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Accept yourself
In the Spring and Autumn Period, Yan Bao was particularly short, only half the height of ordinary people.
But Yan Baby never inferiorized herself, but studied hard, and fully tapped the advantages of language, step by step to achieve the Xiangguo of the Qi Country.
He went out to visit the Chu Kingdom, but the King of Chu Ling opened a dog hole on the side of the city gate to let Yan Baby enter the city.
Yan Bao replied unashamedly: Only when you go to the dog country, you will drill a dog hole. Is the current scene the hospitality of the Chu State, or is it that in the heart of the Chu State, it is no different from the beast?
The king of Chu was ashamed and had to respectfully welcome the baby into the city.
Some people say that a person is strong not because he has overcome others, but because he has accepted himself.
This sentence can be called a portrayal of Yan Zi: not angry by humiliation, not panicked by danger, although he is short in stature, he has become a famous person who stands tall in the eyes of the world!
There is no garbage in this world, only misplaced treasures. The so-called shortcomings in the eyes of the world are precisely the characteristics of each person.
Fate never favors one over the other, the premise is to accept oneself.
Psychology believes that accepting oneself is done with these six words: allow, discover, and dig.
Be able to allow yourself to be different from others and appreciate your unique self; be able to discover your own characteristics, use their strengths, and avoid their shortcomings; be able to tap more possibilities, find more windows, and open the door of life.
There are thousands of fireworks in the world, it is not as good as a touch of brilliance.
I am who I am, fireworks of different colors.
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Move forward at your own pace
More than 170 years ago, a 28-year-old American young man carrying an axe came to the White Pine Forest on the shores of Lake Walden.
In the next two years, he accompanied the mountains and rivers and stars, talked with the fish of Asuka Lake, and used ethereal brushstrokes to write the bitterness and pleasure of seclusion into a collection of essays "Walden Lake".
And this person who runs counter to mainstream society and dares to go against the current is the "naturalist" - Henry David Thoreau.
Thoreau once said that a person can only succeed if he moves in the direction of his dreams and strives to live the life he wants.
Thoreau lived in an era when the economic development of the United States was on the rise in the 19th century, and the whole society made great strides towards industrial civilization.
In the turbulent era, everyone chases after me on the track of life. Some people see the opportunity, quickly accumulate wealth, and lead the times; some people keep their ancestral business and barely fall behind; some people return to their hometowns to cultivate land and directly give up catching up; and some people, no matter how hard they try, are far behind.
Thoreau is the "jogger" who is left behind, and the "poor man" who can never run in front.
After graduating from Harvard, Thoreau worked as a newspaper reporter, but the manuscript was never approved by the editor-in-chief; he followed his brother to run a private school, but he went bankrupt due to poor management, and later he followed his father to make pencils, which finally made small achievements, but he took the initiative to give up.
For Thoreau, whether it was a farmer, a merchant, a teacher, or a surveyor, it was not his ideal.
In his view, the most important thing in life is not to surpass others, but to run out of their own rhythm.
In the arena of life, everyone's rhythm is different. On the road to success, there may be a difference between fast and slow, but as long as you take life seriously, the meaning of life is not high or low.
A reader once wrote to Thoreau after reading Walden, saying that he wanted to follow in his footsteps and go to the wild to live alone.
Unexpectedly, Thoreau resolutely refused, there are no two identical leaves in this world, and there are no two identical people.
Only by taking our own path and being at our own pace can we live this life well.
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Don't live in other people's judgments
"Zhuangzi" tells such a story: Peng wants to fly to the South China Sea thousands of miles away, and the cicada and the little spotted dove laugh at it, saying: We fly hard, and when we touch the elm and sandalwood trees, we stop, sometimes we can't fly up, and we just fall on the ground. Why fly 90,000 miles to the South China Sea?
Everyone has a different understanding of life and pursues different pursuits. Your scale is not someone else's scale, other people's opinions do not represent your point of view, don't let other people's opinions affect your life.
It is wisdom not to live in the judgment of others. As long as it doesn't involve principles of right or wrong, listen to what others say. You can't make everyone satisfied, so why should you wronged yourself for others?
People don't have to live in the judgment of others. A good life is not for others to see, and do not have to care about the eyes and expectations of others, living happily is more important than anything.
As Sheng Minglan, the "sober in the world" in "Knowing or Not", said: The board is not hit on oneself, and it is never known that it hurts.
Others are not you, and other people's evaluations may be mixed with subjectivity, even interests. People live one life, and no matter how important others are, they are far less important than yourself. Others will always be bystanders in your life, and only you are the one at the helm of your life.
Wang Anshi said: Those who love themselves, the end of benevolence, can be pushed to love others.
Loving oneself is the source of one's happiness, and it is also the beginning of respecting others by oneself and others.
Every day that has not danced is a failure of life. People live for one lifetime, but more than 30,000 days, loving themselves and living for themselves is the greatest respect for life.