It is difficult to control emotions, so teach children to constantly hone mental patterns and develop blunt sensitivity. The so-called blunt sensitivity is not to react faster than others who are smarter and faster, because the rapid responses are physiological-level reactions, such as others scolding you, you immediately get angry and want to regurgitate each other, others praise you, you are immediately comfortable and feel that you are like this.
Let children know that the world is never simple logic, but the result of the interaction of many complex factors. So, try not to make a decision right away based on physiological response. It is even more important to pay attention to and restrain your emotions as soon as possible, and not blurt out or make any irrational decisions under anger or great joy.
Every parent wants their child to have high emotional intelligence, and 12 passwords to cultivate their children's high emotional intelligence:
1. Cultivating self-confidence is a three-step process
From the beginning of raising children to do housework, from the opportunity to do, to do it, to do it, to do it well, self-confidence is naturally there. Building self-confidence must go through these three processes, but they are often overlooked by many people.
2. Cultivate interpersonal skills
Have a good family atmosphere, encourage children to play with their peers, find ways to solve problems when they encounter them, and regularly participate in clubs and other activities.
3. Independence culture
From infancy, the baby is trained to take a drink by himself, eat and dress himself when he is older. Learn to be lazy parents and empower your children.
4. Concentration
Start training from playing with toys, playing with one toy at a time, giving too much will affect concentration. Don't interfere with your child's homework, shout for fruit for a while, chat and ask your child various questions for a while, and pay attention to these details. Watching less OR not watching TV affects vision and does not have any benefit for concentration.
5. Emotional management
Parents are in a good mood, and children's emotions will not be bad. This is the best learning for children.
6. Empathy
Start by taking care of yourself, taking care of your family, taking care of your peers, taking care of your pets and plants at home. At the beginning of man, nature is good, and parents play the main exemplary role.
7. Resistance to setbacks
Everyone will encounter failure, encounter unpleasant things, teach children how to look at failure, and learn to face difficulties with courage.
8. Creativity
This is the birthplace of imagination, allowing the brain to play an independent space, with divergent thinking, such people can always have a lot of innovation.
9. Problem solving
Solving problems is also an ability, a person's hard ability to survive. From an early age, it is important to inspire children to think, let him try to deal with various problems on his own, and experience "I am capable, I can do it".
10. Sense of responsibility
From an early age, children are taught to take care of their own things, experience natural consequences, learn to be their own business, not other people's business, learn to bear, know how to take responsibility.
11. Gratitude
Starting from the beginning of the family, parents are the best role model force. Parents know how to be grateful, and children learn how to be grateful.
12. Leadership
Give your child more opportunities to make decisions, let him be in charge, carry out family gathering activities regularly, let children decide where to go, how to organize, what problems they will encounter, how to cooperate with each other, and so on. In kindergartens, primary schools, and middle schools, children are encouraged to participate in school club activities, take the initiative to take up positions, actively contribute to the team, and win leadership by winning good popularity.