqiang held back tears and said, "I don't want anything, so you tell me why you want to cheat?" Isn't your home not important to you at all? What is your child? Living in a single-parent family in the future, how can everything be so indifferent to you? It's really ridiculous to die. ”
The man said helplessly: "Isn't it hard for you to have no feelings?" There is no feeling between the two of us for a long time, can't you see the reality clearly? The things you encounter in life no longer need me to participate in, and the children's problems do not need me to take care of them. Even your life doesn't need me, what about me? I work so hard every day, all for this family, I just encountered any problems at work, I can't talk to you, we don't have a common language, you know? Hearing this, Li Xuan also understood, since the double hair no longer understood the other party, it was simply divided. Li Xuan said: "Divorce is OK, you don't need to get out of the house.
I don't want money, 3-year-old son you can keep
As compensation that you have not had children.
The man listened and agreed.
Raising children finds problems and it is too late to turn back
Later, men began to raise children, Li Xuan put his mind on work, Li Xuan's career found that it was getting better and better, although he said that he also wanted children in his heart, but it was already like this, it was better to create good conditions first and then take the children over.
Later, the child and the ex-husband met, and there was nothing else, Li Xuan was unwilling to hand over the child to the ex-husband, and the other party was also very sensible and did not come to pick up the child.
There may be many things in life that make us regret, what kind of attitude will we have in the face of such a situation? Surely everyone is thinking that since life is already like this, it is better to do so. Sometimes we should not give up everything for a little difficulty, every couple will encounter a period of flatness, how to make the flat is interesting is fundamental.
Again, I want to tell men that when you cheat, it is not the choice to go out of the house to solve the problem, for women they do not care about your interests, they care about how much you can pay for the family, rather than every time you encounter a problem, you choose to share, choose to cheat.
Some people say that the seven-year itch is a big obstacle between husband and wife, but many couples and couples lose confidence in each other at three years. So a lot of times it is not the problem that the two of you encounter, when you feel that the relationship between the two sides is weak, you think about how to solve it, if you encounter a problem and choose to cheat, when you encounter things, you choose to cheat, then how can there be no problem between you?