It is these little things in life that embody the filial piety of children who know how to repay gratitude!

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How to correctly understand "morning is provincial, dusk is fixed"?

Is the "morning and evening province" obsolete in modern society? No. It is these little things in life that embody the filial piety of children who know how to repay kindness.

Think about when we were young, who was able to take care of us day and night? Who can do us not sleep at night? We wet the bed, the bed is wet, who puts us in a dry place, but he himself sleeps in a wet place? We make a lot of noise at night, constantly crying, who takes care of us meticulously, never abandons us? From these details, we can understand that the kindness of our parents to us is really higher than the mountain and deeper than the sea. Now that our parents are getting older, shouldn't we also give back to our parents and repay their parents' nurturing grace? "Morning is provincial, dusk is fixed" is this filial piety that we should fulfill as children. However, not only have we not been able to do it today, but quite the opposite. In the morning, most of the parents call their children up, and the children are too annoyed by their parents. Many parents, they are very sorry that their children are not filial piety. Why not filial piety? I did not receive these correct traditional cultural education since I was a child, and it is also natural that I will not be filial piety when I grow up.

◆ "Three Provinces of King Wen": When King Wen of Zhou served his father, he was very considerate everywhere, and went to his father three times a day to greet him. When asked if his father was in good health, King Wen was very relieved; if his father was unwell, King Wen was very worried in his heart, so he must take care of his father, and even sleep at night, and he could not get dressed, until his father's health improved, King Wen's heart was settled, which is the famous "Three Provinces of King Wen". The reason why King Wen was praised by Confucius as a saint was that he did have that kind of pure filial piety. The filial piety and filial piety of the ancients, we have seen it today, although we also deeply feel that the current environment is indeed different from the ancients, but we can imitate their spirit. What kind of spirit? Caring for the spirit of parents. If we go in this direction, it can also be regarded as filial piety. Although these things are very small, those who can persist in doing so have rare and valuable qualities. As long as we carefully experience the needs of our parents' lives, in fact, there are opportunities to repay our parents everywhere.

How to achieve "morning is provincial, dusk is fixed"?

First, "morning and evening" focuses on the intention, and the form of expression can be determined according to the specific situation.

The intention is to make parents feel very relieved and comfortable and stable. The form of expression can achieve this intention through dialogue, heart-to-heart talk, messages, letters, telephone calls, etc.

Second, there are often big family gatherings.

Parents can lead their children to greet their elders, and grandparents will of course be happier when they see their grandchildren coming. We know that the elderly are older and often lonely, and every day we can face the elders with a smiley face, and in the face of parents, parents will be very happy. However, if we look at today's environment, almost the elderly rarely live with their children, and many elderly people are sent to nursing homes, many of whom are not very happy. Therefore, as a child, even if there is no way to live with their parents, they must always think about their parents' lives, and they should dial a phone to greet their parents when they have time. Holidays should also bring their children back to visit and make parents happy. Back at home, I can cook delicious small dishes for my parents, and I believe that my parents will be very happy to eat. Even if he can't live with his children, he will feel that life is quite happy.

Third, start small.

Don't think that "morning is provincial, dusk is fixed", are some small things, as if it does not matter, you must know that the character and ability to do big things are cultivated from many small things. Lao Tzu once told us that "the platform of the nine floors begins with tired soil; the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step", which tells you how high-rise buildings started? Little by little, little by little, sand and stone have accumulated; you have to walk thousands of miles and have to take it step by step, and you can't jump over it at once. Therefore, to do big things, we must first train from small things, and to cultivate great virtue, we must cultivate in small behaviors, and the ancients said that "do not do anything with kindness and smallness" is this truth.

Why should we do "out of the truth, the opposite must be faced"?

First, this is the necessary courtesy of being a child, and it is also the embodiment of filial piety.

This sentence teaches us to always have our parents in our hearts. A filial piety often has parents in his heart, and naturally has the behavior of "going out and telling, and facing the opposite". If you don't have your parents in your heart, you will only think about your own affairs, you are likely to ignore these details, how can you remember to say hello to your parents before going out, or come back to the house to say hello to your parents? As a result, his parents did not know where he was, waited for a long time and did not hear from him, and was very worried at home. When you get home, you don't say a word, you may go to the room and close the door, your parents don't know that you are back, and when you come out, you will scare your parents.

Second, it is the return of natural love.

"The mother lives for 100 years, and often worries about 80 children." It is a natural nature for a parent to remember the heart of his children, no one has taught him, he himself does not have to think about his children, this is a natural love, a natural love. We who are children should give the same reward to our parents. Confucius said: "Parents are here, not far to travel, and there will be a good way to travel." "When your parents are at home, if you have something to go out, you must first tell your parents, especially now that the social environment is very complicated, and the security is not as good as before, so we must tell our parents where to go and when to come back, and we must not let our parents worry about our whereabouts."

◆ "The Price of Life, Painful Lessons": Near the summer vacation, a primary school teacher notified students to take a half-day vacation the next afternoon, and asked students to inform their parents. However, two students did not notify their parents according to the teacher's request, went to the river with their friends to swim without authorization, fell into the deep water, and never came up again... Because the two of them did not do "out of the must be told, the opposite must be faced", so they did not get the parents' timely care, until the parents did not see the child go home at night to find out that there was an accident, but it was too late! There is also a child, who returned home after school, did not greet his parents, and secretly stuck in his room to play the computer. It was getting late, and his parents thought he hadn't returned from school and called the teacher to ask about the situation. The teacher told her that it was time to get home after class, and the mother was very anxious to call everywhere after listening to it, looking for the child. Finally, under the reminder of the teacher, go to the child's room to take a look, and are "swimming" in the network world. The harm of children not having a "negative face" is great. If the parents did not go to his room to see, they hurried out to look around, how can not find, on the road, because of the "panic does not choose the road", it is easy to be hit by the car; perhaps will also make the parents out of the disease; and grandma, grandpa, if the heart is not good, there will be life danger, no matter which of the above conditions occurs, it will be a lifelong regret, and he will become a filial piety!

This article is excerpted from Gu Wenwei's "And a Happy Life"

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