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As the saying goes: "Success is not enough, failure is more than enough." ”
Everyone wants to make things happen, but many people don't find a way to "get things done", just in a daze, and they get old in a flash.
Looking back, you will find that on the road of life, how many grievances you swallow, how many things have been accomplished; how much pressure you have withstood, how much strength you have gathered.
Therefore, the people who can really deal with things are those who can "endure". It was a bit intimidating at the time, and then it was impressive.
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The things in the workplace, endured, calculated.
Confucius said: "If you can't bear it, you will be chaotic and plotting." ”
If you want to make a name for yourself in the workplace, you have to think clearly about how to go every step, what position you want to be in after a few years, and how to surpass others.
In the workplace, everyone comes for the sake of interests, both in secret and intrigue, but also in face-to-face competition and clamor.
When you are not strong enough, or have just entered the workplace, it is inevitable to go through a period of lows. You do a lot of things, but no one approves of you, even because you don't have a clue, every day is busy.
The "Spring and Autumn of the Lü Dynasty" records that in the last year of the Shang Dynasty, King Wen of Zhou served as an errand boy under King Huan. The King of Qiu was dazed and ignorant, and everyone knew it, but no one dared to point it out.
Once, King Wen of Zhou sighed and pointed out the evil deeds of King Huan. His words reached the ears of King Huan, who was furious and wanted to send troops to destroy King Wen of Zhou.
King Wen of Zhou said to king Huan: "If the father does not do a good job, the son still has to be filial to him; the king is at fault, and the courtiers must still be loyal." A soft sentence flattered the king, defused the crisis, and won the time to "store up".
A few years later, King Wen of Zhou's son, King Wu of Zhou, launched the Battle of Muye, and King Huan was destroyed.
People under the eaves had to bow their heads. You are not strong enough, but like to compete with people at the top, you will soon be squeezed out, everyone beware of you, where there is a day to emerge.
Taking the initiative to bow your head is the wisdom of the weak, and it is also the opportunity for the weak to become stronger. Don't do the "pebble with a pebble" thing.
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Social breaks, hold back, and wait and see.
Society is good, but it can't rule out all the "bad people and bad things".
When we mix in society, we will definitely encounter some broken things. The calculation between people, the collusion of villains, etc., when you are not careful, they break into your life. Even if they are friends, they often joke too much because they do not control the scale well.
Lao Tzu said, "The Tao of Heaven is victorious without controversy, and it is good without words." ”
For social things, you have to learn to be quiet and not to have any arguments. After all, most things have nothing to do with you, you fight around, meaningless; some things related to you, argue, small things become big things, and the losses are more serious.
During the Warring States period, King Qi Min was very unfriendly to the emissaries of the Yan Kingdom. King Yan Zhao was very angry and wanted to send an army to attack the state of Qi.
Fan Xuan, the minister of the State of Yan, said, "Don't get angry, just send another emissary and take the initiative to apologize." ”
Therefore, the State of Yan sent emissaries to take the initiative to curry favor with the King of Qi. After a few years, king Qi Tang lost his position as king because of his pride, and fled into the wilderness.
The ancients said, "He who desires to destroy it will be burdened, and he who desires it will be exalted." ”
Destroying a man is not to confront him or criticize him, but to "lift" him up and bring him to the point of "arrogance".
Those who make trouble are so self-righteous that you just have to be quiet, look at them, or give them a smiley face, and you won't be damaged. But people who are keen on breaking things will be proud and complacent, and thus go to extinction.
Of course, those who do bad things can self-reflect and repent in time, and we still have to welcome them, after all, "society needs positive energy."
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Family scandals, endure, treat each other kindly.
In every family, ugly things happen. What we have to do is not complain, not blame, but tolerance. As long as you give enough love to your family, there is nothing that cannot be solved.
After all, a family, broken bones attached to tendons. At critical times, everyone will think of the love.
For example, the child is disobedient and the academic performance is in a mess. Parents should not go around complaining. Otherwise, neighbors and relatives will know and pass on the words to the children at some point. Over time, a child's self-esteem will be hurt and he will no longer be willing to read.
The Book of Shang says, "There will be forbearance, and it will be helpful; and there will be tolerance, and virtue will be great." ”
For things within the family, patience is morality, and it is time for the family to breathe and reflect. A family, there are one or two people who can persist in forbearance, that is, to add "lubricant" to family conflicts, which is not without benefits.
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Troubles in the heart, endure, self-healing.
There is a way, there are troubles every day, and there is nothing to pick up naturally.
How to achieve "not picking up troubles", the key factor is "patience". You go on for hours without thinking about the things that bother you, and you really don't think about it.
"Inertial thinking" tells us that if we read "one, two, three" in a row, then we will count "four, five, six." Because we have some kind of psychological preparation, it is natural for us to make certain moves. If there is bad preparation, it is inevitable that there will be wild thoughts.
Seeing the weakness of "thinking" clearly, you will look at the troubles in your heart and you will understand - endure, have nothing to do in your heart, and live a relaxed life.
Many things are doomed to not make sense, so don't think about it, just fine. You control your mind, and your heart becomes strong, and everything can be tolerated.
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If things cannot be tolerated, life will enter the "autumn of troubles", and we should be cautious and cautious.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, King Zhuang of Chu sent emissaries to the State of Qi, passing through the State of Song. Because there was no greeting beforehand, Song Zhaogong was very angry and intercepted the messenger. King Zhuang of Chu was furious and sent troops to besiege the Song kingdom for nine months, resulting in a shortage of food and water in the Song kingdom, and the people were not happy.
There is a way that the mantis arm is a car, not self-measured. Song Zhaogong overestimated his own strength and also reflected his "careful eyes", so the masses followed him to suffer, because they could not bear it, and the evil consequences brought about.
In the "Little Window Youji", it is written: "One's own feelings must not be indulged, and when the law of rebellion is used, the way is in a word of forbearance." Human feelings should not be whisked, and when the legal system of obedience is used, its way is in a word of forgiveness. ”
Can't bear anything, this is to indulge their desires and greed, if you want to turn the situation around, you must learn to "endure". If something has already happened, add the word "forgiveness" after the word "forbearance."
Remember: Forbearance, there is a blade in the heart; forgiveness, the heart is born.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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