The Chinese tradition has continued the large family lifestyle for thousands of years, and has always paid great attention to the "four generations in the same house", but now young people prefer to have their own independent living space, and it is inconvenient to live together with different living habits.
Especially living with in-laws and mother-in-law, every three to five to deal with sister-in-law, when you meet a good temper, it is better to know the measure, but if you meet some relatives who always love to live permanently, it is really devastating.
"Why didn't my aunt come to live with me again?" The 3-year-old boy boy's words made the fig leaf of the traditional family torn open
Yan Yan and three girlfriends made an appointment for lunch a few days ago, ate together, spit out, Xiao Xi sighed and said: My sister-in-law is here again, and a few good friends who know the situation immediately began to hug her unevenly.
Junjun, who was anxious, even said: She still doesn't want her face, why is she coming again, how can she have no home? You just have a good temper, and she stirs it up like this, if I would have her a long time ago. Yeon-yeon responded: This time it is really tearing her face. In the crowd still thought it was the gentle Yeon-yeon finally broke out, determining the status of the hostess of the family.
Unexpectedly, yanyan's son fat and fat could not bear it first, when the sister-in-law took her daughter to the door, the son said bluntly in front of the whole family: Why did the aunt come to my house again? Go out, I hate you guys, and I cry as I push my aunt and sister out.
In the end, the grandparents gave in and let the two of them come back another day, and after the aunt left, the whole family took turns to educate the fat, and Yan Yan was dark in her heart, but she also said two sentences meaningfully.
Who knows Fat Fat said: Aunt and sister stayed for a long time every time they came, grabbed my toys and food, my sister beat me, my aunt also made my mother cry, and my mother and father were angry. This is my home, and whoever I let comes will come, and you have to listen to me.
Yan Yan sighed: I didn't expect that my son was angry for me.
Yan Yan's sister-in-law is a full-time mother, these years there is nothing to fight with her husband, angry to take the child back to the mother-in-law to live for a few months, the original in-laws live, since Yan Yan pregnant and gave birth to a child, the mother-in-law came to help take care of the child, she also followed, before did not live together, do not know much about the character of the sister-in-law.
After really living together, I felt all kinds of discomfort, the sister-in-law always kept complaining, picking everyone's faults, as if they were sorry for her, every time they came to the house, they used her things; without YanYan's consent, they used her things, and her daughter was also like this, and there were several times when they came, the problem of losing things at home.
Bao Mama's experience resonated with netizens, and it turned out that many people had the same experience, but there were words of suffering
Netizens have also spoken about their experiences:
@ uninhibited entanglement: the daughter who marries out The water that is spilled out, in fact, there is still a certain truth in the words handed down by the ancestors, but some women just don't understand the rules, are lazy and greedy, and always nibble at both ends of the mother-in-law's family.
@ Abundance: My sister-in-law is annoying, when you come home, you know to eat and drink, and you don't do anything to provoke things.
@Downwind: The same sister-in-law floats by! I always like to chew the root of my tongue, I am afraid that we will live well.
@ Jia Lan: My family is also like this, especially annoying, the sister-in-law with the child came to live for a long time, the two children are one year old, and my son often fights, annoyed to death.
@ XiWucao: My eldest sister divorced and lived in my house for 6 years, as long as I do not do any housework at home, nor do I buy anything for the family, for the so-called family harmony I endured for 6 years, my daughter often asked my aunt when she moved away when she was a child, and now my daughter is an adult but is not close to several aunts at all.
In a traditional family, how should the sister-in-law relationship get along? It is important to grasp the balance of getting along
In traditional family relations, mother-in-law, brothers and sisters, concubines, sisters-in-law, sisters-in-law, and even each other are all a science.
Among them, the most lethal is even the sister-in-law, if you meet a sister-in-law with a bad personality, you will deeply realize that you are a foreigner, which makes people sad, and even affects the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the relationship between husband and wife.
01, maintain an appropriate sense of distance
Now the concept of the older generation, there is still the concept of "the eldest sister-in-law is like a mother", that the sister-in-law should be more responsible, considerate of the big sister and the little sister-in-law, and treat the daughter who comes back warmly and thoughtfully.
People have different personalities and different styles of dealing with the world, some people are enthusiastic, some people are delicate. There is an old saying "far incense, near smell", too close is not a good thing, whether it is a daughter back home or a daughter-in-law at home, maintaining a proper sense of distance between each other is the basis for long-term getting along.
02, the daughter plays the role of lubricant
Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a difficult problem, whether it is a mother-in-law or a sister-in-law, there are grievances in the stomach, and it is poured out to the daughter who returns home, and the attitude and practice of the daughter will play a key role.
Sensible daughter -
After hearing the complaints of both sides, they will each comfort each other and communicate with their own people, such as saying to their own mothers: You see that I am also a daughter-in-law of others, and I also encounter such problems, how do you want your mother-in-law to treat me? Then how to reconcile my sister-in-law, big sister and sister-in-law, will make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law better.
The daughter who can't see the situation clearly —
Some daughters, after hearing their mother's complaints, even angrily fight with their sister-in-law, and pick faults with nothing, on the one hand, to protect their mothers, on the other hand, to establish that even if they are married, they still have a position in the family, and with the participation of their daughters, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more tense, and the family atmosphere is not harmonious.
03, help to do something within your power
Some friends complained about their sister-in-law, every time they came like their aunts, the 70-year-old mother-in-law and father-in-law made the group turn, but the mother-in-law has done two major operations in the past two years, and usually she does not even dare to let the mother-in-law do it.
But after seeing the father-in-law and mother-in-law happily busy, they closed their mouths, and the New Year's Festival was the most unbearable, constantly eating and nagging, and everywhere scourges did not do any work.
Now there is basically no heavy work, tired work, help pick vegetables to play a hand, chat while working, but also a way to communicate feelings, but also to increase the favorability of relatives.
04, try not to walk relatives empty-handed
Whether it is going home to visit your parents or going to your brother's house, try not to go in empty-handed, "li many people are not strange" is this meaning. Even if the conditions at home are not good, buy a dish or bring some fruit, it is also that intention, everyone can also understand, the most taboo empty hands, big grin into the door, eat and drink for a long time will really annoy people.
Relatives may get along with each other more and more intimately, but some are more and more cold, and personal cultivation, character, personality, habits, etc. are related.
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If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
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Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
Colleagues show this book to children, usually children also tutor mathematics, sometimes feel that cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also use what he learned in the cram school.
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It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!