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From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, survival and reproduction are the responsibilities of everyone. The most important crystallization of a perfect intimate relationship is the birth of a new life, and the child is like the hope of a family, which connects the expectations of even several people.
The arrival of children will add countless styles to a family, will make a family rekindle the hope of life, but also will make parents have the meaning of hard work, so that grandparents have the joy of life, and show off capital.
However, with the continuous opening of people's minds and the continuous increase of social pressure, more and more people do not want children to become a hindrance in their lives, so they choose not to have children and live the life of the Dink family. After all, in today's social situation, raising a child requires a lot of energy and financial resources.
And choose not to have children can two people have been living in a two-person world, enjoy life, feel the beauty of this world, do not have to get up early and go to bed early because of picking up children, do not have to worry about the cost of children's make-up classes, and do not have to make money desperately in order to buy a car and a house for their children.
So, those who choose to live in real life, how comfortable is the life of Dink now?
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At the birthday party again, I recognized Aunt Liu of Dink, a 58-year-old middle-aged and elderly woman, no children, and her husband was also very busy at work, that day was Grandma's birthday, Aunt Liu was a guest invited by Grandma, because Grandma gave birth to a lot of children when she was young, on Grandma's birthday everyone rushed back from one place to celebrate Grandma's birthday.
There are a lot of children in the family, noisy and noisy around the grandmother to sing a birthday song to the grandmother, then Aunt Liu stood next to me without tears, I did not know that Aunt Liu did not have children, I asked Aunt Liu what was wrong, I thought it was moved to cry, in fact, it was not.
Aunt Liu took my hand and said, "Look how happy your grandmother is, there are so many children to accompany you." "Unlike when I get home, it's cold and clear, seeing that my family's hair is sprinkled with joy today, Mao Mao is a day dog raised by Aunt Liu, Aunt Liu said that my family's hair is usually very quiet, and today it seems to have vitality that it usually does not have."
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Grandma said that Aunt Liu was a very drifting woman when she was young, there were many suitors, no one looked up, and finally chose to be with a divorced man, that is, the current husband, because the husband was hurt in the previous marriage, so she did not want children, and Aunt Liu also agreed for love. Because she herself does not like children, she feels that people in this life, as long as they live well.
When she first got married, Aunt Liu saw that others were worried about the children' affairs, Aunt Liu was still very glad that she did not have children, in order to pass the time and then raised the current dog hair, time passed little by little, Aunt Liu's age also grew older, and after being sick and hospitalized again, Aunt Liu completely regretted it.
Aunt Liu herself said that she had a disease a few days ago, because her husband was busy with work and did not have time to take care of herself, so she stayed in the hospital every day to recuperate, and the neighboring bed also had a woman of the same age as herself, and the woman's husband was also busy and did not have time to accompany her, but he had a very sensible son who came to take care of his life every day.
Every day to help his mother to cook, wash clothes, change medicine, take care of very thoughtful, but Aunt Liu feels very desolate, every day waiting for the nurse to help herself to eat, but also to go to the urine bag, once due to physical inconvenience, accidentally slipped, the son of the neighboring bed got himself up.
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At this moment, Aunt Liu felt very regretful, regretting that she did not have a child at the beginning, regretting that she chose the Dink family, but at this time, Aunt Liu had no chance to have another child, since then, Aunt Liu has become particularly fond of children, and whenever she sees a child, she can't help but stay for a moment.
After returning home, In the face of a silent environment, Aunt Liu could not bear to leave tears, although she was very relaxed when she was young, but now she felt particularly powerless, life did not have any fun, and the laughter of other people's homes had nothing to do with herself.
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Living in today's stressful society, everyone is facing this kind of pressure, and it is really such an environment that many people are unwilling to have children, rather than wasting money and time on children, they are more willing to enjoy the beauty that life brings to themselves, and are willing to use a lot of time and money to enjoy life.
There will be some people outside of marriage for some reasons when they were young did not choose to get married, until middle age to have a marriage, but at this time it is difficult for them to have the opportunity to conceive the next generation, according to relevant data, this year China's total fertility rate is only 1.6, while South Korea's birth rate is only 0.98, a new historical low.
Marriage is very beautiful, and we must also be for ourselves or, but children must be the most important link in an intimate relationship, when you really have children, you will understand the difficulty of parenting, will know the joy of parenthood, you may be young when you will be burdened with a lot of pressure, but when you are young to middle age will have a different experience.
At this time, you will understand how happy and dependent it is to have a child, which can alleviate people's loneliness after middle age and increase their happiness.
Today's topic
Will you choose Dink's life?
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References | Journal of affective disorders