With the popularity of "The World of Man" on CCTV, the grounded performances in life dramas are becoming more and more popular with the audience, and while watching the movie, people are also exploring, what kind of children are filial piety children?
Is it to enter a prestigious university and work to make people envious of their children, or to be unknown at home, to take care of the elderly to eat and live, in the eyes of everyone is a "nest" of children?
Kang Hui, I think everyone is very familiar with it, as the host of CCTV news network, broadcasting to hundreds of millions of viewers in front of the camera at a high level, in a certain sense, he represents the image of the country. It is precisely because of this that many news anchors are called "national faces".
For Kang Hui's work, I believe that no one will not recognize it, but everyone may not know what kind of price Kang Hui has paid in order to achieve such achievements today.
Kang Hui, now fifty-one years old, has been married to his wife for more than twenty years and has no children so far.
In the past ten years, Kang Hui's parents have died of illness one after another, and the last words left by the second elder to Kang Hui are regrets for not holding their grandchildren, and this has also become a pain that Kang Hui is difficult to let go.
In 2018, Kang Hui was preparing for a new show, but at this moment, Kang Hui's sister suddenly called and said that her mother was hospitalized, and when she heard the news, Kang Hui suddenly panicked.
Just in 2004, Kang Hui also accidentally learned that his father had stomach cancer, and it was advanced.
At that time, Kang Hui felt that his life was suddenly gray, and after experiencing a series of things like taking care of his father, sending his father to the end and comforting his mother, Kang Hui only wanted to take good care of his mother in the future, and he must let his mother raise him for a long time to make up for his regrets at that time.
However, after more than ten years, the news that his mother was ill and hospitalized, which made Kang Hui very depressed.
However, at that time, in order not to affect Kanghui's work, Kanghui's sister did not tell the truth to Kanghui, but only said that her mother had improved after being treated in the hospital.
Kang Hui, who heard the news, was relieved, and he also told his mother that his superiors were ready to arrange for him to go overseas for further study. As a mother, she naturally hopes that her son will be all right, and Kang Hui's mother did not put too much pressure on her child, but encouraged him to study hard and strive to achieve better results.
After confirming that his mother's condition was not very serious, Kang Hui made arrangements for his sister and then prepared to study overseas. A few days later, Kang Hui embarked on a flight abroad according to the plan, and he was in a very relaxed mood.
But just when boarding the plane, my sister's phone called again, and this time the news directly made Kang Hui feel that the sky was spinning - his mother had died.
At that moment, Kang Hui's heart could not express the pain, he recalled the grace of his parents for so many years, and he did not fulfill his filial piety in front of the bed, he only felt that his heart was like a knife.
Logically, Kang Hui should go to the funeral for his mother at this time, but the matter of going abroad has already been decided, and now it is too late to change his mind in the middle.
And the old man has passed away, and going back will not change anything. Finally, under the persuasion of everyone, Kang Hui wiped his tears and took a flight to study abroad.
On the plane, Kang Hui has been thinking about the bits and pieces with his parents over the years, and the more he thinks about it, the more uncomfortable he feels.
He wrote in his memoirs:
"The work is on the string, and all I can do is hold on. After more than ten hours of flight, most of the people around me closed their eyes and slept soundly, and I opened my eyes, and the shadow of my mother passed in front of me. When my heart ached so much that I couldn't bear it, I hid in the bathroom again and again, covered by the rumbling motor of the plane, and I could cry as hard as I could. ”
The reason why Kang Hui is so painful is not only the blow of his mother's sudden death, but also the self-blame for not fulfilling his mother's last wish.
After his father's death, his mother called Kang Hui several times and told them that the couple had to have a child in addition to taking care of their work and their own health.
But In the end, Kang Hui still did not pay attention to his mother's words, and still insisted on his concept of Dink (no childbearing).
And on a call just before her mother's death, she said:
"Son, my mother's biggest regret in this life is that she did not get to hold her grandson."
At that time, Kang Hui did not feel anything, but now sitting on the plane and looking back, Kang Hui only felt pain in his heart.
Kang Hui's parents only raised two children, and besides his sister, Kang Hui was the only boy in the family.
Therefore, Kang Hui's parents have been looking forward to having a grandchild and continuing the incense for the family. But in this matter, Kang Hui has always disappointed his parents.
Kang Hui, born in 1971, comes from an ordinary family in Shijiazhuang, and his birth is the happiest thing for his family, and his parents are glad that they have finally had both children.
And Kang Hui did not live up to the expectations of his parents, he has always been a sensible child, from a young age to understand politeness, love to learn, the performance is very good.
In the future of their son, Kang Hui's parents have always planned to let Kang Hui study science and engineering, and later become an engineer or scientist.
However, Kang Hui had his own ideas, he preferred liberal arts, so he chose the news media major despite his parents' objections after the college entrance examination and studied at the Communication University of China.
Kang Hui has a clear plan for his life, that is, to enter the broadcast hosting industry and become a host, CCTV is his highest ideal.
For this ideal, Kang Hui studied very hard during his university years and always ranked at the top of the exams.
Because of this, until the third year, Kang Hui did not find a girlfriend, but it may also be because Kang Hui did not meet the right one, after all, with his attributes of a beautiful man in college, it is impossible not to attract the attention of female classmates.
No, in his junior year, Kang Hui met a girl.
At that time, Kang Hui was participating in the rehearsal of the play "Hamlet" and was practicing with full concentration when he suddenly heard a cheer:
"Fantastic stay"
Kang Hui turned his head to look at it, but it was a girl who was applauding him.
Kang Hui, who was still very shy at the time, smiled shyly, and then began to rehearse again, and the girl had been watching their rehearsal.
Finally, when the rehearsal was over, Kang Hui saw that the other party had not left, so he came to talk to her. During the conversation, Kang Hui learned that the other party's name was Liu Yajie, a freshman in the broadcasting department.
For Liu Yajie, Kang Hui was very fond of it, so they left contact information for each other and became friends.
In the days to come, students can always see Kang Hui and Liu Yajie together, they are walking and chatting together, or eating together in the canteen, and clear-eyed people can see that there will be love stories between them.
Not long after, Kang Hui's father came to see him at the school, and Liu Yajie was also there at the time, and she was busy helping Kang Hui entertain.
When pouring hot water, Liu Yajie accidentally burned her hand, and Kang Hui looked at her very distressedly and said that he was going to take her to the infirmary, but Liu Yajie said:
"We are working people, not so delicate."
All this was seen by Father Kang, and the old man took advantage of Liu Yajie's going out and smiled and said to Kang Hui:
"This girl is pretty good, is it your girlfriend?"
Kang Hui was very beautiful in his heart at that time, but he didn't say it on his lips, and even wanted to deny it, but the old man had experienced everything, and where he still couldn't see through his son's thoughts, he laughed at it, and he was actually very satisfied.
It didn't take long for Kang Hui's father to go back, and Kang Hui and Liu Yajie continued to live their sweet and fulfilling college years.
Until 1993, Kang Hui was about to graduate, and their relationship was tested.
Generally speaking, many people are not optimistic about their feelings during college, because after graduation, the two people run their own things, and the relationship is easy to break. Kang Hui was also facing this situation at that time, Liu Yajie was preparing to study in her junior year, but she was already about to go to work.
Because Kang Hui's academic performance is very good, he successfully got the contract of CCTV after graduation and realized his dream.
Liu Yajie was very worried at this time, she knew that CCTV was full of handsome men and beautiful women, and they got along day and night, and she and Kang Hui were separated from each other, and if Kang Hui did not get away, she would lose interest in her student sister and turn to other excellent female announcers.
Although Kang Hui's personality is very straightforward, he can also see Liu Yajie's thoughts, and he said to Liu Yajie:
"Rest assured, I will always wait for you."
Hearing this sentence, Liu Yajie's heart is naturally very warm, and she no longer thinks wildly.
However, after Kang Hui entered the unit, as an intern, his work was very busy, and it was difficult to squeeze out time to contact Liu Yajie. Once the relationship loses its management, it will cause trouble.
Sure enough, after two months of indifference, Liu Yajie had problems first. A rich second generation in the school took a fancy to Liu Yajie and began to go crazy himself? target? Show love.
The rich second generation even said to Liu Yajie
"As long as you agree to stay with me, I can guarantee you to work at a TV station in Nanjing." ”
Liu Yajie refused at that time, but on the other side Kang Hui heard the wind, and Kang Hui, who was just an ordinary intern and had no deep background at that time, could not help but feel a little uncomfortable, he said to Liu Yajie with a sour taste
"I come from an ordinary background, I can't provide you with a good job, the other party is so good, you shouldn't give up for me." 」 ”
In the matter of feelings, Kang Hui has always been clumsy in expression, and his words really made Liu Yajie very aggrieved, but Liu Yajie's personality is also very strong, she immediately asked:
"Are you telling the truth?"
Although he knew in his heart that he was only a little jealous and had some jealousy, Kang Hui still had a crossed heart? Nodded?.
At that moment, Liu Yajie was almost about to be blown up, but she didn't show it, just turned and left.
In the next two months, Kang Hui was not able to contact Liu Yajie, after waiting day after day, Kang Hui was also disheartened, he began to regret, regretted his impulses, but now it seems to have no help, Kang Hui feels: his love has gone to extinction, he is ready for the end.
However, before Kang Hui could contact Liu Yajie, Liu Yajie came to the door and brought a letter of acceptance, which came from CCTV.
It turned out that Liu Yajie, although she was very angry afterwards, she still understood Kang Hui and tried to interview the director of CCTV, and now she has succeeded.
Seeing this acceptance letter, Kang Hui also understood everything, and his heart was full of guilt for Liu Yajie at this time. After that, Kang Hui and his girlfriend worked on CCTV.
However, although it is the same unit, because of the different nature of the work, Liu Yajie mainly does behind-the-scenes work, so there are not many opportunities for them to meet.
Moreover, although they are boyfriend and girlfriend, the two do not live together, and Liu Yajie also lives alone in a rental house near Beijing West Railway Station.
Working in CCTV, it is inevitable to work overtime often, and usually until late at night, Liu Yajie sometimes can only walk home alone, which always makes her feel afraid, but Kang Hui is difficult to accompany her every time.
At this time, Liu Yajie, who felt helpless, did not want to? again? As it went on, she was the first to propose to get married. However, at that time, Kang Hui had just gained a foothold in CCTV, and his career was still in a confused period, where would he have the heart to get married?
Kang Hui is not unaware of Liu Yajie, as long as he has time after that, he will always wait for Liu Yajie outside the building on time, and then use his bicycle to send the other party home.
Although Kang Hui did not agree to Liu Yajie's marriage contract, his approach at this time still made Liu Yajie feel warm. In this way, Liu Yajie is no longer eager to start a family, they still put more energy into work.
Slowly, Kang Hui became famous in the TV station and began to emerge. Not to be outdone, Liu Yajie grew into a backbone choreographer and worked for the Chia Tai Variety Show.
As both of their careers are on the right track, and each of them has gained a foothold in the unit, the matter of marriage has finally been put on the agenda. Finally, after eight years of acquaintance and love, the couple decided to enter the palace of marriage.
Although their wedding was very simple, with only a simple feast, and the two even rented the wedding room, this did not affect the two people who loved each other.
On the day of Kang Hui's marriage, Kang Hui's parents were very happy, which was also their expectation for many years.
At that time, Kang Hui was already twenty-nine years old, and according to age, he was not small, and he was already a father in his hometown. However, despite the tight urging of the second elder, Kang Hui still put his career first and dragged on for so many years before getting married.
However, even if the marriage is late, but in the end it is over, the second old man's wish has also been fulfilled, and the old man now only wants to hold his grandson.
But unexpectedly, they learned from their son a news that made them very anxious: the son and daughter-in-law were not ready to have children.
It turned out that Kang Hui and Liu Yajie had already discussed it, and both of their work was too busy to have the energy to have and take care of their children, and at present they were still focusing on their careers, and for the time being, they would first be a "Dink couple".
Sons and daughters-in-law do not want children, for the Parents of the Kang family is tantamount to a blow to drink, Kang Father is the most anxious, this is not to break the incense of the old Kang family, Kang Mother also can not understand, she has long been looking forward to the old life of the grandson.
For this matter, the two old families of the Kang family did not do less work for Kang Hui and his wife, hoping that they could meet the wishes of the elderly. The old man knew that the children were busy at work, and also proposed that the children be brought by them, so that Kang Hui and his wife would not have worries.
However, one is the promise to his wife, and the other is that Kang Hui feels that he must be responsible for having a child, and if he can, he will throw it to his parents and let them worry about it again. Therefore, in the face of his parents' urging, Kang Hui was indifferent.
Soon after the marriage, Kang Hui came to the "News Network", "News Thirty" and other programs as a host, his career ushered in an upward period, of course, more busy.
Considering their son's future, Kang Hui's parents do not want their children to worry about family affairs while they are busy at work, so they rarely mention this matter again, and want to wait a few years.
Unexpectedly, in 2004, Kang Hui's father suddenly found stomach cancer, and the cancer cells had spread.
At that time, in order to make his father feel at ease, Kang Hui did not tell him the truth, and he was worried about his mother's body, nor did he tell her.
However, Kang Hui's father was keenly aware that something was wrong, and under his repeated questioning, Kang Hui finally told the truth.
After knowing the true condition of his body, Kang Hui's father behaved? earth? He was also very calm, he was silent for a long time, and then he said something to Kang Hui that made him regret it for the rest of his life:
"Son, the most regrettable thing in dad's life is that he didn't hold his grandson."
At that time, hearing his father's words, Kang Hui's heart was very painful, and he began to reflect on whether he was too selfish and did not consider the feelings of the old man, which made Kang Hui very remorseful.
Soon after, Kang Hui's father died, and the old man finally left with regrets.
After the death of his father, Kang Hui also thought about whether to have a child, but the thought of his wife is no longer young, let her endure the pain of a childbirth at this age is also Kang Hui can't bear.
At the same time, at that time, Kang Hui often traveled around for business reasons because of work reasons. Even if he doesn't travel, he usually leaves work after nine o'clock every day, and after a day's work, he comes home and sleeps upside down, and he can't take care of these things at all.
Therefore, Kang Hui finally dismissed this idea.
In 2012, when Kang Hui was forty-one years old, he held a birthday party on his birthday and invited many friends.
At the birthday party, the mother once again proposed to Kang Hui to let them have a child as soon as possible.
In front of so many relatives and friends facing the son, it is also very embarrassing for Kang Hui, but everyone can also understand the mood of the old man.
After this incident, Kang Hui also carefully pondered this matter, but he did not know what to do, they were already too old, and Kang Hui was completely unprepared to welcome a new life.
In the end, Kang Hui still disappointed his mother. Not having children is not entirely a bad thing for the Kanghui couple, who have more leisure time after work and can enjoy life to the fullest.
Kang Hui and his wife have two cats together, and they usually tease cats and play with flowers and plants at home, which is also very relaxed and comfortable for them.
It can be said that if you don't consider the feelings of other people, Kang Hui is very satisfied with their current life, which is the way he wants to live.
Gradually, Kang Hui's mother had no choice but to let her son stop mentioning this matter. What Kang Hui did not expect was that in 2018, his mother actually fell ill.
Kang Hui, who originally thought that there was no big deal, still wanted to take time to accompany his mother when he returned from a business trip, but he did not expect that this trip was a life and death.
At that moment, Kang Hui's emotions completely collapsed, and he fell into deep self-blame. Kang Hui also wrote in the article "Sacrifice Text That Is Not a Sacrifice Text":
"For more than ten years, my mother has mentioned less and less about wanting to hold her grandchildren and granddaughters, as if she was unwilling, but she was powerless, so she accepted the fact that I chose Dink." But if I could do it all over again, I think I would fulfill her wish sooner rather than later. ”
Kang Hui even directly stated in his autobiography "Average Score": If I go back to 20 years ago, I will choose to have children.
So, not long after his mother's death, Kang Hui began to consider whether to break his promise and have a child, but his parents' last wishes.
However, after the examination, the doctor told them that their age was no longer suitable, and the elderly mothers may face great danger. After thinking about it, Kang Hui still had no choice but to give up.
Today, Kang Hui and his wife still live a life of two, and although they have no children, their love is still sweet.
Friends always say that they can often see Kang Hui walking with his wife, and their love, although simple, is also enviable.
As soon as there is free time, Kang Hui will also interact with netizens, he once posted his cat on his personal space, careful netizens found that the furnishings of Kang Hui's home are very simple, simply unlike the home of a CCTV host.
Some people have said that Kang Hui, who has been working hard in Beijing for many years, does not even have a house of his own, and he and his lover have always rented a house.
Recalling the glamorous host Kang Hui on the screen, his life is in great contrast with his work, and people can't help but sigh.
Today, the deceased is gone, and only the living can still retain their happiness, although plain, but also pleasant.
As a gold medal host of CCTV, Kang Hui's performance on the screen can be said to be impeccable.
From a child of an ordinary family to a famous mouth of CCTV, Kang Hui's success must be accompanied by great efforts, and his spirit is worth learning from many people.
The most precious thing is Kang hui's attitude towards life, not pursuing great wealth and nobility, but only enjoying plain happiness, such a life is also very beautiful.
For Kang Hui, the biggest debt in life is only to his parents, without children, he failed to let his parents enjoy the joy of heaven, but regretted his death, which is really regrettable.
Here we cannot help but ask what is a filial child?
Kang Hui, graduated from the Department of Broadcasting of the Communication University of China, a famous host of CCTV, in 2008, won the Golden Microphone Award for Chinese Broadcasting Host, etc. These honors are enough to make parents face glory, it is no exaggeration to say that they have such a son who has a career, and the old two have the capital to show off everywhere.
But how much time do successful children spend with their parents day and night? They are busy with work, busy with socializing, busy with realizing their dreams, and as parents, they can only unconditionally support their children to create glory and wronged themselves.
From campus romance to hand in hand for a lifetime, their love was originally beautiful, but because of "Dink" and covered with a layer of regret, everyone lives in the world, it is difficult to live purely according to their own ideas, and the feelings of others have to be taken into account.
Kang Hui himself said that if life can be repeated, he will definitely meet his parents' wishes. I also hope that readers in front of the screen will cherish the present and not leave regrets in life.