Night reading | the best friendship: it starts with interest, loyalty to character, and longevity with sincerity

Text/Confucian Fengjun Yijian Meiqin

The sea of people is vast, and the best thing in the world is to make friends with three or five people.

Those friends who can accompany us throughout our lives often begin with interest, loyalty to character, and longevity.

It is our good fortune to meet such a friend.

It starts with interest

Li Bai, 26 years old, admired his "idol" Meng Haoran for a long time. Knowing that Meng Haoran was living in seclusion in Xiangyang, he went to visit.

At this time, Meng Haoran was 38 years old and had become famous in the poetry world. The same is a teenager living in seclusion, both literary and martial, the two have similar interests, see the same thing, often sing to the wine, see each other and hate late.

At this time, Li Bai wrote "Gift to Meng Haoran" to show his true feelings: "I love Meng Fuzi, and the world is full of winds. The red face abandons the crown, and the white head lies in the pine cloud. ”

In his eyes, Meng Haoran is a talented and brilliant person. The same official frustration, ambition is not rewarded, in each other's eyes, they see another self.

The following year, in March, the two met again at the Yellow Crane Tower. Meng Haoran was going to Guangling, and Li Bai personally sent it to the riverside, writing down "The lone sail is far away and the blue sky is exhausted, only to see the skyline of the Yangtze River", feeling thousands of ways to leave.

Life is geometric, how fortunate to meet like-minded people!

He appreciates your talent, you know his difficulties; he helps you through the difficulties, and you are willing to work hard for him. Each enriched their lives with sincerity.

I have heard a saying: "The happiest thing in life is to meet a person who understands you, without a thousand words, and already has a sharp mind."

Those true friends in life, at the moment of encounter, seem to be doomed for a lifetime. Each other's hearts have long understood each other, and they have long been united.

Be loyal to character

Interacting with people with good character can always feel full of kindness, they make people feel reliable and reliable, and people unconsciously want to get closer.

Yan Zi, a diplomat of the State of Qi during the Spring and Autumn Period, treated his friends with respect and courtesy.

Beiguo Sao was a famous scholar of the State of Qi at the same time as Yan Zi. Due to the poverty of his family, Beiguo Sao was unable to serve his elderly mother, so he went to visit Yanzi, hoping to get some grain and be able to support his mother.

Yan Zi had long heard of the great name of BeiguoSao, and not only warmly received Beiguosao, but also gave him a lot of grain and money when he left. Beiguo Sao refused the money and accepted the grain. The two have since become very good friends.

Soon after, Yan Zi was rumored to be jealous by Qi Jinggong and fled to other countries.

Before leaving, Yan Zi passed by Beiguo Sao's house and came in to say goodbye. Yan Zi told the story of the incident, and Beiguo Sao only said "Please take care of yourself" and then stopped talking. Yan Zi was a little lost and left silently.

Who knows, after Yanzi left, Beiguo Sao found his friend and said to him, "I admire Yanzi's morality and fellowship with him." Now that he is being unjustly suspected, I will use my life to clear his name. ”

After that, Beiguo Sao went to the imperial palace to meet Qi Jinggong. He said: "Yan Bao is a well-known sage in the world, because he is in other countries, afraid and dare not invade." If he perished, the state of Qi would be violated. I don't want to see the lives of the country ruined, and I am willing to use my life to clear the grievances of Yanzi." Say it, draw your sword and kill yourself.

Qi Jinggong saw this scene and regretted it very much. Personally drove around the border to recover Yanzi.

Throughout the ages, the so-called true friends, the most important thing is to look at the character.

Not everyone can become a "big person", but the good character of the body can at least allow themselves to harvest a long-term stable relationship, meet a beautiful person, and grow together.

The journey of life is very long, do not go alone, but walk side by side with down-to-earth people.

Longer than sincerity

In life, people interact with each other and can go to the end with a sincere heart.

A true friend, the words may not be too much, but when it comes to things, he is never absent. In times of crisis, he desperately plunges a knife into your ribs; when he is sad, he accompanies you to share your worries and solve your problems.

Fu Lei and Huang Binhong, one is a translator, and the other is a master of the art world. The difference between the two is 43 years, but they are a real pair of forgetful friends.

Huang Binhong has been diligent in painting before, but his works have not been understood and accepted. Fu Lei likes to study Chinese painting, generally criticizing and criticizing, but he only loves Huang Binhong's paintings.

The two often exchanged letters, and Huang Binhong gave a large number of his paintings to Fu Lei, more than 60 paintings, which is extremely rare in the history of painting. Fu Lei wrote 121 letters to Huang Binhong, which was the most he wrote to others besides to his son Fu Cong.

The most touching thing is that when Huang Binhong was 80 years old, Fu Lei also actively ran and held his first solo exhibition for him.

Fu Lei also wrote a 4,700-word introduction to the exhibition, explaining in detail Huang Binhong's painting characteristics and artistic style. The exhibition was ultimately a great success.

Some people say: "The most beautiful relationship between friends is the icing on the cake; the most precious thing is to send charcoal in the snow; the best among friends is like good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not fragrant, slowly wafting, like a long stream of water." ”

Good friendship, like a long light, illuminates each other's long life path.

People live a lifetime, they know many people, and there are not many people who can make deep friends. If you can take care of each other, you must cherish it.