Recently, I discussed with my colleagues about singles or marriage, Dink or baby problems, and a considerable number of young people in the company are single.
And this part of the post-90s who support singles said that if they meet someone they like, they can also consider entering marriage, but the child is most likely not born.
Speaking of Dink, there are examples of personal statements.
The head of our company's product operation department is a middle-aged man after the 80s, who is exactly forty years old this year.
He and his wife have been married for 10 years and have never had children.
Because of this concept of the two, although they have had different objects before, they can't talk about this point, and they have broken up one after another.
Later, after knowing each other, the two agreed on this point, and both felt that they had found the person who was like-minded with each other and firmly chose each other.
Naturally, there are more people who oppose such views.
The focus of opposition eventually came to a question: what if you don't have children, what do you do when you're old?
I interviewed and collated three of my colleagues who were going to be single or Dink to see what they thought about the ultimate question.
Colleagues after the 90s
Single is also a little miserable in old age, but most of my life is very cool.
When I say "most of your life", I specifically mean that you start working and living independently until you can't take care of yourself.
What the elderly fear most is not old age, but the loss of self-care ability.
No matter how old you are, as long as you can eat and dress yourself and move freely without being served, whether you have children is actually the same.
There are always people who think too optimistic, how many healthy and healthy old people have no problems?
That's right, that's why I said "most of my life", people will be inconvenient when they are older, I admit.
But don't forget, there is an old saying called "no filial piety before the bed of a long illness".
Even if you have children, when you really lose your ability to take care of yourself and need someone to serve around, how many children can give you intimate care?
Modern people are so stressed, even if the children want to take care of you, he has a weak heart, he has to go out to earn money, otherwise the family will eat and drink.
So, at the end of the day, a man is miserable when he is old — whether he has children or not.
Besides, I would like to advise everyone to be realistic:
Think about our living environment, think about our lives.
Working overtime every day, eating junk food every day, lack of exercise and no fitness, lack of sleep, anxiety and depression, do you think our generation can live a long life?
I am skeptical.
Colleagues after 95
Those who expect to have children to help with their old age can rest.
As a post-95, not only do I not want to have a baby, but I don't even want to get married.
I'm a woman, now single, and as long as I have a job and an income, I'm more than enough to support myself.
If you don't get married, you don't have to sacrifice your career to make way for family care.
Making more money yourself is better than anything else.
After reading too many cases of giving up their careers for the sake of their husbands' careers, giving up their careers in order to take care of children, and then being dumped by people in their thirties, I know that the world is only reliable on themselves.
You say that money can't solve everything, and that's right, but money can solve most problems.
As for what money can't solve, I don't want to solve it, anyway, there is no need to solve all the problems in life, no one's life is perfect, isn't it?
If you don't get married, you don't have to be a cow and a horse to serve your husband, your children, and your in-laws, and then you still complain;
If you don't have a baby, you don't have to take health risks, you don't have to get out of shape, and you don't have to put all your future life on your children.
I wish those who have a good love, you are very happy and lucky;
But I don't agree with the statement that "it must be miserable to be old without children", which I think is self-deception.
People have no burden in their lives, they are dashing, they earn money to spend on themselves, and they have more wonderful life experience;
And those who laugh at others for getting old and miserable, in the end the children have no money and no time to take care of a large wave of money in front of your bed, and they think that they are very happy for a lifetime, huh.
Colleagues after the 80s
The first two young colleagues are more emotional, let me talk about the point of view of a person who came over.
After all, this decision is irreversible, and it is almost impossible to regret it after forty years old.
For middle-aged people like me, the issue of old-age care has actually been considered many times.
All I can do is make more money while I can still make money, and there is no other way.
Why not want children, on the one hand, I am not interested in the so-called "succession", and secondly, I am worried that I am not capable of giving children a good education and upbringing.
I grew up in a broken native family, and I was hurt a lot from my original family since I was a child, which may also be a reason for me not to be born.
I didn't know how to get along with a little kid, and I was more worried that I would put the damage I had suffered on the child.
Someone asked me, aren't you afraid of regretting it later?
I would say that you will regret whatever choice you make.
Regret is a sentiment that runs through a person's life, and no decision can guarantee that you will never regret it later.
I agree with my post-95 colleague above:
In this world, money can solve most things, and what money can't solve, it is estimated that you will not use other methods.
Life, old age, illness and death, everyone has to go through, it doesn't matter how old you are, whether you have children or not.
So, in fact, we make this choice, neither to gamble with anyone, nor to how maverick we want to be, but just a way of life.
I don't think it's better not to have children, and I'll bless my friends when they have children.
In the final analysis, whether or not to be born, how much to be born is a private matter, and everyone's choice should be respected.
No need to ask, no to persuade, and no need to think that you are more correct than others.
discuss
How do you view the outlook on life of some young people, who are not married and do not have children?
Do you think they will regret it in the future?
Feel free to share in the comments section.