When the teacher's girlfriend often listens to the parents complain to her, bought a lot of educational toys for the child, enlightenment books, but the child just does not take the initiative to play and learn, all day long only want to play video games and look at mobile phones and tablets, parents are particularly worried, so they consult with the teacher for advice.
The teacher asked, "As a parent, what are you doing at home?" Do you often turn your ears out of the window and just want to look at your phone? ”
We must recognize a first principle: the essence of education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another, and one soul awakens another.
The undisguised behavior of parents subtly affects children, and if parents cannot control themselves, all education is useless.
If you want your child to become a person with the ability to cultivate, parents must lead by example and set a good example for them.
Education and learning are lifelong
We are all actively buying children's books for our children, we are not unaware that reading and education are very important, we just forget to lead by example, forget that education and learning are lifelong.
Sometimes parents always want their children to grow up according to their own standards, but they forget that parents' growth is also synchronized with their children.
Time is like flowing water, and the dead are like si.
Parents don't stop growing the moment they become parents, having children doesn't mean that time stands still, so what reason do parents have not to progress?
Mr. Fu Lei, a well-known translator, writer and educator on the mainland, said in the "Fu Lei Family Letter" written to children:
"The most powerful argument in the world is action, and the most effective education is to lead by example; don't ask others to change yourself first."
If parents can maintain a lifelong active learning state, the communication barrier between them and their children will gradually shrink.
In this process, they will subtly influence the child, so that the child also forms a sense of lifelong learning, which is the best word and deed parent can give the child.
Don't ask for what you can't
The three keys to the construction of a person's career are: interests, abilities, and values.
For educating children, it is: interest, do your best to protect; ability, put into deliberate practice; values, parents lead by example.
Among them, values are the deepest and longest parts that parents can influence their children. If you want to educate your next generation, you must first lead by example.
It is the most glorious thing to be a principled self- and a qualified parent, and let your children follow their own example!
Mr. Fu Lei also said:
"The most powerful argument in the world is like practical action, and the most effective education is like leading by example; don't ask others for what you can't do; you must first criticize yourself and change yourself first."
When parents ask their children, they should first think about whether they can do it, don't blindly issue instructions without introspection, even what they can't do, why ask their children?
In ancient times, the famous generals never opened a small stove when marching and fighting, and every meal must be shared with the soldiers, so that the whole army can unite as one;
Modern workplace leaders also pursue upward and downward effects, and constantly encourage employees to create value with their own efforts;
In the education of their children, then, parents must lead by example and not ask their children to accomplish things that their parents themselves cannot do.
A sense of authority, leading by example
Parents always want to establish their own sense of authority in front of their children, and their children's hearts also have a scale, but they only rely on giving orders to discipline their children's parents, and they cannot get the child's sincere respect and love.
Truly good education is never forced indoctrination, but parents lead by example, nourish with love, and lead children to achieve their own lives with a normal heart.
And the sense of authority is the natural added value that can be brought by leading by example, when you can lead by example, you are an authoritative figure in the eyes of your child.
Without leading by example, even the harshest rebukes are pale and weak.
Learn to be a candle that illuminates your child, not a judge who judges right and wrong; lead by example instead of nitpicking; solve problems instead of creating trouble.
Parents are the best teachers for children, and children are good at imitating their parents, so parents should lead by example and make themselves role models for their children.
Companionship, communication, mutual respect, each achieving their own achievements.
Some people say that parents and children are the relationship between originals and copies.
Perhaps, we cannot choose our own native family, but we can choose what kind of birth family to give our children.
Lead by example, start with your parents, and give your child a lifelong gift.
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