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Zen master Zongyan said: "The birth and death of a person is like a drop of water, and the life of the people is destroyed, and it returns to the water." ”
Life is like a drop of water, starting from springs, mountain streams, experiencing streams and rivers, and returning to the sea. When you get to the sea, your life is over. If, in the future, the water droplets evaporate, become clouds, and float to the land, then it is the next life.
Regarding life and death, it is very indifferent to say, after all, no one can hide. However, when life reaches the threshold of life and death, or is approaching the threshold, it is inevitable that it will be anxious.
In the novel "Alive", it is said: "You must not be confused, the dead still want to come back to life, and you can't die as a big living person." ”
It is not difficult to find that wanting to live well is the long-cherished wish of everyone, but many people turn their lives into a mess because they are afraid of life and death. As long as you adjust yourself and live naturally, the quality of life can be improved.
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First, people are old and can't walk, so they must let go of their inner fears and remain calm.
Before his death, Confucius said, "Yesterday, at dusk, I sat on the two pillars of idleness, and gave the first Yin people." ”
He had a dream, knew his ins and outs, and then talked peacefully with his student Zigong.
"Murphy's Law" tells us that the more you are afraid of something, the more it will happen. Bad things, when they take root in your heart, will continue to get bad.
When you have sunshine and spring in your heart, the days when you can't move, there will also be warmth, and you will get more love.
It is conceivable that an old man with a smile on his face is more popular than an old man with a sad face. Young people like to listen to good words and look good.
We come into this world because we are related to the "world"; when we return, we are separated from the world, and at the same time, all suffering is liberated, which is not a bad thing.
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Second, when people are old and can't walk, they must take the initiative to arrange the aftermath and bid farewell with dignity.
Before Zhuangzi died, his disciples prepared a very valuable coffin for him, saying: "I take heaven and earth as a coffin, the sun and the moon as a continuous bibi, the stars as pearls, and all things as gifts." ”
In the face of life and death, you can also talk to your disciples about philosophy and tell everyone that you should treat the elderly with a generous and thin burial, and do not vigorously handle it after the old man's death.
Happiness belongs to everyone, but it really belongs to the "later generations". If it is a deceased person, resulting in large household expenses, it is obviously a drag on future generations.
When Zhuangzi was young, he refused to go to the imperial court as an official, and said that he would be a free turtle in the mud and not a turtle shell to be enshrined.
Zhuangzi, who has been indifferent to fame and fortune all his life, has been admired by countless descendants, which is the real "farewell".
There is a very familiar saying: "Some people are alive, he is dead; Some people are dead, he's alive. ”
At any time, you must have the spirit, do not let your ugliness be laughed at by outsiders.
Talk to the juniors about their wishes and talk about life. In the future, the younger generations will do the same, and your good practices can be spread in the family, thus forming a good family style.
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Third, when people are old and cannot move, they must let go of all interests and grievances and live simply.
From the time we can remember, there are always some people who will disgust us, and there are also some people who hurt each other. The enmity between people, in the final analysis, is the struggle of interests. At the same time, our hearts will also have some desires, hoping to get money and status.
There is a saying that goes: "A man dies like a lamp goes out." ”
Everything has turned out to be nothing, and you are still calculating with others, which is obviously superfluous. The inner thoughts are simple, and you can shake hands with the enemy, and your pattern becomes bigger. And you didn't leave the hatred to the next generation.
In the spring and autumn, Qi Jinggong went to Niushan to play, saw the vast wilderness of the Qi country, and said with tears in his eyes: "I am a monarch, if I don't die forever, it will be good." ”
Minister YanZi replied, "If your wish comes true, then your elder Duke Qi Huan is still alive, how did you become the monarch?" Because there is life and death, so the position of the king, it is your turn. ”
Qi Jinggong had an epiphany, and then he smiled.
When a person's heart has no desire, life will be peaceful. People are old, can't walk, it doesn't matter, the heart is still happy, three meals a day is still happy.
In the twilight of life, confused because of some "dead do not take away" things, too ignorant.
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Fourth, people are old and can't walk, so they must care about their wives and keep the true feelings of a lifetime.
"When you're old and your hair is gray, when you're drowsy, when you're old, you can't walk, you snooze by the fire, and you remember your youth."
A few popular lyrics let us see the beauty of dusk, but also let us look forward to the love of a lifetime. In the last days of life, we can still have a wife around, be able to chat, recall the joy of having children, and the emotions of the first encounter, which can make us forget the pain.
Before my second aunt passed away, I used to say to my second uncle, "In this life, I am fortunate to have you." I went first, it was a blessing. ”
On the issue of twilight love, the second aunt said not to deliberately block it. If you can have the right person, you can accept it calmly, after all, two people get along, so that there is no loneliness.
Yes, the person who went first got the best care of his wife, which is a sign of "blessing to old age". If you pick and choose your wife, it will make your wife sad.
Romance knows no age or bondage. Therefore, in front of our wives, we must say nothing and live into the poetry of "death like the quiet beauty of autumn leaves".
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"Alive" said: "As long as the family is together every day, it doesn't matter what blessings." ”
I hope that the children of the world can understand the difficulties of their parents and patiently accompany them in their final days. It is not difficult to deliver meals to parents, but it is difficult to make parents happy.
Know that everyone gets older. Your love for your parents today will come back to you in a few years.
I hope that the elderly in the world can naturally grow old, do not toss life, and do not torture the body. Even if the pain comes, it can cause the pain to fade because of a good attitude.
Family members gathered together, reunited, a hundred times better than a million dollars.
Finally, may you and I, blessed as the East Sea, Shoubi Nanshan.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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