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As the saying goes, "Cross yourself, cross yourself." ”
In a person's destiny, he can always meet the "ferryman". However, we still hear many people complaining that they are helpless and that the world is full of indifferent people.
In fact, the person who really crosses you will not always be good to you, but will treat you in the following ways and make you feel very uncomfortable.
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First, criticize you and make you awaken.
There is a word called "drink when the head sticks". When you are flaunting your might, someone immediately pokes your weakness, so that you have to bow your head and re-recognize yourself.
A lot of times, we're surrounded by a lot of people, most of whom like to say nice things and flatter. Only a very small number of people will say "wind and cool words".
Hearing criticism is like a needle in the skin, and neither of them is pleasant. But after thinking about it later, there is nothing wrong with the principle that "it is better to be loyal to the ear than to act".
In the spring and autumn, Qi Jinggong went out to play, stood next to Zishui, and said with emotion: "It is really happy to leave the country of Qi to his descendants." ”
Minister Yan Zi said smoothly: "If the government decree is not smooth, everyone likes to live a luxurious life." Think about it, the elderly Duke Qi Huan appointed such a villain as Shu Diao to overeat and drink, and as a result, after his death, burial became a problem. As the saying goes, there is no beginning, and there is an end. ”
Playing is a happy thing, but being criticized along the way is not happy. Therefore, many people will "lose their hearts" and end the trip early.
When you are happy, it is easier to accept criticism from others. Yan Zi also really seized the opportunity and taught Qi Jinggong a lesson.
Remember, all hypocritical words are used to confuse you. Only criticism will make you sober and get out of the social misunderstanding.
Stay awake and know what you're going to do, and action will be more effective and more likely to be successful.
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Second, stop you and make you frustrated.
When I was a child, I learned a riddle: square a brick, reading a book encountered a roadblock, have it to help do not worry.
The bottom line is: dictionaries.
From the riddle, we can see a truth - all the problems are solved, but we must be good at borrowing the wisdom of others. When you solve the problem, look back, those who are difficult for you will make you wise.
In life, everyone wants to have a smooth sailing, but there are always times when you have to go against the wind. Therefore, we must have reverse thinking and the courage to retreat from the rapids.
The people who have been encouraging you to move forward and supporting all your decisions seem to be helping you, but they are actually "encouraging" you and making you too bold.
The person who really crosses you will hinder you, pull you not to make mistakes, and make you "turn back".
At the end of the Spring and Autumn Period, Fu Cha, the king of the State of Wu, led troops to attack the State of Qi. Minister Wu Zixu said, "Great King, no. This is the practice of giving up the near and seeking the far, if you go out, the Yue King next door will take advantage of the void at any time. ”
Fu Cha did not heed the advice and fought a victorious battle in the state of Qi, but the state of Wu was attacked by the state of Yue, and eventually failed.
When someone stops you, stop and think. Why is that? Why? What are the consequences of doing things? Ask yourself more questions, communicate more, and you will know how to do it.
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Third, test you and make you sad.
There is a kind of person who makes things difficult for you again and again, and even "makes unreasonable trouble". You're going to treat these people like little people.
In the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", the story of Guan Yu's "passing five levels and cutting six generals" is told. Thus, it sets off the tall image of a general.
If you take "passing" as a test and survive again and again, it is inevitable that you will become a general. This is the "wisdom of the ferryman.".
There is a story: Jiang Ziya was fishing in the river, and King Wen of Zhou found that he was different, so he took the initiative to come forward to greet him.
After a detailed conversation, King Wen of Zhou decided to appoint Jiang Ziya. What is incomprehensible is that Jiang Ziya asked King Zhou Wen to carry himself on his back. It was obviously a disgrace for a monarch to bow his back and bend his knees, but King Wen of Zhou complied.
If you want help from others, how can you just say a word or two? You have to show your sincerity and stand the test of the other party.
When going to school, every additional grade is a pass, and the middle school entrance examination and the college entrance examination are important thresholds. Out of school, to find a job, to jump ship, to earn money to support the family, or to pass.
After many times, you finally mature and retire. Therefore, when you look back, you have to thank the people who set the threshold, they are making you better and helping you live a happy life.
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Third, secretly help you and make you feel ashamed.
Actors Wu Mengda and Zhou Runfa are classmates and friends.
When Wu Mengda first debuted, he liked to gamble money, so he was heavily in debt. He asked Zhou Runfa to borrow money, but was refused.
After a while, someone asked Wu Mengda to go filming. By their own labor, they earned money and paid off debts. Wu Mengda knew that the work of filming was recommended by Zhou Runfa.
Because of a quiet help, Wu Mengda really understood friendship, knew how to be a person, and has since stayed away from gambling and stepped onto the peak of his career step by step.
In fact, as ordinary people, we will also be ashamed of our parents, teachers, and lovers. Because of the guilt in my heart, I always remember the good of the other party, and then think, at some point, to repay the other party.
Guilt, in a way, is the source of gratitude.
The perception that "the son wants to be raised but does not wait" will make people beat their chests, and will also make people cherish the blood more and treat their relatives who are still alive.
In this life, if you don't owe anything, you have no human touch.
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"If fate were a lonely river, who would be your soul ferryman?"
How to "ferry people"? It is to use a small boat to send people with ideals to the other side. Along the way, the waves are terrifying, facing the wind and rain.
Ups and downs are life, you don't refuse to hurt, difficult, ditch, criticism, etc., because you have survived these "lows", you have the later "peak".
There are many ways to cross people, "love" is the appearance, "pain" is the truth.
Let's ride through the wind and rain and meet the rainbow together.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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