The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
It seems that in the consciousness of most people, it is believed that the daughter-in-law has no obligation to take care of the mother-in-law, just as the son-in-law does to the mother-in-law, and will not always stay by her side in her old age. Having said that, the reality is that when the mother-in-law is old, almost always the daughter-in-law takes care of it.
Whether a family is harmonious or not depends on the friendliness of the relationship between various family members, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gets along well, the husband and wife are happy and happy, and the man is outside, he also has enough courage to fight, and he does not have to worry about things at home all the time.
Of course, as a mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law's contribution to herself is naturally well known, but after all, the two are not mother and daughter in the true sense, it seems that there is some estrangement, which has always existed and has never disappeared.
01 Married for many years, there have been many contradictions between him and his mother-in-law
As the saying goes, where in the world is there a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who does not make a contradiction.
After ChenChen married her husband, the relationship with her mother-in-law was relatively friendly during the initial period, but with the passage of time, the contradictions between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gradually accumulated, until finally it evolved into a situation of mutual indifference.
For Yu Chenchen, she is a relatively independent person and does not like others to interfere in her life, but since marrying her husband, her lifestyle and daily decisions have been restricted by her mother-in-law.
At that time, due to limited conditions, Chen Chen and her husband had been living in their hometown with their mother-in-law, and at that time, Chen Chen was only a 24-year-old young girl, although she was married, but in the depths of her heart, she was still a child.
Some of Chenchen's girlfriends often invite Chenchen to go shopping and eat, but every time Chenchen goes out, he will look at the low face of his mother-in-law on the side.
The mother-in-law said, "Why go, it's so late"?
ChenChen responded, "Oh, Mom, my girlfriend called me to dinner, and I'm leaving."
After listening to Chen Chen's words, the mother-in-law walked away with her own care, but the mother-in-law muttered in her mouth: It is so late, and she still has to go out, and she is definitely not a particularly good friend.
These words were heard by Chen Chen word for word, but Chen Chen did not have an insight with his mother-in-law, only as if her mother-in-law was old and her thoughts could not keep up with the new trend.
But these comforting words can only play a role once, every time the morning and morning go out, the mother-in-law always likes to ask the east and the west, for a long time, the morning is naturally annoying.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law thus arises.
02 Hard work to take care of the mother-in-law for many years
Although after so many years of getting along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, ChenChen and her mother-in-law have also accumulated a lot of contradictions, but at the moment when the mother-in-law needs to be taken care of when she is old, Chenchen still quit her original stable job and concentrated on taking care of her mother-in-law. It is also for the sake of her husband, who cannot bear to worry about things at home after a day of working outside.
And for all this that Chenchen paid, the mother-in-law also looked at it in her eyes.
Chen Chen had a sister-in-law, she was a few years younger than her husband, and in the second year of her marriage, the sister-in-law got married. Since her object was from out of town, it was not easy to come back once.
In Chenchen's impression, every New Year's Day, the mother-in-law will prepare a lot of things that the sister-in-law loves to eat in advance, stay by the phone every day, looking forward to the sister-in-law's call, even Chenchen and the mother-in-law know that the sister-in-law will go home after the New Year, but the mother-in-law always can't help but nagging, looking forward to the sister-in-law can go home for the New Year.
At that time, Chen Chen did not understand this feeling, until she finally had a child, she slowly understood this strong mother-daughter relationship.
Therefore, when the mother-in-law is old, Chenchen also takes into account that the sister-in-law's family is in the field, and it is not easy to go back and forth, so at non-essential moments, it is basically Chenchen who stays by the mother-in-law's side.
03 The sister-in-law came back once in a while, and the mother-in-law talked to her for a long time
Once, Chen Chen was preparing lunch for her mother-in-law in the kitchen for the day, when suddenly her sister-in-law called.
After Chenchen answered the phone, the sister-in-law said on the phone: "Sister-in-law, I will probably go home at noon tomorrow, I haven't been back for a long time, I think we are my mother."
After Chen Chen hung up the phone, she told the news to her mother-in-law, who was naturally overjoyed when she heard the news, and she hurriedly instructed Chen Chen to prepare some of her sister-in-law's favorite things.
Hearing this, Chen Chen did not feel that his nose was sour, for so many years, the mother-in-law still remembers the food that the sister-in-law loves to eat clearly, but she looks back at herself, but she does not have such a good treatment.
Wait until noon the next day, the sister-in-law did return home as scheduled, that night, the sister-in-law did not go home, chose to stay for one night.
That night, the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law talked a lot, and when it was time for the sister-in-law to go home, the mother-in-law put all the gifts in the family into the sister-in-law's car.
Chen Chen saw these feelings very unpleasant on the side, and she said to her husband who was standing on the side: You see our mother is still kissing her daughter, and I, who is a daughter-in-law, has always been at the end of the line.
Seeing the wife's sad expression, the husband's heart is also very painful, the husband understands that so many years of wife and mother-in-law have accumulated a lot of contradictions, the reason why the wife does not care about the previous suspicions to take care of the mother-in-law, the main aspect is to consider themselves.
After thinking of this, her husband put his arms around Chenchen and gently comforted her.
Although Chen Chen was unhappy in her heart, she could also understand her mother-in-law's mood, after all, as her own daughter, there was no reason not to love.
Conclusion: Sometimes, the mother-in-law's every move will directly affect the direction of the family's harmony, and between the daughter-in-law and the daughter-in-law, it should be done equally, although the daughter is a good child, but the daughter-in-law has also paid a lot for the family, if because of a momentary care for the other, if the daughter-in-law is generous, there is no problem, but if the daughter-in-law does not rely on it, there is no benefit except for the family contradictions.