Neither marriage nor family looks absolutely. Some families are children's knees, and some families are husband and wife. For a family, the arrival of children is full of laughter and trouble.
Therefore, some families will choose to add the children of new members of the family; some families will choose Dink and focus on the exclusive time of the couple.
It is not uncommon for star couples in the show business circle to choose Dink, such as music talent Li Jian and his wife, CCTV famous Kanghui and so on have not chosen to have children, but have become "Dink family".
At the beginning, when most of them chose Dink for the 50s or 60s, this group was just beginning to emerge in China, and it was not surprising that it caused a lot of controversy and even condemnation.
In a variety show, Kang Hui, a CCTV celebrity who has reached middle age, claimed to regret his decision to choose Dink that year. He said that before his death, his father said that his only regret was that he did not have the opportunity to see his grandson.
In addition, CCTV also chose the host Wang Xiaoqian and her husband who also chose Dink Life. Later, an unexpected pregnancy brought their Dink life to an end. Today, their family of three is equally happy, and Wang Xiaoqian's husband has even become a daughter slave.
However, Li Wenjing, who is also a CCTV female host, is still determined to continue to live the Dink life with her husband.
She once confessed that she chose the life of Dink because she did not like children. Although many colleagues have advised her, her thinking is still the same, she once confessed that she did not like children, she believes that she is more yearning for a better world of husband and wife than to kneel down to enjoy.
There has always been a lot of criticism about Dink. The most concentrated critique is the view that Dink is an excuse for the selfishness of young people, describing them as a group of people who enjoy themselves alone and have no filial piety and social responsibility.
In fact, this can be seen as a kind of moral kidnapping. Everyone's reproductive rights are free, life is their own, and whatever choices they make should be the direction of their hearts.
What impact does the family that chooses to live in Dink have on life?
1. Life of discretion
After choosing Dink, the couple has always owned their lives. In terms of time, they can have a free spare time, leisure time, and do not have to travel back and forth to their children's schools and cram classes to pick them up;
Financially, their income is self-sufficient, and they don't need to fight for a house because of their children, nor do they need to think about saving money for their children's future;
In marriage, they can maintain the relaxed state of love during the hot love for a long time, will not increase the burden of chai rice oil and salt because of more children, and at the same time, because the husband and wife are the only companions, they can treat each other without reservation, and will not be loved by the children.
2. Regrets about life experiences
Some couples who choose Dink admit in middle age or later years that they have not experienced having children, but they still have some regrets. Their regret is not that they need someone to retire or feel lonely, but that they really lack a part of their life experience and cannot really understand what kind of life it is to have children to raise.
What are the reasons for those couples who choose Dink?
1. The influence of the original family
The unhappiness of the original family is indeed like an expired scar, which is likely to cause a person to lose expectations of the family and children, and even to produce a lack of confidence in accepting the new identity of "parent". They find it difficult to gain a sense of security in the intimate relationship between parents and children, and thus embark on Dink's life.
2, do not like children
Although small children can bring us a sense of accomplishment as mothers or fathers of children, the hardships and troubles of having and raising children at the same time are unbearable nightmares for some people. Therefore, people who cannot accept this do not like the child and choose Dink.
3. Feel stressed about the arrival of children
It's not just about getting along with children, but also about educating and nurturing them. Raising a child is divided into two parts, raising and nurturing. Whether it is fostering or nurturing, in the future, you will have to bear a huge expense: high tuition fees, cram schools, food and clothing, travel during holidays, etc. have become a heavy pressure for a family to be careful. This pressure, some families can not afford.
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Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
Colleagues show this book to children, usually children also tutor mathematics, sometimes feel that cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also use what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!