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"Heart and Mind"
May you be one heart and warm thoughts
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Zizhi Tongjian series of stories
The most is the benefit of spring of the year
Qi Jinggong once had a disease of the abdomen and was bedridden for more than ten days.
One night, he had a nightmare about fighting two suns and was defeated.
The next day, when Baby Yan came to the palace to inquire, Qi Jinggong told him about the dream and asked, "Does this indicate that the widow is going to die?" ”
Baby Yan thought about it and said, "Junshang can summon Taibu To divine fortune for you." ”
After saying that, Yan Bao went out of the palace and sent someone to pick up Taibu Indy by car.
When Tai Bu saw Baby Yan, he asked, "Why did Junshang summon me?" ”
Yan Bao told him, "Jun Shang dreamed last night of fighting with two suns and could not win. Junshang suspected that he was going to die, so he asked you to divinate. ”
Tai Bu Listened and said without hesitation, "Then explain it in a good way!" ”
Yan Bao nodded and said, "The disease that Junshang suffers from is yin, and the sun in the dream is yang." One yin cannot defeat two yangs, so it indicates that the disease will be cured, please answer it like this! ”
After Taibu Entered the Palace, he appeased Qi Jinggong according to what Yan Bao said.
After three days, Qi Jinggong's illness was indeed cured.
Qi Jinggong was very happy and wanted to reward Taibu, and Taibu said, "This is not my credit, it was said by the Xiangguo Yan Infant Sect Counselor." ”
When Qi Jinggong heard this, he summoned Yan Bao and wanted to reward him, and Yan Bao said: "The words of the minister must be spoken by TaiBu To have an effect, if the minister himself says, you must not believe it, so this is the merit of Tai Bu, and the minister does not have any merit." ”
Qi Jinggong was very happy, and gave both of them a reward, and praised: "Xiangguo does not compete for the merits of others, and Taibu Does not hide the wisdom of others, they are all benevolent and righteous!" ”
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After reading this story, did you admire Yan Bao's wit?
Originally, it was Yan Bao's idea, but he didn't say it himself, so why let Tai Bu Say it?
This is where Yan Bao excels, knowing that letting Tai Bu, who is a fortune teller, will make it easier for him to be trusted by Qi Jinggong.
This is also a wonderful use for the art industry to specialize.
Just like my son heard their class teacher say a sentence called "there is rain in the sky, and there is disaster in the madness of people", he has been breaking his thoughts and taking it as the most reasonable saying.
Usually, I often remind him that being careful of being too arrogant will make him happy and sad.
But when I said about him, he mostly passed by the wind in his ears, and when their class teacher said a word, he remembered it firmly in his heart.
In ordinary life, although many people now scorn the so-called experts, but in some professional fields, the average person is still more willing to listen to the experts.
What does this law teach us?
When it comes to educating children, adolescent children are rebellious and may not be willing to listen to their parents.
The reason for not listening may be that parents usually dot on their children too much, so that children lose their reverence for their parents.
Another aspect that is very likely is that parents are not experts in solving problems in the eyes of their children.
That is to say, the child has a problem, the parents can not help to solve, and even not only can not help, but also caused more problems for the child.
If both of these aspects exist in the family, the child will never listen to his parents.
In fact, whether it is an adult or a child, you need someone who can help you solve your problems, and the more you can help him solve the problem, the more he will trust you and the more he will listen to you.
That is to say, experts are only a synonym, and the most important thing is the ability to solve problems.
So if the child can't listen to anything the parents say, there are two channels that can be solved, one is to find someone the child trusts more, let that person tell the child what the parents want to say, and will definitely receive a good effect.
Another is that parents should improve their problem-solving ability and have the ability to empathize with their children.
In fact, empathy and the ability to help others, as long as the average person has these two aspects, not only can get the child, life will be unfavorable.
As for how to cultivate empathy and the ability to help others, I think the most important thing is to understand whether you have the ability to love in your heart, when your heart is full of love, rather than dissatisfaction, complaints, pain and other negative emotions, your empathy and ability to help others can naturally be greatly improved.
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