Tail sheng hugging pillar, or can be called "faith"; Song Gong Boji, what is it?

Tail sheng hugging pillar, or can be called "faith"; Song Gong Boji, what is it?

Qiao Zhifeng

The story of "Ozai holding the pillar" has been rumored to be a beautiful talk for thousands of years, and Ozai has also become a representative of "keeping promises and keeping promises".

The plot of the story is very simple, that is, in the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a young man named Ozai, who met with the woman he liked under the bridge, waited for a long time, and the girl did not arrive. At this time, the water rose, and in order to keep the promise of "not seeing and not dispersing", Ozai resolutely refused to leave, and later drowned with the bridge pillar. "National Policy Yan Ce I" said: "Faith is like tail life, honesty is like Boyi, filial piety is like Zengsan, and the three are the highest deeds in the world." "Juxtaposing Ozai with Boyi and Zengshan, the evaluation is quite high."

However, presumably, many friends will not say it in their mouths, and they will also mutter in their hearts: It is better to drown than leave the bridge, and the letter is believed, is it a bit pedantic? Is it worth dying for this? Life is the first, people at that time, did not carry out "life education" for young people?

A gentleman does not stand under a dangerous wall and does not take risks, if Ozai knows how to be flexible, cherish life, and temporarily flee to a high place to avoid the water, he will certainly not drown, and there will not be many people who are unkind, so blame him. He may have been truly in love with the girl he was dating, but I don't know if he had considered it, he was dead, so why should the girl be embarrassed?

Personally, I strongly disagree with the promotion of this "one-piece" archetype. If everyone is "axis" like this, I am afraid that every day someone will fight with themselves for a trivial matter, and then lose their lives.

In any case, although the tail student is unwise, it seems that in essence, it can also be classified as "keeping promises". And Liu Xiang's "Song Gong Boji", which was hyped up in "The Biography of the Daughters of Lie", not only made people "mourn their misfortune", but also "angry at them".

"Song Gong Boji", that is not the daughter of an ordinary person, but the daughter of Lu Xuangong and the sister of Lu Chenggong, golden branches and jade leaves, expensive. Under the operation of her mother Miao Jiang, "Song Gong Boji" married Song Gonggong. Obviously, this is a political marriage, playing the old routine of "peace and affinity". Who let the country of Lu be weak and small, and to survive in the cracks of the big country?

"Song Gong Boji" was born in the country of Lu, where is the country of Lu? In the hometown of The Most Holy Ancestor Kong Sheng, the admiration for feudal etiquette will inevitably be a little stronger than in other places. "Song Gong Boji" has been influenced by this since childhood, and the set of feudal scum of "female morality" is deeply imprinted into every cell, deeply rooted and unbreakable.

At the time of marriage, because Song Gonggong did not follow the etiquette to personally greet his relatives, "Song Gongboji" was extremely annoyed, and was forced to leave for the Song Kingdom by the order of his parents. It can be imagined that at that time, her parents spent a lot of effort in order to do her ideological work, they must have been moved by emotion and reason, and what kind of big truth such as "taking into account the overall situation" must not be less to say, after all, Song Guo was still a bit powerful at that time, and it had a lot of benefits to Lu Guo by having a nepotistic relationship with Song Guo.

"Song Gong Boji" reluctantly came to the Song Kingdom and continued to play with sex. Three months later, according to the marriage process at that time, it was necessary to "see the temple", that is, the bride went to the husband's ancestral temple under the guidance of the groom, which was considered to be officially married. "Song Gong Boji" hates Song Gonggong for not marrying himself personally, you play the first year, I will engage in fifteen, and resolutely refuse to "see the temple".

Song Guo was tossed by this aunt and had no temper, so he had to send someone to Lu Guo for help. Lu Guo then sent his doctor Ji Wenzi to send a special envoy to the Song Kingdom to convey his parents' orders to "Song Gong Boji". Later, "Song Gong Boji" should have submitted, because after Ji Wenzi returned, Lu Xuangong and Miao Jiang both expressed their gratitude. At the same time, this also shows from one side that the success of the marriage between the two countries is really important to the country of Lu.

After another ten years, Song Gonggong died, and "Song GongBoji" became a widow at a young age.

When song Jinggong arrived, the house where the widowed "Song Gong Boji" lived suddenly encountered a fire. Fortunately, the fire was not too big at first, and the people who served her advised her to go out and avoid the fire. "Song Gong Boji" said: "The righteousness of the woman, the protection of fu is not complete, do not go to the church at night, wait for the protection of Fu to come." ”

What does this mean? It turned out that there were requirements for women at that time, and when they went out at night, they must be accompanied by the two guards, otherwise the rules would be broken.

Bao, referring to the nanny mother, was an elderly woman who was responsible for counseling and nurturing the children of nobles in ancient times; Fu, referring to Fu Mother, was a concubine who was responsible for raising children in the ancient court or noble family. In short, two middle-aged and elderly women.

It is conceivable that such a request is nothing more than to restrict women's freedom of movement and prevent them from coming and going at will at night and causing any kind of affair. Bao Fu is not only a companion, but also plays a role in surveillance and supervision. Moreover, arranging for Bao and Fu to be alone was not at ease, and both of them must be present to prevent one person from being bribed for personal gain.

The eyebrows burned, and "Song Gong Boji" still refused to go out, because Bao Fu had not yet come. After a while, the nanny arrived, and the mother did not know whether she lived far away or for other reasons, but she still did not appear. The next people once again persuaded: Madame still avoid the fire first! "Song Gong Boji" was still unmoved, and her attitude was very resolute: the woman's rule was that if Fu Mu did not arrive, she could not go out at night. Instead of living unruly, I would rather be burned to death than keep the way of women.

As a result, she sat righteously in the house, allowing the raging fire to engulf herself and burn her alive.

When I first read "The Biography of the Daughters of Lie", I was shocked when I read this section. Rules are dead, people are alive, for a so-called rule to die, how is the difference between suicide?

What's more, the rules observed by "Song Gong Boji" are actually the shackles imposed on women by the patriarchal society, and they are unreasonable harm and restrictions on women. Is it stubbornness or ignorance to regard such rules as more important than life, or even to take one's own life to resolutely "defend"? This brain has been washed thoroughly.

But at that time, "Song Gong Boji" was highly praised - Bo Ji's wife was exhausted. She was hailed as a "virtuous boji" and became a model of chastity for women to learn from. Even when the monarchs of other princely states heard about this, they were very touched and held a solemn gathering in this place of Liaoyuan to express their deep condolences to "Song Gong Boji". Later, the advanced deeds of "Song Gong Boji" were also recorded in detail in a variety of classics, all of which were full of praise such as "Shu Cautious Er, not ashamed of Yi".

Tail sheng hugging pillar, or can be called "faith"; "Song Gong Boji", what can be counted? She acted like "suicide", but in essence she actually died of "he killing"—the harsh feudal etiquette and the ideological imprisonment of women, which killed her.

As for those ruling classes, why they should praise such ignorant and cruel things, and why they are gathering to mourn and erect monuments for it, it is actually easy to understand, but it is just the need to maintain feudal etiquette and strengthen the control of women's brainwashing. If all women, like "Song Gong Boji", consciously and voluntarily maintain the supremacy of feudal etiquette and are willing to "martyrdom" for feudal etiquette and women's morality, male power and rulers can sit back and relax, do not have to worry about women's self-consciousness awakening, and pursue freedom, autonomy and equality.