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For the "Dink" thing: some people think that there should be children as a bond between husband and wife, the family will be happier and more stable, no children, and will regret it later; and some couples feel that "Dink" can have more time and energy to achieve their dreams, and the value of people's lives does not necessarily have to revolve around the child.
In fact, every couple pursues a different life, so they can't stand in the perspective of others.
The famous CCTV host Kang Hui and his wife Dink, who is nearly twenty years old and nearly half a hundred years old, said in his autobiography "Average Score": If he starts again, he will choose to have children.
It is also mentioned in the "Sacrifice Text That Is Not an Altarpiece" written for the mother that at the beginning, the mother has been urging her grandchildren, and over time, the number of urgings has become less and less, and I feel that the mother is unwilling, but she is powerless to return to heaven. He said that if he were given another chance, he would have fulfilled his mother's wish early. Although the decision of "Dink" is mainly between husband and wife, he also has to take into account the feelings of his family. Therefore, couples choose "Dink", but also from many aspects to consider the pros and cons of things.
Whether two people agree on the idea. Both husband and wife have the same three views, and being able to fulfill the contract of the heart is nothing more than the happiest thing. But if only one person in the couple agrees with Dink, or if someone is wavering, it is necessary to carefully consider the contradictions that exist in later life. Once there was a lady on the Internet who told that she had made a good pact with the old Dink, but as the two people got older, her husband repented and had children with others. It's easy to make impulsive decisions when you're young, and as you get older, your thinking slowly changes.
For women, the optimal age for childbearing is limited, and once a man repents, it may directly destroy the marriage of two people. Therefore, whether the two people are dink, they must reach a unified opinion. Whether the mind is influenced by the elderly. If parents absolutely respect all the choices their children make, there will be no impact on the couple who choose "Dink". But in the traditional thinking of most elderly people, children mean the future of a family. If parents disapprove of their children's dink, or do not understand, their children need to be prepared.
When you are young, you always feel that the decisions you make have nothing to do with other people, and even your parents can't shake it. There may be a direct conflict with the parents, and perhaps the parents' bitter mouths will still go their own way. But as we age, on the one hand, we must consider whether two people can withstand the pressure of the outside world for a long time.
On the one hand, it is also necessary to see whether it will be affected by the surrounding environment and shake the mind. Sometimes when you are young, you don't think about your parents' feelings, but when your parents get older, they may feel guilty. If two people have always been firm in their thinking, it will destroy the original plan and affect family relations.
There is no right or wrong, and the best choice is to suit yourself. Everyone's view of Dink is different. Families with children will think that Dink's family has not paid for their children, so there will be no fun in old age. The older I get, the more lonely and desolate I feel. But Ms. Deng, an elderly woman, said she never regretted it, and she felt that raising a child would require a lot of time and money, and would also make herself lose her freedom. When I was young, I felt that life was too stressful, so I chose Dink.
Because there are no children, so the old also have enough economic ability, and the two have always had a good relationship, watching other people's families noisy because of tedious housework, being tied up by children, a lifetime of busyness, for the children. Glad for your choice, feel content. Some couples feel that having children to accompany them is a complete life, and having common blood will make a family more stable. Especially when two people are old and sick, at least their children are worried.
So, Dink is not right or wrong, some couples insist on half regretting it and having a cute child; There are also couples who may part ways because one party has not insisted on parting ways; And the Dink couple, who have always believed firmly, will also be happy for a lifetime. The pros and cons that Dink brings to the family depend on the two people's outlook on life, as long as it suits them.
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